Good Companions Bring out the Best in a Garden

“A weed is a plant whose virtues have not yet been discovered.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Whether we’re talking about people, animals, or plants, a good companion provides some sort of benefit, so with that definition in mind, Companion planting is simply the practice of deliberately planting different types of plants in the same proximity for beneficial reasons (often mutual benefit). It could be to maximize available space, it could be to minimize damage from pests or weeds, it could be to attract pollinators, or to provide habitat to beneficial insects, . . . . any reason that could yield better health or an increase in productivity of plants is reason enough to practice ‘companion planting’. It could be because some plants release chemicals that attract or repel predatory insects, cause or prevent problems or disease, or even enhance or damage soil suitability. It is the best way to maximize the efficiency of your garden.

When referring to the practice on a larger scale, the term is “intercropping“.

Dill and Poppies growing together in the strawberry patch.

Just like people, plants need good companions to be their very best. And just like people, some plants can be real jerks to other plants. We sometimes think that because plants don’t freely move around, they don’t have control over their environment. In actual fact however, like us, plants have communities that are either beneficial to them, or harmful. If left up to nature, a plant (we’ll call her Maggie) may not repeatedly volunteer to live in certain community environments because the bully plants have crowded her out or shaded her from the sun or absorbed a disproportionate amount of water or nutrients from the soil. Some plants actually exude chemicals that hurt or even kill other plants. But Maggie doesn’t have much choice if we deliberately, but innocently choose to PLANT her into a toxic community. Her only option is to respond to the stimuli around her. And that, all plants will do.

If Maggie is planted in a good community with good companion plants around her, her response will be health and happiness. And she will be beautiful – all that nature intends her to be. If she is planted in a toxic community, with bad companion plants around her, she will be sickly, limp, prone to disease, susceptible to certain bugs, or will otherwise demonstrate any number of variances contrary to her best self. You can water her all you want, fertilize her, prune her, say kind things to her, . . . but she is doomed, because you put her in a place where her new neighbours don’t like her, or vice versa.

in the herb garden, Rosemary surrounded by her girlfriends Marigold to the right, Borage to the left, a Poppy at 11:00 and some red orach babies along the top

Plants compete for resources, sunlight, space and nutrients. Certain plants support each other while others simply don’t get along. As the community planner of your garden, you can create peaceful neighbourhoods with good companionships, or ruiness neighbourhoods of plants that are poor companions. Don’t be restrictive while you’re planning your garden community. Diversity is the key. Just like people of all colours and kinds can be great neighbours as long as we’re friendly, flowers, vegetables and herbs can happily rub shoulders with each other in the same neighbourhood of your garden. No longer do vegetables need to be grown in long isolated rows, where pests and disease can transfer easily from plant to plant. Intercropping with good companions can break up some of that.

This is especially important in an urban garden where space is the issue. Many vegetables are pretty enough to be planted in the flower garden and many flowers are helpful enough to be planted among vegetables providing vibrant splashes of colour among the varying shades of garden green. Tomatoes grown among roses. Tulips grown among parsley. Kale plants in the vegetable garden, flower garden, herb garden and tomato patch. Having a veritable Heritage Days Festival in your garden all summer long is good in every single way, for everybody.

my first experience with the concept of companion gardening

In 1982 I had a great idea to experiment with – for potatoes. Dan hasn’t always been big about all my ideas, but he usually goes along with them, which he did that year – much against his inclinations. We collected several used tires. I laid four of them along the south west side of our garage, and planted one potato plant in each. As the potato plant grew, I covered it with soil and added a second tire on top, eventually filling it with soil. Throughout the summer as the potato plants continued to grow above the tire, I continued to add another tire which I then filled with more soil. I am thinking we stacked them each five tires high. The idea was, that each plant would fill up the whole space, all five tires high – with potatoes. I had read of some gardeners who received up to a hundred pounds of potatoes from a single plant, and I was very excited about the prospects. At the same time as this experiment was being conducted, I planted the entire rest of our garden in tomatoes! One hundred tomato plants. Nothing else. The potatoes were surrounded by tomatoes on all sides but the backside which was against the wooden garage wall. I didn’t know much about tomatoes in those days, and I didn’t stake them let alone prune them. They pretty much took care of themselves and just grew. I had intentions of making tomato everything that year. Tomato salsa, tomato sauce, tomato ketchup, and of course canning lots of tomatoes . . . you name it, I planned to do it.

We moved from that house at the end of August, but Dan went back sometime in the following weeks without me to harvest everything. He brought back boxes and boxes of tomatoes, in varying stages of ripeness, but not.a.single.potato. Not a one! He removed all twenty tires, and not a single potato! We were both shocked, and disappointed. He was disgusted. I was perplexed. He swore off doing anything similar in the future, I remained perplexed. There had to be a reason because the theory was sound, and others who had gone before me testified that it had worked for them. There was something amiss; I just couldn’t put my finger on it. I figured I would try it again another year, but first I needed to figure out what happened.

A few years later, I came across an article that said tomato plants inhibit root growth of potatoes. I was shocked. Who knew? I thought of my poor potato plants surrounded by their nemesis, and it opened my eyes to the whole idea of companion gardening. It made sense that one simply shouldn’t plant everything wherever one wanted, and then expect magical results. Shortly afterward, I came across a book sold by Harrowsmith Magazine called CARROTS LOVE TOMATOES: Secrets of Companion Planting for Successful Gardening by Louise Riotte. I bought it and eagerly turned to read about tomatoes and potatoes. In it, author Louise Riotte says “Potatoes do not do well near pumpkin, tomato, raspberry, squash and cucumbers. The presence of these plants apparently lowers the potato’s resistance to blight.” In another chapter she says “Don’t plant [tomatoes] near potatoes, since tomatoes render them more susceptible to potato blight.hmmmmmm I can’t say that I noticed blight on our potatoes, I am not sure I would have known what it was anyway. But I did notice NO potatoes. That was pretty hard to miss. I have searched and searched for confirming information about tomatoes inhibiting root growth of potatoes and have never found it again. I can’t say whether its true or not, but a few things I do know –
1) there are many factors that could have weighed in on the potato misfortune that year,
2) there could very well have been a bad arrangement with the proximity of those poor potato plants growing amongst so many hooligan tomatoes,
3) it was worth trying again from a more informed perspective,
4) I now had a newly awakened interest in plant compatibility.

I wanted to plant potatoes in tires again and many times pitched the idea, but Dan flatly refused to have anything to do with it. His reasoning: “We tried it. It doesn’t work! Learn from our mistakes.” My reasoning: “it didn’t work that time, but there were many factors that could have contributed – like all those tomatoes. Its worth trying again.” But then he threw in that clincher “Old tires in the garden are ugly.” He had me there. He was right. Twenty used tires in an urban garden that was an extension of ones’ back yard – is pretty ugly. I gave up. But its haunted me ever since. It SHOULD have worked.

Another example is the black Walnut tree. I mention in my composting article that there is a toxin produced by the Black Walnut called juglone, which essentially eliminates all competition. Walnuts are not friends with vegetable gardens, and not only do you not want them nearby, you also don’t want to use any part of a walnut tree in compost intended for vegetable gardens.

Sometimes, good companionships make sense when you know the reasons behind their suitability. For others it is like memorizing the periodic table in chemistry. You won’t be able to memorize them all, so don’t even bother, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t employ the science of companion gardening. Albert Einstein is reported to have said “Never memorize  something that you can look up.” Whether he actually said that or not is disputed and really – who cares? I follow the same philosophy though. In this day and age there are many sources to find reliable companion tables. Find one or two. Refer to them while planning your garden. Follow their advice – you have to start somewhere. Learn for yourself and from the experience of others. Make notes. Go forward. Below, I have a list of companions I have found to be beneficial. It is not an exhaustive list. I only have experience with plants I grow. You might want to add some you have already found to be beneficial.

Terms to be aware of when studying companion gardening

Crop Protection: A protective plant can offer protection from weather for more tender plants. Perhaps a tall sturdy plant can shield another plant from wind, or perhaps a bit of shade from scorching sun.

Trap Cropping:  An organic pest management system. Some plants help repel certain pests, while others can be used to lure pests away from more vulnerable plants.

Attracting Pollinators:  Some plants are more attractive to bees, butterflies and other pollinating insects, so planting them in proximity to plants which are less attractive, but who nevertheless still need pollination, is very helpful.

Positive Hosting: Some plants attract predatory insects which can help manage harmful insects.

Neighbours good and bad, in alphabetical order

*Asparagus – Since asparagus plants are perennial, they must stay in one spot every year. That means you must bring other beneficial plants to them. Which is perfect, because asparagus is done by the time other plants start to flourish, so they’re good at sharing the same space. Herbs to plant in your asparagus patch – basil, cilantro, dill, marigold, nasturtiums, oregano, parsley, sage and thyme. Parsley is supposed to be especially good with asparagus, adding vigour to both. Asparagus repels nematodes that can attack tomatoes, so plant a few tomatoes in your asparagus patch. Also, tomatoes repel asparagus beetles. Good neighbours.

In my garden, I have a small patch of asparagus. When it is done, I plant three or four tomatoes in it. I don’t usually plant basil there although its supposed to be good for both, because its too far away for me to pay much attention to, and I prefer to keep a closer eye on my basil, babying it to make sure it gets all it wants. Basil is kind of a ‘princess’ plant.

Basil growing in the tomato patch. Young feverfew growing at 1:00 and 11:00, young kale growing at 7:00.

*Herb Basil – “Basil helps tomatoes with both insects and disease, also improving growth and flavour.” said author Louise Riotte. This is easy for me to remember because they go so well together on the plate. I usually serve them together, especially in the summer when they’re both fresh from the garden.
I have a permanent tomato patch, where I stake up the tomatoes to a permanent trellis. This keeps the tomato off the ground, freeing up space to plant basil, chives, nasturtiums and a few other plants in front of the row. Basil repels tomato horn worm, and is also supposed to repel flies and mosquitoes but I’ve never put it to the test.

*Beans – bush or pole. Bush beans planted among potatoes protect them from the Colorado potato beetle. In return, potatoes are supposed to protect against the bean beetle. All beans fix nitrogen in the soil. Plant them with brassicas (cabbage family like kale), carrots, swiss chard, cucumbers, peas, potatoes, radishes and strawberries.
All beans dislike beets, and ALL plants in the onion family like green onions, leeks, chives and garlic, but especially onions, which impede the growth of bean plants. Beans and onions are like the Hatfields and the McCoys so keep them apart if you don’t want grief between the two of them.

*Bush beans are supposed to do well with moderate amounts of celery. I have never grown celery but I plan to this year. Its recommended to plant one celery plant to every six or seven bean plants. Bush beans also do well with cucumbers.
*Pole beans do well with corn, using it as a ‘pole’. Sadly, they do NOT like sunflowers. I say sadly, because I grow a lot of sunflowers and they seem to be the perfect pole to climb up on. Oh well. Beans derive mutual benefit with radishes.

*Beets – Beets grow well near onions, all members of the cabbage family, garlic, leeks, lettuce and mint. In fact, its even advisable to use mint leaves as a mulch for beets.  

*Herb Borage – This herb is an excellent all around good neighbour. Borage is great planted near tomatoes as it deters the tomato hornworm, and good near brassicas as it repels cabbage moth caterpillars. It is also particularly good planted near strawberries, but maybe a few along the side of the patch is sufficient as they can get kinda tall, and will take too much room in a strawberry patch unless you live in the country and have a big garden. Borage is very attractive to pollinators, so plant it around squash and cucumbers for improved pollination. It’s also excellent for the soil and compost, as it is rich in organic potassium, calcium and other natural minerals. For those who live in rural areas, borage is deer-proof. The leaves are so prickly, they’re almost people proof too.
I have heard recently, that borage juice is delicious, and I’m sure it is, as it has a delicate cucumber flavour. I have tried to eat it in several ways, and the flavour is quite delicious, but its hard to get past the prickly texture. I do however put it in my green smoothies – problem solved. That is an excellent way to benefit from it.

*Brassicas – (broccoliBrussels sproutscabbagecauliflowercollardskalekohlrabiturnip) I’ll be honest here, with the exception of KALE and HORSERADISH, I choose not to grow any of this family. After years of trying every method I heard of that was supposed to eliminate the ugly fat worm/caterpillar things that plague these vegetables, I have never been successful, and worse – I don’t even personally know anyone who has been successful. I finally deduced that the only thing way to prevent those uglies is to use chemicals, and since I choose not to use chemicals in my garden, I’ve decided not to grow them. I do however, still like to eat them, so I will buy them from where I know they grow in non-organic gardens, and I will try not to think about the details.

Apparently, they’re supposed to benefit from aromatic herbs such as chamomile, dill, mint, rosemary and sage, so if you’re gonna give them a try, you might want to keep that in mind. And they shouldn’t be planted near nightshade family vegetables like peppers, tomatoes and potatoes so keep that in mind too. Whatever success you have with brassicas, I’d love to hear about, as I would love to try them again with some degree of hope for a better outcome.

*Herb/flower Calendula (pot marigold) –  Repels a number of unwanted soil nematodes and asparagus beetles, so plant among tomatoes and asparagus. Calendula flowers provide nectar over a long range of time, so it is a perfect attraction for pollinators. It is possible they may attract slugs, so they might be a good trap plant to pull slugs away from leafy green vegetables. I’m thinking I might try growing a few among my lettuce this year to see how that works.

carrots THAT close to green onions or even chives

*Carrots – Carrots should be planted near onions because onions will repel the carrot fly, as well as aphids. Planting side by side, short row after short row is a good thing. I don’t plant long rows of anything. Also, consider planting beans, other members of the onion family, peas, peppers, pole beans, radish, rosemary, sage, lettuce and tomatoes among them. Carrots grow particularly well with lettuce and tomatoes. Carrots release something into the soil that is good for peas, so a good thing to consider as you rotate your vegetables the following year.
CARROTS LOVE TOMATOES!
Tomatoes are known to produce solanine, which is a natural insecticide that targets pests affecting carrot plants. Carrots aerate the soil around the roots of the tomato plants, allowing more air and water to reach the roots.

Carrot enemies are Coriander, Dill and Fennel. They are in the same family, and can cross pollinate with negative results for all involved – everyone knows cousins shouldn’t marry cousins. Coriander, Dill and Fennel also produce compounds that can harm carrot plants, dill in particular, is known to stunt the growth of carrots.

*Celery – I have never grown celery before, but I am determined to grow some this year – encouraged by my friend Myrna Peters. She promises me that they are easy and delicious, and easy + delicious = a winning combination in my books. I read that celery does well with tomatoes, and also with bush beans, lettuce and onion, so I am thinking I’ll be planting a few plants in my tomato patch, my greens patch and a few among my cucumbers. This year will be my celery-experiment year.

*Chives – are reputed to improve the growth and flavour of carrots and tomatoes, so I have several small chive plants planted in my tomato patch. It is also supposed to help repel aphids, and a carrot rust fly, so maybe I’ll plant one among my carrots this year too.
You should avoid growing them too near peas and beans.

*Herb Comfrey – Comfrey is a perennial herb you rarely hear of people growing. It has a deep tap root, so it brings many trace minerals to the surface. It is high in calcium, potassium and phosphorus, rich in vitamins A and C, and the carbon- nitrogen ratio is similar to barnyard manure. Whether that has anything to do with it being referred to as ‘green manure’, I have no idea, but it is often chopped up mid season and used to mulch other plants as well as an excellent green addition to one’s compost. This is exactly how I use it. Although, like most herbs, it likes sun, it is very forgiving when it doesn’t get much. It is hardy and tough. I have mine growing in a very inhospitable spot – a north east corner that is almost completely in the shade. It grows anyway. I let it get three or four feet high then cut it down when Dan is mowing the lawn. He mows over to chop it all up, and I use the resulting mulch in my tomatoes.

It also inhibits grass growth so I’ve read about it being used along a garden border to keep the quack grass out. This sounds brilliant to me, so I intend to plant more comfrey along a perimeter of our fence, where encroaching grass can be a problem. Because it grows so tall, you mostly want to ensure it doesn’t cause shade for any other sun loving plants.

It has been used traditionally as a poultice for surface wounds, and there is modern evidence to support this, as it contains a chemical called allantoin, which is reported to promote the strengthening of organs. Many years ago I tried using a comfrey poultice on some pretty bad road rash after my teenaged daughter fell off her bike. I didn’t put a layer of cloth underneath it, applying it directly to the wound area. (I know right? One of my many regrets as a mom) It ended badly and my lesson was well learned, but my daughter was never too eager to let me try it again, so my experience is limited – sigh.

Although comfrey is an herb I don’t use in the kitchen, or even medicinally, it is still a welcome addition to my garden because of its value as green manure.

*Corn – Does well grown among or near potatoes, and is a good companion to pole beans (which use the stalk to climb), beets, cucumbers, dill, parsley, peas, and squash which grow along the ground while the corn grows straight up. Also a good companion to sunflowers. Amaranth makes a great mulch between rows by competing with weeds and conserving ground moisture.

*Cucumber – Planted near asparagus, beans, celery, corn, dill, kohlrabi, lettuce, onion, peas, radish, and tomatoes, cucumbers are a regular social butterfly in the garden. They like almost everybody, and most everybody likes them. In fact, both corn and sunflowers can act as a trellis. Marigolds and nasturtiums among cucumbers repel aphids and beetles, and nasturtiums are supposed to improve their vigour and flavour. Dill helps by attracting predatory insects like ladybugs. The only ones who don’t seem to get along with cucumbers are potatoes and aromatic herbs like sage. Sigh. There’s always gotta be someone right?

Some gardeners recommend planting two or three radish seeds into every cucumber mound to help repell the notorious cucumber beetle. Some say that has been successful, others have resorted to other ways to get rid of them. I decided that I have everything to gain and nothing to lose by planting a few radishes that I have no intention of harvesting. And I will also do what many recommend, which is to watch for the little devils and knock them off the plant onto a piece of cardboard to dispose of. I hate uglies.

Nematodes are actually an insect that looks like a tiny worm. I know, more uglies. And of course, they like cucumbers. Stupid ugly. In her book CARROTS LOVE TOMATOES, Louise Riotte recommends spraying the plant with sugar water (1/2 cup sugar dissolved in 2 cups water, then diluted with a gallon of water). Evidently, sugars kills the nematodes by drying them out. The sugar also attracts bees, insuring pollination, so it seems its worth doing even if you don’t have a nematode problem.

Another problem I’ve had with cucumbers is stupid cutworms. They’re actually larvae from different moths and look like a curled up caterpillars. Don’t get too caught up in identifying them by colour because they come in assorted colours. They curl up around the stem of a tender new plant and cut it right off. And you’re right – they’re ugly too. Figures. Prevention is the only solution, but there are a couple of things you can do to help prevent the damage.
1) cut a cardboard paper towel or toilet paper roll into 3 inch pieces and use as a collar around the brand new plant. Put about a third into the ground, leaving the other 2/3 above ground.
2) insert a sturdy toothpick or small twig against the plant stem. This will prevent the ugly cutworm from wrapping itself around the stem. If you’re digging in the soil and uncover an ugly that curls itself up, GET RID OF IT!
3) Also, diatomaceous earth. Sprinkling diatomaceous earth in the soil around your cucumbers is supposed to damage the bodies of those stupid uglies. And apparently it does not damage the bodies of earth worms, which have a completely different constitution. I haven’t tried it yet for cucumbers but it worth giving it a try if I ever get a cucumber pest!

*Weed Dandelion – Don’t be a weed bigot. Yes, I know we’re supposed to hate dandelions, and I don’t particularly want them in my lawn either. But consider the possibility that there might be some good in them. Because of their deep root system, dandelions can restore minerals to soil nearer the surface by bringing them upward and depositing them in usable form. They also attract earth worms. I am not suggesting we let them grow wherever they want, but a few dandelions here and there can be our friends if kept under control. Then there’s this thing about them being good for you. Adding young dandelion leaves to a garden salad of mixed greens is actually wonderful. I grow them in a separated area of my garden where they can be safe, and not annoy Dan. He hates them in his lawn. Read more about them in my chapters about garden herbs.

*Herb Dill – improves the health of brassicas (cabbage family of vegetables), but you already know that the only brassicas I plant are kale and horseradish. Horseradish doesn’t seem to need any help from anybody, so I don’t worry about it. But for the rest of the garden – Dill attracts honey bees and other pollinators, as well as several predatory insects like ladybugs, and parasitoid wasps. Again, open your mind, not all wasps are jerks. Parasitoid wasps are tiny, non-stinging wasps of many different species, and they all work in the job of preying on the more pesky insects in a garden.

Dill is a member of the UMBELLIFERAE family, and it will cross pollinate with some of these plants with poor tasting results. Others in this family that you should keep dill away from are carrots, and the herbs angelica, caraway and fennel – which most people don’t grow anyway. Once dill is mature, it can hinder the growth of nightshade plants like peppers and tomatoes, so best to keep them separated. Dill is a good companion for corn, cucumbers, lettuce and onions, but really, because dill is so attractive to predatory insects, it is very beneficial to most plants in the garden. I don’t plant rows or even patches of dill. I generally broadcast dill seed in the early spring, among the whole of the vegetable and herb gardens, paying attention to avoid tomatoes and potatoes.

*Herb Fennel – most plants dislike fennel. Awwww. Sad but true. It has an inhibiting effect on beans, peas, brassicas and tomatoes, and should be planted well OUT of your vegetable garden. Though fennel and dill are cousins, they cannot be around each other, as they will cross pollinate resulting in poor results on both sides. If you must have fennel, consider growing it in your flower beds or herb areas but not with dill and coriander.

*Herb Flax – is a hardy plant that bears stems of blue flowers midsummer. It is a wonderful, airy flowering annual, that grows as a semi-hardy perennial in our climate. My mother in law referred to them as windflowers, and the flax I have now are descendants from what she brought to my garden many years ago. They always remind me of her. I have never started any from seed, but its worth a try. If I was to do so, I would just scatter them directly into the area very early in the spring, since that is what they seem to do naturally. Choose a sunny site with well drained soil Once they’re established, you should be good for years. For a delicate looking flower, it is a surprisingly hardy plant, you will be pleasantly surprised.
Flax is a good companion to carrots and potatoes. It is recommended to grow in potato patches, and I think that sounds like a lovely picture to me.

*Herb Garlic – It is commonly known that planting garlic near roses will help to repel aphids. Because of its sulfur compounds, it may also help repel whiteflies, Japanese beetles, root maggots, carrot rust fly, and other pests. It is a good companion for beets, brassicas, celery, lettuce, potatoes, strawberries, and tomatoes. I have some garlic growing in my strawberry patch.
Avoid planting it near peas or beans of any kind.

When we were young parents, we lived in the small town of Calmar. One of our elderly neighbours had a strong and personal testimony of the health benefits of garlic. You won’t be surprised to hear that he smelled of it constantly lol. He grew it. He ate it raw. And he thought everyone else should do the same. He told us that his wife threatened if he ate anymore garlic, he’d have to sleep in the basement with the cats. He told her “Fine! But at least I’ll be healthy!” We adored him, but we didn’t adore his pesky feral cats. He was born on a farm between Leduc and Calmar before Alberta became a province in 1905, and he told us his birth certificate had his place of birth as the “Northwest Territories”. He also had an interesting story to tell of the great flu epidemic that swept through the area in 1918/19. He said people in towns around were getting sick but that his family planted garlic all around their home to keep the sickness away. He swore that it saved their lives, as not a single one of them got sick the entire time. Thus began a lifetime conversion to its healthful properties. I often reflected on his interpretation of how garlic protected his family. I have no doubt it did. I too, believe in the antibacterial, antiseptic, antiviral, antifungal, and other anti-bad-thing properties of garlic, but I suspect his family’s safety was more due to two other factors:
1) intentional isolation on the farm, and
2) EATING the garlic that was planted all around their house.

Garlic should be a bigger part of our eating, and I think it should be in every garden.

*Herb Garlic Chives – is one of the most used herbs in my garden. Every part of it is edible and delicious, from its small garlic tasting bulb to its flat (not hollow, like other chives) stems, to its pinkish, purple coloured blossoms, even its tiny black seeds. I use the bulb in place of garlic all summer long – though not as pungent. And the leaves as one would use green onions. As they are related to onions, they grow well with beets, carrots, tomatoes, strawberries, potatoes, rhubarb, kale, kohlrabi, and other brassicas, parsley, mustard greens and peppers, and are thought to enhance their flavour and vigour. That makes them extremely sociable and easy to plant into virtually any plant community. Yes, in your herb garden, but also plant a small plant in your strawberry patch, tomato patch, and near lots of other vegetables. Everybody in your garden wants to have garlic chives as their neighbour.

They seed the same way that chives do so if you’re not picking those beautiful blossoms to add to kitchen flower bouquets mid summer, they’ll go to seed, which is fine if you want lots of garlic chive plants. You can move the babies around your garden next year, and supply all your friends too.

*Herb Horseradish – It is true that horseradish has a very strong taste and there are not very many people who sit on the fence about whether they like it or not. It seems you either love it or you DON’T, with not much in between. I love it. Dan hates it. But we like each other, so we’re okay. Even if you don’t like the taste, you should still consider growing it. Horseradish produces a chemical called ISOTHIOCYANATE (don’t ask me to say that outloud) which is both antibacterial and antifungal. This quality is good for not just those who eat it, but also those plants growing near it.
Horseradish and potatoes are great friends, the potatoes are healthier and more disease resistant in the company of horseradish. Strawberries, asparagus and rhubarb are also great companions, but it seems that in companionships, horseradish is the giver with everybody else benefitting from its neighbourliness. The kind of neighbour everyone wants right? Well, sorta.

Horseradish may be easy to grow but, they say its not so easy to get rid of. Or so I hear. And because of that many urban gardeners are afraid to plant it. I have to admit, I don’t see it as a problem at all. The part you’re harvesting is the root, so if you’re digging up the root every fall, it seems to me that you shouldn’t have too much of a problem with it spreading. Ensuring you leave a portion of the root in the ground is how you’ll get some more next year. My first horseradish plants were three or four that I dug from my daughter in law’s garden midsummer. It was so slow to grow in its new home the following spring that I suspected the worst, and purchased another plant from my local greenhouse. By and by, my original newbies who were probably just establishing themselves beneath the ground, started growing up top, so I had both! I left them that whole season to establish themselves.

Last summer, I discovered that in the spring and early summer, while young and tender, the leaves are delicious and their slightly horseradishy flavour is the perfect addition to a summer garden salad or even a potato salad. This pleased me greatly, as now I don’t have to wait the entire season without enjoying it, and Dan doesn’t even mind it in that mild form. Probably in a larger rural garden where it could get away from you, you might end up with a lot of horseradish, but again, I can’t figure out why this should ever really be a problem since so many vegetables seem to do well in its company. I guess you’ll just have to govern your own horseradish situation.

The only vegetables you should not plant around horseradish are beans and leafy vegetables like lettuce and chard.

Kale in the tomato garden. You can see the cheery colour of marigolds on either side of it. Tomato climbing the trellis behind.

*Kale – I learned a good lesson from Kale one year, and that is to be more open minded and not so prejudiced. I have avoided kale for years, because its a brassica and therefore prone to those ugly fat caterpillars. On a whim that spring I picked up a package of them from a greenhouse thinking they were ornamental, and intending to plant them in a few pots and in one of my flower gardens. I was disappointed to see that nope, they were just the boring old vegetable kind and I was hesitant to plant any – owing to my extreme aversion to brassicas, but they were in my hand, in my own backyard and in the spirit of fairness I decided to give them a chance. I divided them into three groups of two each, planting them in different spots. My idea was that I didn’t want to devote too much space to them in case I had to get rid of them. If they became infested with worms, I would simply pull them up, dispose of them and with my prejudice renewed, swear off brassicas again.

I watched them closely – ready to jump at the first infraction, but what I saw was goodness. Strong, healthy, attractive looking plants. Two among my scarlet runners, two in my tomato patch, but not too close to them, and two in flower pots. In the spring I began snipping young leaves to add to garden salads and green smoothies. As time went on, I began adding kale to lots of dishes, ever watchful for uglies. It wasn’t until the very end of the season that they started to look a little worse off, but by that time I had had three months to enjoy them, and had plenty of other green leafy plants to take their place. I repented. And now I am a lover of kale, it having earned an honoured place in my garden. Where will I plant them in the future? I’ll do exactly what I did last year. I’ll have a few here, and here, and there. It may very well be, that dispersing them like that was the key to their success.

As they are a brassica, you should avoid planting them near other brassicas because they’re all subject to the same pests and diseases. If they’re together they’ll just all share their troubles. Kale is buddy-buddy with beets, celery, cucumbers, herbs, onions, spinach, chard, and potatoes. Apparently, it isn’t happy growing next to beans, strawberries, or too close to ‘tomatoes‘ – which is interesting since I had two plants in my tomato patch that first summer and all seemed to be fine. I think I may try another two in the same patch again, but just a little south in the interest of rotating. I will however, pay particular attention to ensuring that they’re not too cozy with their tomato neighbours.

just a little left of center is a gorgeous healthy lettuce plant in the carrot patch. The lighter shade of green leaves belong to poppies. They’re free spirits – they live where they want to in my garden.

Lettuce – Good companions for beets, brassicas, carrots, celery, cucumbers, dill, garlic, onions, radish, spinach, squash, and strawberries. Since they grow fairly quickly, you can plant lettuce in stages for the first few weeks of the season.

Last year we had more rain than usual. The good thing was that we never once had to water the garden with a sprinkler; hand watering specific areas was sufficient. The bad part was stupid slugs. Which love lettuce. I have since learned, that planting mint among one’s lettuce patch is supposed to keep away the slimy uglies that feed on lettuce leaves, and it makes complete sense to me, so I for sure will transplant a piece of my mint plant into my salad garden area this season, to cozy up with the lettuce. For the same slug reason, its a good idea to have a few lettuce plants interspersed throughout your garden, in addition to a small lettuce patch – a few in the carrots, a few among the cucumbers, a few in the strawberries, a few near the garlic chives, . . . . covering all your bases.

*Herb Marigold – (French Marigold and Mexican Marigold – quite frankly I do not know the difference. I have looked them both up and there are so many overlaps in how they look, that I don’t know how one would ever affirmatively distinguish them. If you know, I am receptive to new information. But for now, it’s “Marigolds” for me. ‘Marigolds‘ produce chemicals that repel certain nematodes and other nasties. They are probably the most commonly thought of companion plant. They attract pollinators, and are said to repel ants and even rabbits. I have no experience with the rabbit theory, and I hope to never put it to the test. I plant a couple dozen orange or yellow marigolds, interspersed throughout my herb garden, in my strawberry patch, and in my tomato patch. If for no other reason, I love to see their bright, cheery faces. They are reported to enhance the growth of basil, brassicas, cucumbers, kale, potatoes, squash and tomatoes. It is recommended that they not be planted near beans. Alright then. I guess Marigold can be allowed some personal dislikes too.

*Herb Mint – There are so many different kinds of mint, and I have learned that it is best if you want to keep them uniquely special, to keep them separated from each other. They seem to intermarry, which produces boringness down the road.

Because mint has such a reputation for being invasive, I mistook that to imply it would grow pretty much anywhere. Not true. While it can tolerate a little shade, it thrives in sun. In a very shady area, it will be less likely to come back the following spring. The more sun, the healthier it will be. It spreads through the roots, so if you really want to keep it segregated from the rest of your garden, plant in separated areas, or in pots buried in the ground. I have one kind of mint growing in a good spot in my herb garden, while I have another kind growing in my ‘protected weed garden’. I know its not really a weed, but I needed it to be in a safe place, where it wasn’t gonna get into everybody else’s business.

Mint attracts earthworms, hoverflies and predatory wasps, while the scent repels cabbage moths, aphids, and flea beetles. It is a good companion to tomatoes, so maybe a plant in your patch would be helpful. The counsel is to avoid planting too near parsley. I haven’t learned why yet, but for now I’ll trust the wisdom of ‘them‘ till I learn differently.

*Nasturtiums – herb/flower
Nasturtiums are my current FAVOURITE crop. I’ve always liked their vibrant colours and I knew they were edible, but only last year were my eyes fully opened to just how wonderful they really are. Though they’re often disguised as a flower, they’re the super hero of garden vegetables. Yes VEGETABLES. They’re more than a pretty face. More than a flower, more than an herb. In my garden they are those things, but they are also a vegetable. Every part of them is edible: flowers, leaves, stems and seeds. And all are delicious and vitamin rich. Plus they’re good community members, always helping out a neighbour. At the risk of making them sound too-good-to-be-true, I simply cannot say enough good about them.

Nasturtiums do best in full sun. They’ll tolerate less sun but might not bloom as profusely. That’s okay, their leaves are delicious and make the best pesto. (see the blog article Common Herbs and Spices in your House and Yard: part 4 – Mullein to Poppies) They have a mild peppery taste that is delightful, but apparently many insects don’t like it. Too bad for them. They repel a wide range of harmful insects like whiteflies, cucumber beetles, squash beetles and bean beetles, plus they improve vigour and flavour of brassicas, cucumbers, radishes and tomatoes in their neighbourhood. They’re also a good trap crop for aphids, and their bright colours attract a variety of pollinators. For all the above reasons, I grow nasturtiums in hanging pots (for their colours and to collect seeds), in the herb garden, in the vegetable garden, in the tomato patch and here and there throughout the flower gardens. I hope to never have a summer without them.

*Onions – Plant chamomile and summer savory near onions to improve their flavour. Onions also work well alongside beets, brassicas, carrots, dill, kohlrabi, leeks, lettuce, strawberries and tomatoes. Onions help to repel the carrot rust fly.

Don’t plant onions near asparagus, or peas of any kind.

Red orach among rosemary, echinecea, feverfew, st. johns wort, marigold, mint and others. Not the poppy head that are in varying stages of ripeness, and sunflower at about 12:00. .

*Orach – This beautiful self seeding annual is a close relative to lamb’s quarters and tastes very similar. It has shield shaped, wavy leaves that are sometimes red, sometimes green, grows three or four feet in height, and is sometimes called French spinach, mountain spinach, or red orach. I planted a single plant many years ago and have let it self seed ever since. I have never deliberately planted it into a single spot or row. I really don’t have room for that kind of planting in my garden. I let it come up where it wants to come up, and use the small leaves early in the season to add to salads and other dishes I want fresh ‘greens’ in, then when they start getting a little taller, I pull out the ones that are going to cause unwelcome shade. This works perfectly for me. I have enough plants scattered throughout the garden that I am always assured to have sufficient even if I have to pull out a dozen or two. When the plant is tall and mature it will go to seed – about mid August. The seed heads are similar to lamb’s quarters, amaranth, quinoa – big and ferny, quite pretty. The wind will spread them around for you. For the same reason, these could be labelled as ‘weeds’, but its a weed that is a welcome landed immigrant in my garden.

I haven’t found anything that orach particularly does or doesn’t like as far as companionship goes, so the only thing I would be concerned about is the HEIGHT. Because it will eventually get about 4 or 5 feet tall it will shade whatever is behind it. So if you’re going to plant it in a row, keep that in mind. If you’re going to let it self seed like I do, keep the shade thing in mind too.

*Oregano – Oregano is supposed to be good for repelling cabbage moths, but since I don’t grow brassicas anymore I have not put it to the test. It is also supposed to be good around asparagus, but I’ve never tested it there either. Oregano is a favourite herb of mine for a number of reasons. First of all, I use it a lot of in my cooking, so I’m motivated to grow it. Secondly, it’s very hardy and once it’s established, it comes back every spring. It is easy to grow and forgiving, and I always do better with friends who are forgiving. Its always handy to be in love with something that wants to please you in every way.

parsley in lower center, oregano at 3:00, red orach at 1:00, marigold to the left, and thyme, feverfew, rosemary and other herbs dispersed among

For the first few springs, it’s not certain to come back and occasionally it might not, so be prepared to rebuy a few times. Baby it by covering with leaves in the fall for the few first years. I have my oregano in three different spots; in the beginning that was mostly in case one of them didn’t come back in the spring – I didn’t want to have all my eggs in one basket. In my herb garden, oregano is an herb and I pick it frequently throughout the season, trying not to let it flower. But it does have a beautiful mauve coloured flower which I really like, so I also grow it as a ‘flower’ in my flower garden. There it is free to flower at will, and I snip the flower stalks to bring into the kitchen; I like to have fresh flowers on the table all summer long.

*Herb Parsley – Ideally, parsley is a biennial in Alberta’s climate, which means it will come back a second season and go to seed, but you can’t always count on it, so don’t. It most often won’t come back, so count on replanting every spring. One or two plants will probably give you all the fresh parsley you want with enough to dry for winter. It likes asparagus, carrots, chives, corn, onions, and tomatoes. Parsley mixed with carrots helps repel carrot flies by it aroma.

*Peas – Are known to be a nitrogen fixer in the soil, so its good to move them around from year to year to enrich different areas. Because of their nitrogen, don’t ever get rid of their vines. Either plough them into the ground at the end of the season, or put them into your compost; they are very valuable. They are good companions to beans, carrots, celery, corn, cucumber, parsley, peppers. potatoes, radish, spinach, strawberries and turnips.

The only thing peas seem to not be good for is onions. But that’s okay. Not everyone can be a nasturtium. Peas are susceptible to the stupid cutworms. Diatomaceous earth has been recommended by several people, so this year, I’ll mix some diatomaceous earth in with the soil I plant them into.

*Poppies – There are several different types of poppies, three of which I grow in my garden: Icelandic poppies – a lovely spring flower, California poppies, with their bigger, more showy flower heads, and Oriental (or Opium) Poppies. They all have similar looks to the flowers, but the plants and seed heads are quite unique. I grow the first two perennials, as flowers in my flower gardens but the Oriental poppy is special. They grow at will throughout my vegetable and herb gardens. Each oriental poppy flower lasts only a few days, but new flowers are generated all summer long, so that is more than enough compensation for me. They can come in white, red, orange, pink and mauve (called blue) colours, but the ones I grow are a steady RED, like the poppies we wear every November.

When the snow melts and the ground is warmed, the seeds germinate and start to grow. Seeds can lay dormant for years and then suddenly spring forth and surprise you. They are trouble free in the garden, but they do need a sunny place. If they’re allowed to grow in clusters, they will be small and cute, but useless. I pull them out of spots where its not convenient for me to allow them to grow, and then the ones I do allow to stay, I try to remove all but one or two healthy plants. Allowing them to grow up solitary in the sun, will encourage them to be big, strong and healthy, producing big beautiful flowers and big full round seed heads.

They are annuals meaning they die back each year, but they produce so many seeds that sometimes people think they’re perennials. Nope. Not in the true sense of the word, since they’re not coming back from their roots, but since if you don’t remove the seed heads, they WILL multiply by a hundred times, I suppose for all intents and purposes you could consider them perennial. Doesn’t really matter – just a definition of terms. They produce nice big seed heads, that if you let ripen will produce hundreds if not thousands (depending on the size) of tiny dark seeds. Yes, these are the same poppy seeds you use in cookies, muffins, cakes and breads. I collect the seeds every year to bring into the kitchen for baking, being careful to make sure I spread thousands of them in the garden first. I like the seed heads almost as much as I like the flowers, and always bring in handfuls at the end of the year for fall arrangements.

Flowers that grow well with poppies are irises, yarrow, asters, black eyed Susans, dahlias, hibiscus, phlox and goldenrod, but probably mostly because they all thrive in the same growing conditions. Because they can get quite tall, and shade plants behind them from midsummer on, I pull them from spots where shade will be a problem. Once they’ve flowered (the flowers only last a couple of days), sometimes I might choose to simply remove their lower leaves to help prevent shading of other plants. At that point the poppy doesn’t care anymore anyway.

*Potatoes – Potatoes do well planted near beans, corn and marigold. It is good to plant horseradish in the corners of the potato patch. Bush beans grown among potato plants are supposed to mutually benefit each other against their own beetle pests.

They do not do well near pumpkin and other squash, tomatoes, raspberries, cucumbers, orach and sunflowers. Apparently these plants lower its resistance to blight.

*Pumpkin – Pumpkins grow well with corn, mostly because they trail and corn grows straight up. Potatoes and pumpkins have an inhibiting effect on each other.

*Radish – Before last year, I have never been a big fan of radishes. I’m good with two or three a year. I’ve tried to like them more because my folks did, and I never really hated them, they simply never appealed to me. But for some reason I decided to plant some last spring. Just cause I like to plant new things once in a while I guess, and they are known to come earlier than most other things. I suppose I was in the mood to have something come up early. One spring day, while I was in the garden looking for assorted greens to add to a spring salad, I noticed the radishes could use a thinning. I tasted one and and added them to my salad. That seemingly innocuous act rewrote history for me. I learned that I LOVE young radish greens! They are sweet and tender, and slightly peppery. They are a great addition to an assorted greens mix in the salad bowl. And they also make a fantastic green pesto! I was enjoying them so much, I was even motivated to eat the actual radishes when they matured, but alas, they’re still not my fave. That’s okay, I’ll settle for their greens. When the leaves get old they’re tough and woody, so eat lots when they’re young. Don’t waste them. If they’re not going to shade anything, let a few go to seed. See below for more information on how to do that.

In the garden, because they come up rather quickly, its a good idea to include radish seed with your carrot seeds to mark the row, as carrots always take forever to germinate. Plant radishes near beans, beets, lettuce, mint, peas and spinach. Planting 3 or 4 radishes among your cucumbers and squash plants is supposed to help repel the striped cucumber beetle, and other insects that like squash. Allow them to grow old and bloom to get the best companion benefit. Avoid planting near potatoes.

When using as companions, let your radishes grow old and go to seed. The greens will be tough and bleh, the roots with be woody and bleh, but you’re in for another garden bonus. First, they’ll grow really tall, three or four feet or more! Then they’ll flower – such pretty delicate light pink flowers which attract pollinators (important to fertilize your seeds). After the flowers, come green seed pods which are actually not only edible, but they’re tender and quite delicious, slightly peppery like the root. If you have lots of seeding radishes, go ahead and pick some pods to eat. The seed pods will mature and begin to dry. When they’re completely dry, pick them, or go ahead and pull out the entire plant and hang to dry. Pick the seed pods, and open them up to shake the radish seed into a bowl. Ta dah! Radish seeds to sprout all winter long, or to plant again in the garden next spring.

*herb Sage – Grow a couple of sage plants in your carrot patch to help protect them from the carrot fly. Sage and rosemary are good friends and like to sit beside each other. Sage is not good for cucumbers though – not its fault. Cucumbers don’t like any aromatic herbs, sage being the one they dislike the most.

*Spinach does well planted with strawberries.

*Squash, winter – like Butternut, Spaghetti, Pumpkin etc, trail along the ground and can take up a lot of room. See below in the zucchini section for ideas on tying them up vertically. They are heavy feeders, and should be moved around in the garden from year to year. Amending their beds in the early spring with fresh compostable soil, and older farm manure will give them the best start.

*Strawberries – Usually we see strawberry plants all by themselves in their own segregated neighbourhood, but we underestimate their sociality. They respond very well to nearby plants like beans, borage, garlic, lettuce, onions, peas, spinach, and thyme. In my strawberry patch I grow a few lettuce plants here and there, and a couple chive plants. I lightly broadcast dill seed in it, and I allow poppies to spring up where they want, always thinning to one or two in a spot to encourage them to grow big and tall. My reasons for the dill and poppies is that they grow UP while the strawberries stay pretty low. By the time my strawberries are ready to fruit again mid August, the lettuce is usually gone and the the poppies are beginning to dry so that I can remove the leaves if they’re causing too much shade. I am only interested in the dill when it is green and ferny. By the time it begins to ripen it attracts too many aphids so I usually just pull it out. This allows more sun to reach the strawberries again. I don’t grow borage IN my strawberries just because my patch space isn’t big enough to allow a borage plant to grow in it (they can get pretty big), but if I had a bigger patch I sure would. On the north end of my strawberry patch (their closest neighbours) is my salad garden – lettuce, spinach, radish, garlic, green onions. Good neighbouring communities.

*Sunflowers – Sunflowers attract pollinators to other crops, particularly squash and pumpkins. Planting near or among corn is said to increase yields. Sunflowers also attract ladybugs which prey on aphids. The inherent problem of course is that they not only NEED sun, they end up being HUGE and create a lot of shade, so they must be planted in spots where that is not going to be a problem. I haven’t planted sunflowers deliberately for years. They’ve been there for so many years, that they just volunteer, and of course, the birds plant some for me. Generally, I let them come up wherever they want and then pull the ones that aren’t gonna work. In areas of lots of hot sun, some plant sunflowers along the west side of the garden to provide filtered shade to cucumbers, but in my garden, I don’t have a too-much-sun problem, I am always looking for more of it.

I have read conflicting claims about sunflowers being good for / bad for pole beans, cucumbers etc. They are a heavy feeder, so where you do grow them – or in my case, “allow them to grow”, make sure you enrich the soil with compost every spring. Sunflowers aren’t nice to potatoes, which are more susceptible to blight when they’re in close proximity.

*Swiss Chard – Good companions for chard are bush beans, brassicas like kale, celery and all kinds of alliums such as garlic, onions, leeks, and chives which can repel many undesirable insects. I grow a lot of chard, its one of my favourite garden vegetables and I wait all year long to use it as a fresh green for spanakopita. I generally plant them in rows, but some varieties are so colourful they look great in a flower garden among annual flowers like nasturtiums and marigolds – which happen to be good companions to them. Who would have thought such a ‘vegetable’ looking vegetable could be such good friends with so many flowers? A good example of integration between the neighbourhoods.

*flower Tansy – is another good example of integration between the neighbourhoods. It is a hardy perennial flower that is a good companion to raspberries, grapes and fruit trees. It deters flying insects cucumber beetles and squash bugs, as well as ants, so having a plant in your squash bed would not only look nice, but would be a helpful neighbour.

*Tomatoes – are my all time favourite garden vegetable. I wait eight months of the year to have a fresh garden tomato, and I rarely if ever buy them at the grocery store. The few times I cave and buy a few, I am always disappointed and promise to never do it again. They are fairly easy to grow. All you need to do is make sure they have sun and water. There are other details that will yield better results of course, but those come with experience and time.

About mid June – tomatoes are beginning to be tied up to trellis; to the left of them are chives, basil, marigolds and nasturtiums

Tomatoes are a good companion to asparagus and will protect them again the asparagus beetle. Usually tomatoes are being planted about the time asparagus is being harvested. But as asparagus needs to finish out its season, even after giving all its got to give that year, a neighbourly tomato can help it out. I usually have two or three tomato plants planted beside or behind the asparagus area, and they’ve always been good to each other.

Tomatoes are compatible with and benefit from – basil, beans, borage, carrots, celery, chives, cucumbers, garlic, lettuce, onion, parsley, peppers, marigold, mint and nasturtiums. Planting a single garlic bulb between your plants protects them from red spider mites.

Unlike most other vegetables, tomatoes don’t mind growing in the same place year after year. If you develop a disease problem, you’ll have to move them of course, but that isn’t likely. They LOVE Sun, and are heavy feeders so give them ample quantities of compost or old manure in the spring. Mulch and water to maintain good soil moisture. Always water tomatoes from the bottom, making sure water doesn’t splash up onto the leaves which can cause disease. I prune the bottom foot of my tomatoes once they have grown at least two feet high. Tying them up to a trellis or cage keeps them off the ground, facilitates good airflow, makes it easier to water properly and to plant companion plants nearby. Whenever you can get your garden growing vertically, you’ll create more room for other things.

TOMATOES AND POTATOES DO NOT LIKE EACH OTHER. Potatoes and tomatoes are affected by the same blight, and may spread it to each other, so keep them apart. Other plants to keep away from tomatoes are brassicas, beets, peas, fennel, dill, and rosemary. Corn and tomatoes both suffer from the corn earworm, so again, best to keep them separated.

*Zucchini – is a summer squash (because of its relatively thin skin), and is a heavy feeder, like winter squash (spaghetti, butternut and pumpkin). They do best in warm, moisture-retentive, fertile areas, recently amended by organic compost and aged manure. They also need plenty of direct sun. Unlike winter squash which trails, zucchini becomes almost bushy. Both take up a LOT of space, creating a literal carpet of leaves in your bed. This is problematic in urban gardens for a few reasons: first – the space they take is difficult to justify, second – the canopy of leaves creates a visual shield to the blossoms which so desperately need pollination, and third – the squash can become victims of pests who like to nibble on them lying on the ground. The answer is vertical. Going UP. Tying them to a trellis or bamboo poles, or stakes pounded into the ground. I tried tying zucchini up last summer, but didn’t have the confidence that I was doing the right thing. This year I am going into the planting season with more confidence to do exactly that. Because of how zucchini grows, its not a natural climber so its gonna need a lot of encouragement in the form of tying and trimming of lower leaves.

Tying your zucchini up to some vertical support helps reduce disease and mildew which thrive in moist surroundings on the ground. The free flowing air takes care of both problems. It makes the blossoms more visible to pollinators, and it makes picking the zucchini easier. It also helps nearby companion plants to get a little closer. Borage is commonly used to attract pollinators, and its possible to plant one nearby when the zucchini is tied to a vertical support. Borage also deters pests from your zucchini. Do not grow winter and summer squash near each other as they can cross pollinate with negative affects.

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In addition to companion planting, practicing regular, routine crop rotation, helps balances the right soil conditions for most plants, and when maintained, many soil borne diseases can be avoided altogether.

Have fun with your experiences. Keep a journal entry about significant finds, no matter how innocuous they may seem at first. I’d love to hear some of your discoveries.

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle


Law of the Harvest

There are some basic truths that rule life, no matter what culture or religion we come from. One that, whether we like it or not, we’re all subject to – is the “Law of the Harvest“. What exactly is that? Well, it is very simple and straight forward – essentially “We reap what we sow“. One of life’s great lessons.

Joy of the Harvest by Simon Dewey

A cousin of the Law of the Harvest is “the LAW OF ATTRACTION” which, simply put, is that “like energy attracts like energy”. A negative, complaining type of person always has something to complain about because they find the negative in everything, while a positive, cheerful person always finds the good to be happy about. I’m sure we all can think of examples of both types of people, and can acknowledge that they create self fulfilling realities for themselves. The law of attraction however, goes further. It is based on the idea that people and thoughts are made up of pure energy and that not only can a person attract positive or negative experiences through their positive or negative thoughts and affirmations, but that the process can literally improve one’s health, wealth and personal relationships. I believe this. To a certain extent. But I feel there is a critical component missing.

Let me explain. Harvest is a natural law, a tangible, physical, visual, easy-to-understand law. It says that harvest always comes after a season of sowing. Every farmer and backyard gardener understands the intimate relationship of sowing and reaping. And it is an analogy that transcends beautifully into all aspects of our lives, including spiritual applications.

“Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” Galations 6: 7

In 1903, British philosopher James Allen published a book that he called AS A MAN THINKETH. It is based on Psalm 23:7 “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he“, and follows the process of the mind guiding our footsteps as we progress along the pathway of life. “Purity of mind leads inevitably to purity of life, to the precious love and understanding that should control our everyday acts and attitudes towards friends and foes.” he wrote, and his life exemplified his philosophy.

James Allen, author of As a Man Thinketh

Born into a working class family in England, James was the older of two brothers. His mother could neither read nor write. His father was a factory knitter. In 1879, following a downturn in the textile trade of central England, James’ father travelled alone to America to find work and establish a new home for the family. Within the first two days of arriving in New York City, his father was killed, believed to be a victim of robbery and murder. At the tender age of fifteen, James was forced to leave school and find work to support his family.

Having a better education than either of his parents, he eventually found work as a private secretary in several British manufacturing companies, and by his early thirties, was earning his living in journalism and reporting.
He married, and found an occupation writing for a magazine where he could rely upon his spiritual and social interests and skill as a writer. This provided him the time and opportunity to be creative, and he published his first of many books, including “As a Man Thinketh”. James and his wife Lily, had only one daughter Nora. He died at the untimely young age of only 47, having written several books, and leaving material that would be published into several more. His words have had a positive impact on generations, and they illustrate the use of the power of thought to increase personal capabilities. Although he personally never achieved great fame or wealth, his words continue more than a century later, to influence people around the world.

The underlying premise of “As a Man Thinketh”, is that noble thoughts make a noble person, while lowly thoughts make a miserable person. Truly, he knew of that which he wrote. A lesser man could easily have let his difficult beginnings pull him down into a defeated life, but against all odds he rose above it. What he learned through a lifetime of application, was that purity of mind can bring happiness and confidence. By magic? By some miraculous process of magnetism? Not at all. But through hard work, and by applying guiding principles that he learned through heartfelt searching. No doubt his father’s tragic death and his family’s economic hardship shaped his future development. He observed that many people were trying to improve their worldly position without seeking spiritual betterment, when he had learned the opposite was true: that by seeking spiritual betterment one gained the power to improve worldly position. He didn’t teach about getting rich, or seeking power, except as it applied to personal empowerment to ACT. And it was through acting upon the truths he learned, that he created a good and fulfilling life for himself and his family.

Through his book, James Allen pointed the true way to a better life. “Out of a clean heart comes a clean life and a clean body,” he wrote, and likewise “Out of a defiled mind proceeds a defiled life and a corrupt body.”

James Allen may have introduced the concept of the law of attraction, but since then, it’s taken a turn that I kinda doubt he would be proud to be connected with. In its basic form – to me, the principle of attraction sidetracks at best, the part God plays in our betterment. For some reason, it seems to attribute the attraction of good to some mystic force of the universe, some inner energy without a name. It circumvents the missing piece of the puzzle. That piece is ACTION. Action follows intent. Intent alone – no matter how much energy we spend thinking about it, is insufficient to bring about change necessary for a different result.

Viktor Frankl – neurologist, psychiatrist, philosopher, author, and Holocaust survivor

Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl proved that while we cannot always alter the outer forces of our experiences, we can determine the type of person we allow ourselves to become. He said “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” Viktor Frankl and James Allen could have been great friends if they had lived in the world at the same time. Each of them was influenced by their unique and tragic circumstances, and yet rose above them. Neither pretended it was easy, but their ‘thinking’ ultimately changed their lives.

And that brings us back to where I began – THE LAW OF THE HARVEST. It is a foundational gospel truth. One that we can count on to apply in all aspects of our lives. Yes, it is possible from time to time, for our harvest to be slightly delayed, tricking us into thinking we got away with something. But in the end it always catches up, and we WILL reap what we sow; in the end, we WILL get what we deserve.

That isn’t a threat, and it certainly isn’t always negative, although I admit, sometimes it comes across that way. To every action there is simply a consequence. Years ago, a teacher demonstrated this principle visually for me with a pencil on the table. We may only pick up only one end of the pencil, but the other end is unavoidably affected. We may choose an action, but we cannot choose the consequence. There will always be a consequence, and in many cases that consequence is a pre-selected, natural result – governed by nature.

Ben

I knew a handsome young man once who consistently made poor choices, but rarely seemed to pay their price. I’ll call him Ben. Inevitably Ben’s poor choices would catch up and then pile up, and suddenly some spark would ignite the whole pile, and the world would come crashing down on him in consequence of his latest series of poor choices. Most of those times, Ben chose not to take accountability for the results. It was always easier to blame others, or circumstances beyond his ability to control. Of course, it is more comfortable that way. Not very productive, but a whole lot more comfortable to never accept responsibility for ones failures.

Eventually Ben started making better choices, some might even say – excellent choices. Choices that were difficult, and didn’t show too much comfort in the immediate future, and which required firm resolve and commitment to follow through with them. But the consequences of his previous poor choices had long lasting results and he still had to pay the piper. For a time it seemed that no matter how much he did right, he still lived with the ill consequences of his prior actions. He was still reaping – albeit a little late, the dismal harvest he originally sowed. And ironically, that harvest continued to be in affect a long time after his attitude changed course.

A couple years into these better choices, Ben began to see better results. He had become so accustomed to living with his prior consequences, that he was unprepared when they began to fade into the background. One day he realized his life had taken a turn for the better and he literally marveled at the good place in which he found himself. But it was not by accident, nor coincidence, nor even simply a change of heart. The fact was, that the unfortunate consequences had nearly all run their course, and he was starting to live with the results of his better choices. The natural consequences of THEM. A much fuller harvest.

Specifically, how did the Law of the Harvest apply in Ben’s life?
He paid a price for his poor choices. At the time the price seemed disproportionately high to him, and lasted too long, and in some ways, he is still living with the regrets of some of them. But he has placed them in the past and moved forward. When his choices matured, and his actions followed, he began reaping a richer harvest.

Amelia

Amelia is a lovely young mother with a handful of cute kids. Now if you’ve never had four or five kids at the same time, trust me – some days can be challenging, even overwhelming. I get it. And overwhelmed she was. Amelia began to dream of the education she wished she had taken seriously in her younger, pre-mom days. And it became easier to escape into a desire to improve her mind, than it was to take care of her children. She justified it of course, because who can find fault with the desire to improve one’s education? It is a noble goal. But the timing was now difficult. Children aren’t ‘hobbies’. They are living, breathing human beings with personalities and potential. Their health and well being is completely dependent upon their parents. They literally have CLAIM upon us, legally, morally, and eternally.

The truth was, Amelia found reading her ‘lessons’ more fulfilling than doing dishes, changing diapers and cleaning house. She found the things that she was learning were insightful, satisfying, and rewarding. The more she escaped to her studies, the worse life became around the house. Who’s gonna make the meals? Not mom. She’s busy improving her mind. Who’s gonna clean the house, take the kids to school, help them with homework, ensure they get their chores done, learn personal grooming, develop good friendships and interpersonal skills, gain confidence to deal with challenges and to go into the big wide world? Not mom. She’s busy improving her mind and getting the education she wished she got when she was younger. Can you see where this was headed?

The result was a house of chaos, and the more chaotic it became, the more Amelia retreated behind closed doors to study her ‘lessons’ – because after all, she had important things to do. Education was important, and she was choosing it. It made her feel good. It was much more meaningful that the lowliness of housework, and the drudgery of meal planning – both of which as we all know, never-Ever end. But no matter how distracted you are, there are basics that need to be done in any household, especially where there are children. So who was preparing the meals? Doing the laundry? Doing the shopping?
It isn’t that Amelia didn’t love her children. Any one could see she did. She simply found it easier to depend on others to rescue her when she so often fell behind. She got used to friends bringing in family meals. Often. She got used to friends coming in and cleaning when the house got away from her. She began thinking it was her ‘due’. She expected it. She couldn’t even count the times her well-meaning friends and neighbours had helped out with various things – trying to lighten her load. Sometimes when the meal wasn’t just right, or it was a few minutes late, or was too similar to what someone else brought recently, she’d even complain. Just a little.

The Law of the Harvest was gonna play out in Amelia’s situation; of that there was never any doubt. In fact, it already was. And it was beginning to look tragic.

If I had a relationship of trust with Amelia, the first thing I would suggest she do, is to visualize what kind of harvest she wants at the end of this metaphorical ‘season’. My guess is that in her heart of hearts, she’d want happy, healthy children – equipped to handle the adult world confidently, who know and love their Heavenly Father, and keep his commandments. I believe she’d want to have a happier marriage, where both she and her spouse were not only contributing active parents, but equal loving partners. If I am right, I might suggest she look at her current actions and ask herself serious questions like:
How is this action going to help my son have a better day in school tomorrow? my daughter be a good friend? show my children that I love them and that home is a safe and happy place? How is this going to help my children grow into the happy, confident individuals I want them to be? How will this help me be a better mother and/or a better spouse, and show my spouse that I value him?” and so forth . . .

If the honest answer to any of these questions is “Its not” then, I might suggest its time to reassess the action. Children grow up all too soon, there will be time for Amelia to catch up on her education. It’s alright for her to lay it aside for the time being and focus on those who need her.

How awful would it be, to finally reach the top of the ladder we spend years climbing, only to find out it is leaning against the wrong wall?

Specifically, how can Amelia use “the Law of the Harvest” to guide her life?
Amelia planted tomatoes in the sun, and she waters them when she feels motherly, but she’s expecting others to stake them and prune them.

She could try to understand that as a mother, she owes her children more than she is currently giving them. By nurturing the seeds she’s already sown, she will be investing in a more rewarding harvest at the end of season, with fewer regrets. Taking care of the immediate priority of children now, doesn’t imply that she will never be able to fulfill her dream of getting her degree. Not at all. To everything there is a season. Delaying the harvest of one, for the harvest of another that is more important, and by necessity more immediate – is not failure. It is a conscious choice of priority.

Alex

Alex was a sales rep for a well known tech company. His company was the biggest in the country, and he was one of the top sales reps in his region. His clients were professionals, and he was a man of no small reputation. Some time ago, a competing company hired Alex, thinking to benefit from his experience and success in the field, and perhaps even to gain some of his existing customers.

They soon discovered however, that though he was knowledgeable in his field, he was arrogant and unteachable. They learned that though he could give exemplary service, he rarely did; he didn’t like being inconvenienced. Yes, he represented his company with confidence, but he was pushy and impatient with prospective clients. He was the top of the food chain and he liked it there. He felt that he shouldn’t have to work as hard as others did anymore, after all, his ship had already come in. And it was a yacht. His reputation among his clients and peers was now one of mixed reviews. Some respected his knowledge, others resented his arrogance. Some appreciated his confidence, others did not feel he valued their opinions.

Specifically, how is the Law of the Harvest playing out in Alex’s life?
At some point, Alex had sown good seed to get where he was. Because the harvest he was currently reaping was the result of previous work, Alex is choosing to not pay attention to how things are changing. Perhaps his previous company had an edge earlier, because of something completely independent of him, and he may have been in the right place at the right time. Perhaps existing clients simply don’t like change, so they stuck with him out of habit. Who knows? Whatever the truth is, his previous reputation and professional success was a harvest he happily reaped. But he forgot about the principle of choice and accountability, and its close tie to the law of the Harvest. He neglected to take into consideration how small the professional world in his field is, and how reputation spreads. With his current attitude and work ethic, he is now sowing an entirely different crop than the one he wanted. He wants tomatoes, but he was caring for them as if they were hostas. Hostas don’t want sun; tomatoes must have it. If you want tomatoes Alex, you must do more than put the seed into the ground. You must give them what they need to flourish.

Frank

Sometimes we get in our own way and we refuse to take responsibility for our own faults. Frank is not getting the shifts he wants at work. He feels persecuted by his supervisor, and is considering filing a complaint with the union. Frankly, (no pun intended), he is lazy and has a reputation for shuffling off when there’s work to be done. Colleagues don’t like working with him, and some have even asked not to. The problem is, that Frank convinces himself he is a good employee, and tells anyone who wants to hear it. He doesn’t think there is anything amiss with his performance.

Sometimes we need to take a long hard look at ourselves and ask what our responsibility is when we are not seeing the desired harvest. I have no idea what can be done for someone who is so blind to their own faults.

Helen


Helen is negative about most things: her job and the people she works with, her neighbours, her friends, her spouse, her in-laws, . . . . . She has a hard time seeing the good in people and talks ‘smack’ about them behind their backs. When people hear what she says about others, they wonder what she says about them. She has a victim mentality and feels like everyone is out to get her (and by extension, her family). She is quick to be offended, and has no problem telling people off when she is. She considers herself a loyal friend, but usually that means taking up their fight with them. Consequently she doesn’t have a good group of friends who want to be around her. Her nature makes it difficult sometimes to recognize the blessings she has in her life.

Like Frank, Helen may need to take a long hard look in the mirror to discover her responsibility when she doesn’t see her desired harvests. The most important thing she needs to recognize, is that many of her problems are self made. She can learn to alter her thinking with a little hard work, but first she must be able to accept that the common denominator in all she finds wrong with her world, might be herself. And that is not an easy thing to admit. For anyone.

Dean

Dean just got laid off. He hadn’t seen it coming, and assumed it never would. He had had a government position, and kinda felt that he was immune from such things. Like thousands of others, he had been working a lot from home during the Covid months, but was asked to come into the office Monday. That was that. Done. A fair severance, but no job. Understandably, it took a few days to digest it and to be able to talk about it. He reviewed his family’s situation: He had three young children at home. His wife had been working part time – picking up shifts now and again. He had been with his current employer for almost a decade and had a good reputation there; he knew he could get some good references. He and his wife had a house with a mortgage of course. They didn’t live outside of their means. They paid an honest tithing, and understood the blessings that came from doing so. They had a couple of older vehicles that he always kept in good condition. Most importantly, other than their mortgage, they had strictly avoided debt. What a relief that was at the moment! He felt sure that that fact alone was going to reduce the stress and nervousness of being between jobs for awhile.

Hard to say how long it might take for Dean to find another job in this market. Thankfully, they have some modest savings that they’d have to be careful with, but when combined with his severance, it will help. But back to the debt thing. They have NO credit card debt! No heavy monster interest hanging over their heads.

Specifically, how does “the Law of the Harvest” apply here?
One cannot assume that doing one’s best will shield them from trials. Trials are inherent to our mortal experience, and we can learn a lot from them, but there are things we can do in preparation to prevent them from being worse than they have to be. We can in fact, soften their blow. By paying an honest tithing, and avoiding credit card debt, Dean protected himself and his family in the very best way he could have. Although this unemployment experience was not on his radar, he was prepared for it. He understands that while it is only a bump in the road, it could be a big bump. But it is not the harvest. The harvest is yet to come.

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The moral of these stories is singular: “If you want tomatoes, plant TOMATOES.”
Plant exactly what you hope to sow. Tomato seeds yield tomato plants, which in turn produce more tomato seeds.
Keep your desired harvest in mind: TOMATOES.
Choose your actions intentionally.
Whatever they are, YOU WILL REAP WHAT YOU SOW. Using my friends Ben, Amelia, Alex, Frank, Helen and Dean as examples, consider the seeds you are currently planting, and ask yourself if those are the ones you really want to harvest? At one time Alex sowed tomatoes, but he hasn’t taken care of them for a long time, and he cannot expect to continue to reap a harvest he is no longer nurturing.

sometimes we Sabotage ourselves with self defeating behaviour

When one finds problems overwhelming, or maybe even painful, it is tempting to find a bandage, some kind of self-medicating behaviour, rather than learning from those experiences or developing strategies to work through them. Self medicating behaviours are ones that offer relief from pain, or fear-of-failure, and though some can be helpful in the short term, many times they are counterproductive. Self medicating behaviours that remove the worst of our fears, might take the form of alcohol, drugs, inappropriate relationships, self harm, over eating, over exercising, pornography, over spending, excessive indulgences, and so forth. The problem with this solution is that eventually it wears off. And reality comes back into focus, revealing the same problem that never really went away, and has now resurfaced. And we have still not developed skills to deal with it. Instead of learning skills to improve, we have simply learned to escape, and very often have introduced a new problem that can be worse than the original. Addiction.

The more one employs escape strategies, the more dependent we become on them. We find relief there. In our self medicating behaviour we chill out, we become more confident, we like ourselves better, we lose our usual inhibitions. Its a happy place for us. But soon enough it ends again, and we’re back to where we started – again. And the only things we seem to be learning, are quicker ways to escape those things we find difficult. Addiction is forming. Addiction to what? Addiction to whjhjhatever behaviour you are employing to avoid the pain you are living with. The longer you go on, the more serious your addiction becomes and the less you are equipped to deal with the new consequences that it brings with it.

And of course, there will be a reaping of this too.

In my studies and reflection, I have come up with five principles of the Law of the Harvest. They’re not official, not very profound, and probably never gonna be written anywhere else but here. But they are personal to me, learned through my experience. Understanding them helps me apply them to my benefit, and they help me hold myself accountable. Perhaps you may find them of benefit as well.

Lesson 1 – We Reap what we sow


Look ahead. What is it you WANT to end up with?
If you want tomatoes, start by PLANTING tomatoes. Find out all that tomatoes need to thrive and do you very best to give it to them. They need as much sun as possible, so pick a sunny spot. They need nutrients, so make sure their soil is rich, continually adding to it with compost and mulch. They need air, so prune and stake them to ensure they have space to grow, and air flow to prevent disease. They need water, but water remaining on their leaves may cause disease, so water from beneath.
When you ensure tomatoes have the very best environment and care, you can reasonably expect a bountiful harvest of beautiful, flavourful, nourishing tomatoes. Taking shortcuts in any of these areas will reduce the quality of your harvest. Planting marigolds will not give you a basketful of tomatoes. And letting dandelions flourish will not give you a basketful of tomatoes.

Reading text books will not get your kitchen cleaned up, and meals made. Browsing Pinterest, and flipping through magazines will not give you the kitchen you desire.
Staying in bed all day because you’re overwhelmed, with not help your kids learn the golden rule and develop feelings of self worth.

When you have decided what you WANT in a final harvest, plant THOSE seeds, and NURTURE them along the whole season.

Lesson 2 – Sometimes the harvest is not immediate

Trying to cheat the natural consequences of our actions prevents us from valuable learning opportunities and preparation. We simply will not develop the skills we should have. Our world is governed by natural laws; its how we know objects will fall down instead of up, how we know the sun will rise in the morning, and why we know the rain will get us wet. These are things we can count on, without which life would be chaos.

Sometimes we make poor decisions, choices others may even have warned us not to make, actions that we innately sense are not for our own good, . . . nevertheless, we don’t suffer. In fact, everything seems to continue on pretty much as normal. We enjoy the immediate fruits of over spending, we neglect to change the oil in our car regularly, or maintain tire pressure properly, and yet it seems to run fine, we eat poorly but our health doesn’t suffer, we don’t study but we do well in class, …. etc. The delay of consequences can be empowering. We might even feel that we cheated them. Then all of a sudden, the exam looms and we know we’re going in unprepared, we can’t afford to pay the bills, the motor in our car fails and our tires wear out quicker than they should, our lack of energy catches up to us, and we seem to be getting sick a lot, . . . . . . Our lack of preparatory work becomes painfully evident, and bluffing our way through isn’t working anymore. It seems the whole world comes crashing down all at the same time, and we can’t “catch a break”. We compare ourselves to others, and fail miserably. And most importantly, we are stressed to the max, and unhappy.

Then the opposite may also be true from time to time. We try our best. We do everything we know how to do, to abide by ‘the rules’ associated with promised blessings. We work tirelessly, we follow the golden rule, we put God first, we pray for help, we teach our children, we show them by example the path we’d like them to follow, . . . and yet it seems, the same problems continue to plague us. We can’t get ahead, the light at the end of the tunnel seems so far away we can’t see it clearly, our kids choose paths we know will bring them misery. I’ve been there, I know how discouraging some of those things can feel. But I have learned that no matter what it looks like now, the promised harvest is absolutely assured. We must carry on, stay the course, do the right thing because IT IS the right thing, having faith that God is in control.

A favourite scripture of mine says:
“There is a law irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated – and when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.” (D&C 130:20,21)
I have seen it come true time and time again. I have absolute confidence in it. You might say it has become a mantra to me, encouraging me on, trusting that God is in control and that I will receive the promised blessing.

Lesson 3 – Trust that the harvest WILL come, and it will be exactly what we sowed.

We live in an immediate gratification world that sometimes makes us believe everything should happen instantaneously. That’s hard to argue with, when so much around us reinforces it. Infinite information is a only a click away. We talk to anyone we want, practically anytime we want, from wherever we happen to be. New furniture is ours with the click of a mouse, delivered to our door next Monday. There is an app for everything. Instant results. We don’t like to wait, and we don’t see why we should have to. Hey, I live in the same world. I am as guilty as anyone else.

So how do we trust in something that doesn’t seem to be happening quick enough? How do we learn to step back, take a breath and have confidence in something we seemingly have no assurance of? Well, there are some things we DO have assurance of. Some things that we can count on.

“I the Lord am bound when ye do what I say; but when ye do not what I say, ye have no promise.” (D&C 82:10)

Do what I say.”? . . .
I can do that. I want to do that. I will do that. I made a commitment long ago to do that. Sometimes I might have to learn His will on a particular subject, but when I do, I will do whatever is necessary to align myself to it. Why? Because of this assurance: “My words are sure and shall not fail, …. wherefore be not weary in well-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great. Behold the Lord requireth the heart and a willing mind; …. ” (D&C 64:31-34)

I decided long ago that there was no one I wanted bound to me, more than God. His counsel here is simple and straight forward, hard to misunderstand: “DO WHAT I SAY”. His promise is equally simple and straight forward: “I THE LORD AM BOUND”. The opposite is true in reverse “when ye do not what I say, ye have no promise.”

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Someone recently told me that not only was I relying on unsustainable promises regarding the law of the harvest, but that I was encouraging others to put too much stock in harvests that may never come. She pointed out that sometimes a gardener plants and cares for a garden only to lose it through no fault of his or her own. Drought. Disease. Hail. Early frost. Any number of rotten tricks that nature can play on us will affect a harvest. And can even remove a season’s harvest completely from the picture. I know that. I’ve lost seasons’ harvests to unexpected early frosts, to hail and to other things beyond my control. But it has not diminished my testimony of the bigger picture.

Many years ago, we had an experience that taught me a life long lesson, that became the foundation of what would develop into a strong testimony of this principle. It is a lesson that I have seen recur multiple times, not just in my own life, but in the lives of those I love. Dan and I lived in a small Alberta city – Camrose. Our first baby had just been born, Dan was working in a bank there, and we began to set down roots, expecting Camrose to be our home for some time to come. We bought a modest home that we were to take possession of July 1, and since it was empty, we asked if we could plant a garden before we moved in. It was to be our first ‘real’ garden in our very own ‘real’ home. We felt so grown up.

We planted the garden. I have no idea what we planted in it, only that we did. About the middle of June, Dan lost his job. Big surprise, and overnight everything changed. We couldn’t take possession of the house obviously, and we had already put in notice with our landlord. So we packed up and moved into Dan’s mom’s basement while we tried to figure out what we were going to do from there. By September, Dan was back at school upgrading, working on the weekends delivering pizza, and we found a little apartment in our old ward on the west side of Edmonton. Friends in the ward were harvesting their own gardens and we received garden gifts from time to time. Cucumbers here, tomatoes there, lettuce, carrots and beets – it was wonderful. One day I mentioned to my new friend Shirley Clelland, “I didn’t even have a garden this year, and yet I am harvesting probably more than I would have if I had had one .” She offered a perspective I had never considered, with a gospel truth I had not known.

You may not have harvested your own garden Cindy,” she said “but you DID plant a garden. And it is because of your garden that you are being blessed this way.“  She pointed out the principle of obedience. That promise that when we obey a law, we receive the blessings associated with it. Plain and simple – according to her. The prophet said “plant a garden” – we had. The circumstances surrounding the fact that we didn’t harvest it were incidental. The principle stood. She bore testimony to me in her straight forward way, that I could count on that principle all the days of my life. “There is a law irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated.” she recited, “And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which is is predicated.” (D&C 130:20,21) I didn’t know it then, but my life changed that day.

I had seen the fruit of the principle with my own two eyes. And yes, Shirley was right, I had planted a garden. Pitiful though it might have been, I had been obedient. I had tried my best to obey. That was all that mattered. God is in the details. When we get stuck in expecting the harvest to look exactly how we think it should, we may miss a lot.

Lesson 4 – Don’t discount a harvest simply because it looks different than you expected

Assurance of a harvest doesn’t mean you’re always gonna have a bumper crop of tomatoes. It doesn’t guarantee employment, or freedom from problems. And obeying gospel laws and principles doesn’t protect us from all of life’s trials. But it will frame them differently, and it will make all the difference in the final outcome.

We’ve had our share of unemployment. Along with many others in the economic downturn Alberta experienced in the mid 1980’s, we lost our house. Dan went back to school and worked part time when we had four children. There were many hard things about those years, and in the following years of repaying student loans. And there were great blessings too, although none of them looked much like money. We learned the importance of having a Food Storage, and we relied upon it. We learned to live within our means. We learned the difficult lesson of staying out of debt. Dan got a job he enjoyed with the government, and we got on with the business of raising our children.

In 1996 we bought a failing business that we believed we could turn around. An independent niche Bookstore. It wasn’t a dream we’d always had, it simply presented itself one day, and it felt like the right thing to do. Dan continued to work full time, and I took over the management of it. Our kids all worked there over the years we owned it, and there were many wonderful things that came from those years. But it was very hard too. 60 hour weeks. The first four years of no income from it – every dollar went back into it, paying off the bank loan, overhead, stock, freight, staff, . . . . etc etc etc. About five years later, we had a big surprise. One day Dan went to work as usual, and was home two hours later.

Downsized. It took our breath away. We were stunned. Could hardly speak. It took a few days before we could even tell the kids. We had five children by then, our daughter had just gotten married, our oldest son had recently returned from a mission. Our other boys were aged 11 – 17. While we sat together in a family meeting, our oldest asked the question that was on everybody’s mind: “What does this mean? What is this going to look like on the day-to-day? What’s going to change? What do we do different?”

It was with relief and tremendous gratitude that I could reassure them with “We are in good shape. Other than the house, we don’t have any debt. We own two decent cars, if we have to sell one, we can. Our priority is to not loose the house. Every ounce of energy will go into protecting it, and we will do without what we must do without to keep it safe. ” I reminded them of our Food Storage. “From the outside looking in,” I said “it will appear as if life is going on the same as it ever did. We pay our tithing and the Lord will sustain us. We’ll simply be careful until Dad is back to working fulltime.”

It went on a lot longer than we expected; in fact – Dan never did get back into his field. It was an emotionally difficult time, especially hard on him, as much of his confidence and feelings of self worth, were tied up in being gainfully employed. He picked up part time seasonal work at a local hardware store, then started building fences and decks. He eventually started a maintenance business and gained a contract with a big property company in the city. But that took years. Through it all, we still had our bookstore, which just before his layoff had turned a corner in that we had finally paid it off. So many times in the months and years that went by, I paused and considered “Wow! Who could have imagined that this would go on as long as it has? What would have happened to us if we had had credit card debt?” I had no doubt that had we been in unnecessary debt, we would have lost the house.

Bad things happen. Even to good people. Job loss happens. Illness happens. No one is exempt from trials in this life. And some of the harvests are less than stellar. Sometimes what we worked for ends up being regrettable. As difficult as that episode was for us, it was a first rate lesson in the importance of staying out of debt. Debt would have changed our harvest considerably. It was a tangible, touchable lesson for our whole family. Most of our kids were old enough to understand, and went into their own marriages with a healthy appreciation for living within one’s means. For that alone, I would say it was worth it. Not that I’d ever want to go through it again, but what we gained from those hard years is hard to put a price on. The harvest? Nothing we pictured in the beginning. But as so often happens when the Lord is involved, it turned out much better.

Lesson 5 – Don’t look back.

Every season gardeners learn new lessons about what they’re growing. Sometimes the lesson is what worked beautifully, so that we can repeat it. Sometimes the lesson is what NOT to do next time. But whatever we learned, it took the whole season to finalize the lesson. Nothing can be done to reverse a season, and we only get one chance at it. We may even lose the whole season’s harvest.

There is nothing to do, but to go forward. Next time – simply do better, applying what we learned, gaining confidence along the way with improved skills. Maya Angelou’s counsel is another mantra to me, and I have it written in big letters on a wall I see every day. “Do the BEST you can until you know better. Then when you know better, DO BETTER.” I love it because it doesn’t dwell on past mistakes. It encourages me not to grovel in guilt after I have repented. It motivates me to go forward and do better. It is simple and straight forward – just like the gospel. I do best with “simple-and-straight-forward”.

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The law of the harvest is as real to me as the sun and the moon. I have seen it implemented year after year, simple and straight forward, and above all dependable. I have confidence in it. I have reaped many harvests – not all of them good, but they were what I sowed. I am currently reaping a harvest I set in motion many years ago. I trust the principle so much that it is a guiding influence in my life. It motivates every decision. Some people refer to serendipity. Some refer to karma. Some refer to luck. Those things imply fickle ‘chance’, and I cannot invest in chance. The law of the harvest is not chance. It is a natural law, as much as gravity is a law of physics, and we can count on it to the same degree. Even more so. And when we do, I pray that it will be the JOY OF HARVEST we experience, as is so beautifully depicted in Simon Dewey’s classic picture above.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the law of the harvest and how it applies to life outside the garden as well as in it.

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

Pot-pourri

What a bleak world this would be without flowers: without their gorgeous colour, and their sweet intoxicating, natural fragrance. In the warm months, flowers abound in and around our homes, with many practical reasons for growing them – not simply “to gladden the heart“. But in the cold months, one has to be more ‘deliberate’ about including them. That’s where potpourri becomes an invited guest, but before we get to that, lets talk about how important flowers are to our gardens. Here are 6 reasons to grow them.

1. To attract pollinators

Bee enjoying the flower head of garlic chives, cut and destined to be part of a kitchen bouquet

The most important reason I grow flowers is because I like them. But probably the most important reason I grow flowers IN the vegetable garden, is to attract pollinators. Bees are not the only pollinators, but they’re the most recognizable, and they’re every gardener’s friend. As the bees (and other insects) collect pollen, they distribute it to nearby fruits and vegetables pollinating as they go. The longer pollinators stay in your garden, the greater the pollination rate, so planting flowers among vegetables like zucchini and other squash, and cucumbers is very important. Look for bright coloured flowers. Studies indicate that bees like the colour purple. I grow Borage throughout my vegetable garden primarily because of their purple flowers which attract the bees.

2. As companion plants

rosemary in the centre, marigold to the right, red orach behind, poppy leaf at 11:00, borage leaf at 7:00

Sometimes for shade, sometimes to attract pollinators, sometimes to attract pests away from vulnerable neighbouring vegetables, sometimes to repel pests, flowers are more than just pretty faces in the garden.

3. To improve soil

Flowers from the legume family like Sweet peas, Lupins, Wisteria and Clover can improve nitrogen levels in your soil, not just from growing but even after they’ve finished growing. With the lawn mower, chop up spent bean and pea plants, and then use as mulch in areas of your garden that need nitrogen. As the mulch breaks down and rain filters through it, important minerals like nitrogen are returned to the soil. As my Borage grows bigger and begins to shade surrounding plants, I cut stems to put into summer bouquets, but remnants get added to the mowing.
There are many other plants (not just flowers) like Mullein and Comfrey – that provide great ‘green manure’ for your garden. Be open minded to a benefit you may not have considered before.

4. To eat

summer garden salad: garden greens including leaf lettuce, nasturtium leaves, lambs quarters, dandelion leaves, carrot greens, marigold petals, nasturtium flowers, candied pecans, fresh garden raspberries

Many flowers like nasturtiums are more than beautiful splashes of colour in the garden, and more than attractive faces to pollinators. They are delicious, and nutritious. Nasturtium flowers and leaves, pansies and marigold petals are the perfect addition to any summer salad. Making sure they’re free of chemicals is important, but you know what you’re adding or not adding to your own garden. Common edible flowers are Nasturtiums, Calendula (and other marigolds), Borage, and Pansies (including violas). I even freeze Delphiniums and Geraniums in ice cubes to add to chopped water in a glass dispenser.

All parts of the Nasturtium plant is not only edible and delicious, but highly nutritious: flower, leaves, stem and seeds. Search the keyword “nasturtium” to read other posts about this wonderful and versatile plant.

*cautionary hint: Not all flowers are edible so do some research and get recommendations before you freely harvest. My grandkids enjoy eating the many things I give them to try but we have a very strict rule which is – you cannot eat anything that isn’t a berry – unless Gramma gave it you to eat.

5. To gladden the heart

Getting back to the “gladden-the-heart” part. For most of my married life, my mother in law had freshly cut flowers on her table all summer long, and I came to find JOY in that. It is a rare day that I do not follow her example and have fresh garden flowers on my table during the warm months. Through doing so, I have personally come to know the meaning of what ‘gladden the heart‘ means. Growing flowers ensures a steady supply of every changing seasonal bouquets, and that has become increasingly important to me as I get older.

6. Preserving

Drying flowers when they’re in their prime extends their season and their reach throughout the winter. Who says we can’t have flowers on our table all winter long too? That’s where potpourri comes in.

Flowers in the house – Potpourri

The definition of Potpourri (pronounced ‘poh-poo-ree‘, is “a mixture of dried flower petals with spices, kept in a pot or jar for their fragrance“. Variations of potpourris have been used for millennia, all over the world – for fragrance. The type of potpourri I make is patterned after European recipes, mostly because of climate related ingredients. The mixture contains dried flower petals and spices, and essential oils, as well as ‘fixatives’ – the ingredient used to ‘FIX’ the scent.

While there may have been a myriad of reasons people used potpourri in days gone by, there is only one reason I use it. Because I love the smell of flowers. There is something about flowers that come from one’s own garden, lasting for years in a potpourri mixture . . . . I have a 3 gallon crock in my living room full of flower petals that I have dried – some of those petals have been there for decades. I add to it yearly, tossing new petals into the old. Making your own potpourri is easy, and using flowers and herbs from your own garden makes it personal and memorable.  

part one – the ingredients

When selecting flowers, look for ones that keep their colour.
* Rule #1 – don’t rush your potpourri. Like many good things, sour dough and potpourri cannot be rushed. You’ll be starting in the summer as you’re drying flowers, and you’ll be finishing mid winter – perhaps. This isn’t a race, and good potpourri will last for years and years – so relax, take a breath and enjoy the process.

* Rose petals have always been the most basic and important part of any potpourri mixture. I grow few roses, but I collect some from friends, and of course – I receive fresh roses from time to time throughout the year. I never waste them.

Other flowers: Any flower that has a pleasant natural scent and retains a nice shape and colour when dried, is a prime candidate for most potpourri mixtures. Carnations, lilacs, violets, pansies, geraniums, peonies and lily of the valley are good choices. The only petal that I keep separate for its own unique potpourri is ‘Lavender’, and that is simply because it is different enough that it deserves its own pot, and because I am particularly partial to the scent of lavender. If I am to add any other flowers to a lavender potpourri, they will also be purple, of small delicate petals and similar in general, like lilacs, dephiniums, corn flower (bachelor buttons) and forget-me-nots .

Common herbs: such as oregano, rosemary, marjoram, thyme, lemon verbena, basil, assorted mints, sage, lemon balm and meadow sweet are good choices to add to floral mixtures or to use separately.

Spices: fragrant spices such as cinnamon bark pieces, whole cloves and allspice are sometimes used, and I can see their value, but they don’t usually make it into my own mixtures unless I’m making something ‘Christmassy’.

Citrus peel: In many old recipes, dried whole oranges are crushed and mixed with spices. Or one could thinly pare the rind from an orange, lemon, lime or even grapefruit and dry till crisp. They can be added whole or crushed.

this jar is chopped and dried orris root from 2019 and 2020.
Probably next summer I will grind it up in my coffee grinder to use.

Fixatives: A fixative is a substance that absorbs scents and retains them for a long time.  You really need a fixative, the gentle scent of flowers is simply too delicate to last.

The only fixative I have ever used in ORRIS ROOT. You may find it in specialty shops like spice stores, some garden shops, health food stores, or even craft stores, and it is something I can make myself – which of course is always appealing. Orris Root is literally the root of an iris plant. When you buy it, it may come in ‘crumbles’ or as a fine powder not unlike icing sugar in texture. It is easy to use.

Sandalwood. I have never used sandalwood, mostly because I don’t know where to buy it, but I do like the smell of it, and wouldn’t be opposed to using small pieces or slivers of it in a potpourri mixture from time to time.

Essential oils: Essential oils are added to potpourri mixtures to strengthen the scent. Be adventurous and experiment: of course you’re going to use your favourite scents, but try combining oils of ‘like’ scents, try mixing floral and herb scents that you like. Constantly test the ‘scent’ when mixing into your bowl of flowers.

part two – colour and texture

Potpourri should be as beautiful to look at as it is to smell, so pay particular attention to the dried colour of what you’re using. Occasionally you come across a flower or herb, that when dried, completely loses its beautiful colour. Don’t use it unless it smells so amazing you cannot pass it up, but seriously, I cannot think of a single example of an ugly dried flower that smells that amazing. Flowers that dry with beautiful shapes and colours are: borage, delphinium, forget-me-nots, hydrangeas, marigolds, nasturtiums, pansies, salvia, tansy and zinnias. Consider adding rose hips and other interesting treasures in your garden for texture.

Sometimes you come across such perfectly shaped small flower heads or beautiful whole buds, that it seems immoral to rip them apart. Keep them in their form. If drying them is an issue, you can use a drying agent – a ‘dessicant’ to help.

using desiccants for texture

Silica Gel
The most commonly used medium for drying flowers is SILICA GEL. You should be able to buy from a drug store, a craft store or a hardware store. To use, simply put a one inch layer of silica gel in an airtight container, gently place the trimmed bud or flower on top of the gel, stem tip down. Some flowers may want to lay on their side, some might be best laid stem tip up. Be flexible. Gently pour the gel on top of the flower, taking care to get gel between petals if possible, eventually covering the whole flower. Seal the container and place in a secure place, safe from being jostled. Expect it to take 2 – 6 days for most flowers depending on how dense they are.
* hint: Afer use, silica gel must be re-dried. Spread out on a tray and dryin a low oven until completely dry. Store away for future use.

Borax
I have never used borax to dry flowers but it sounds very compelling to me. I will for sure try it. According to directions, take 1 part BORAX and 2 parts cornmeal and stir to completely blend. Layer borax mixture in airtight container the same as for silica gel, place flower on top in the same way as above, gently sprinkling borax mixture over top. Not necessary to completely cover. Seal and put away. Leave for about two weeks, checking occasionally after the first week.

part three – harvesting and drying

Flowers: Just when the flowers are at their most beautiful – usually just before fully opening, is when they’re perfect. Afterward, both scent and colour will begin to diminish. Gather on a dry day, mid morning is best – after the dew has dried but before the heat of the sun.

When drying, pay particular attention to not crowding them. I usually just leave them spread out and loose on a clean tea towel in the open air inside the house and away from direct sunlight which may fade them. If you have a lot, use a baking rack to keep the air circulating. Petals should be dry and slightly crisp, which could take several days in some cases, so don’t be in a hurry.

part four – assembling your Potpourri

– Dry all flowers and leaves till they are crisp.
– Use a glass or ceramic bowl or pot to mix. Never use plastic or anything porous, or metal. Plastic will keep the smell long after making it difficult to use for anything else, and some metals may react to some oils. You really should dedicate your bowl to potpourri – then you don’t have to worry about scents lingering.
– Place all your petals and leaves in large bowl, add any other non powdered ingredient.
– Mix your scent and fixative: Simply add drops of the essential oil of your choice a few drops at a time and mixing well after each addition to an amount of orris root. How much orris root? Depends on how much potpourri you’re making, but maybe start with 4 ounces for approximately 6-10 cups petals. Blend essential oil into the powder with your fingers or the back of a spoon until thoroughly blended.
– Sprinkle the scented orris root onto the flower mixture, then toss with your hands to ensure it is sufficiently incorporated.
– Add whole citrus peel, whole spices and buds if using. Gently toss with fingers again.
– Gently move potpourri mixture into jars, crock, or ziplock bags. Seal to leave for about 6 weeks to set. If in a jar or bag, do not leave in direct sunlight. Toss petals or shake bags frequently – every day or two to prevent fixative from settling.

part five – Enjoying your potpourri. For years!

My 3 gallon Medalta crock is the main container for rose scented petals of all kinds. I’ve been using this crock for about 40 years. It can never be used for anything else at this point; I expect that scent has become part of the crock.

For many years I kept my potpourri in a crock pot in the living room. When the house whas freshly cleaned, I would remove the lid, toss the petals and let the scent waft through the room. A very good friend of mine developed a sensitivity to perfumes that evolved into sensitivity to most scents, including flowers. At first, I paid attention to NOT having the potpourri open when I was expecting her to visit, but it got so that I stopped lifting the lid at all in case she stopped by. I didn’t want her to not be comfortable in my house. This was quite a sacrifice at first, but soon we mostly forgot about what was in that crock. Life changes and my friend moved away. One day I rediscovered my lost love of potpourri and began the process of getting back into the habit of using it.

How to use

rose scented and mostly rose based in an antique jar and a not-so-antique jar

Don’t leave your potpourri out in the open for days at a time. The smell will dissipate over time. Personally, I never bring it out until the house is cleaned. It’s kind of a reward I suppose, but it just makes sense to me that a clean smell should go with a clean house.

1. Pour your potpourri into an attractive bowl in your living room. Toss with your fingers. Before you go to bed, pour back into the crock, or jar.

2. Make small sachets out of thin cotton fabric. Store them in your drawers, closet, linen cupboard, or even pillow cases.

3. Keep in pretty antique jars that you can put on the table, your dresser or your bathroom counter when desired. When done, replace the lid and put away. Keep jars out of sunlight.

Remember, that even the best oils will eventually lose their scent. Toss the petals with your hands from time to time, and refresh your potpourri with a few more drops of oil when needed. You can always start a new batch next summer, or continue to add to existing batch every season. For years I have two potpourris going. The big one is probably one third roses, so I use ROSE as my primary scent of choice. The smaller one is LAVENDER which is about half lavender petals and leaves, and the other half – supplemental petals like lilacs, delphiniums and borage flowers.

Lavender with a few like coloured flower petals like pansies, violas, lilacs and even a rose.

4. I buy nice little jars or make nice little cloth sachets and fill them up for gifts. Tie a piece of ribbon or lace.

I’d love to hear your experience with homemade potpourri. If this is your first time making one, be brave – you cannot go wrong. Have fun and tell me how it went.

warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

there is Power in the Book

President Ezra Taft Benson declared:
There is a power in the book which will begin to flow into your lives the moment you begin a serious study of the book. You will find greater power to resist temptation. You will find the power to avoid deception. You will find the power to stay on the strait and narrow path. The scriptures are called ‘the words of life’ (D&C 84:85), and nowhere is that more true than it is of the Book of Mormon. When you begin to hunger and thirst after those words, you will find life in greater and greater abundance. … [You will also enjoy] increased love and harmony in the home, greater respect between parent and child, [and] increased spirituality and righteousness.”
“These promises,
” President Benson assured, “are not idle promises, but exactly what the Prophet Joseph Smith meant when he said the Book of Mormon will help us draw nearer to God” (GC, Oct. 1986)

I have found over my life, that these words are true. I have taught that they are true. And one can receive the blessings from that power according to the personal diligence that one gives to the book. I taught my seminary students that if they were to do nothing but carry that book in their arms to and from school, and between classes and lay it beside them during classes, they would receive strength from it. How much more then, could they receive from it, if they opened it up and looked at the pictures now and again? And if so, how much more strength could they receive from it if they actually read from its passages? And then – what if they chose to start at the beginning and read it through? And finally, WHAT COULD BE OUR BLESSING if we seriously engage in an earnest STUDY of it? With a faith filled desire to know and understand its mysteries?

I testify from my own personal experience that the power and strength one receives from the Book of Mormon, will be in direct association to the time and focus one devotes to it. There is, as President Benson promised – “a power in the book which will begin to flow into your lives the moment you begin a serious study of the book.”

Who among us does not want
* greater power to resist temptation?
* power to avoid deception?
* power to stay on the strait and narrow path?
* life in greater and greater abundance?
* increased love and harmony in the home?
* greater respect between parent and child?
* increased spirituality and righteousness?

Are you kidding? What would I be willing to give in order to see these promises fulfilled in my life? What would YOU be willing to give to see them fulfilled in your life?
As with so many things that come from God, the deal is not complicated. The answer in fact, is deceptively simple. ‘Simple’ does not necessarily mean ‘easy to do’, it just means ‘straightforward’ and ‘uncomplicated’. A prophet of God – Ezra Taft Benson, promised me that “When [I] begin to hunger and thirst after those words . … ” I will see those blessings manifest in my life. I took him at his word. I engaged in the ‘challenge’, and I though I loved the book before, my appreciation for it increased exponentially, and my love deepened.

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

a house should have a cookie jar

Many years ago I happened upon this little poem, and I wrote it down. Where? or when? or from whom? I cannot even venture a guess at this point in time, but it has been in my collection for decades – and I’ll have to leave it at that. When my mom was a little girl she promised herself that when she grew up to be a ‘mommy’, she would ALWAYS have a cookie jar that was full of cookies. I can attest that we had a cookie jar when she was momming, and occasionally it had cookies in it. I on the other hand, made no such promise.

“A house should have a cookie jar for when its half past three
and children hurry home from school as hungry as can be
there’s nothing quite as splendid as spicy, fluffy ginger snaps and sweet milk in a cup.

A house should have a mother, waiting with a hug. No matter what a child brings home, a puppy or a bug
for children only loiter when the bell rings to dismiss
if no ones home to greet them with a cookie and a kiss. “

– annonymous

And that’s all I have to say about that.

But I’d love to hear your experiences with a cookie jar.

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle



Thanksgiving – food and memories

I don’t know when I started loving fall and Thanksgiving. The colours, the smells, the foods, the geese flying south, the warmth of the sun on still autumn days, the crunch of leaves while walking in the river valley, sitting around the fire on crisp evenings, . . . . . Not sure if I always have loved it, or if it started with autumn memories that included Dan. We started dating in Edmonton during the late summer, and I moved away within weeks to Cold Lake.  I was a teenager just starting high school. He came up to see me a time or two and we wrote for a while, but long distance romances when you’re that young are difficult at best.

Two years later I was passing through Edmonton again in the late summer and we reconnected for a short while. A couple of dates and I was back in Cold Lake in September to begin my final year of high school. I had grown up a little, he had grown up a little more.  The following weekend, he drove to Cold Lake to visit me and I prepared us a picnic lunch.  There are plenty of beautiful places to go for picnics around Cold Lake, and we had a lovely time.  This became the beginning of many weekend pilgrimages from Edmonton to Cold Lake, throughout the fall and winter.  It wasn’t long before we became engaged.  He got an insider look at my family in all our glory: good, bad, and yes, even the occasional ugly.  He came to church with me on Sundays and met many of my friends.   Conversations lasting many hours helped us get to know each other, and eventually winter turned to spring.  He wanted to get married in the spring, but for me, it had to be fall.   I needed a little bit of time between high school and the commitment of marriage. And fall had become a significant time in our story anyway.  We were married the following October.  Thanksgiving weekend.  My apologies to everyone who had to give up their Thanksgiving weekend that year to travel to our wedding. That meant you didn’t get your usual traditional Thanksgiving Dinner – which I never considered at the time.   Sorry ’bout that.

Thanksgiving includes DINNER to me – one that involves planning and preparation.   In the beginning, we were always at one of our parents’ homes on the Thanksgiving weekend. There were some constants between our homes of course: roast turkey, dressing, mashed potatoes with gravy,  cranberry sauce and pumpkin pie. And there were some variables: brussel sprouts, sweet potatoes, broccoli salad, perogies, cabbage rolls, variations on pies and pumpkin, and my Gramma Harrison’s marshmallow fruit salad – depending on where we were.  But it was always with family. That was the critical component.

Thanksgiving however, is more than dinner. It’s memories. It’s harvesting the garden. It’s late summer tomatoes. It’s apples, and apple juice, purple grapes and high bush cranberries. It’s the humidity of the canner, the hum of the dehydrator. It’s crisp outside, warm inside. It’s family. It’s the time of year (not just the day, but all the weeks leading up to it) that the bounty of the season causes one to pause and reflect on those things we’re most grateful for. And more than that, its a good time to vocally express our appreciation to others and to Heavenly Father.

Over Dan and my years together, Thanksgiving evolved from us going to our parents homes, to us hosting our parents and others.  That was when the metal of tradition was put to the test.  Which of our family’s established traditions would we incorporate into our lives? and which new traditions would we create with and for our children?  For those traditionalists like me, we like certain things done the same way, every time.  We like revisiting celebrations the same way.  For me, Thanksgiving must include turkey with all that means to me. Christmas Eve much include bread and cheese.  Easter must include coloured eggs.   All the above must include PEOPLE. But in these difficult Covid times that are messing with our usual way of doing things we can still find ways to celebrate and enjoy important ‘traditions’.   In fact there has probably never been a time when we were in more need of the cohesiveness of traditions.

apples, apple juice, apple sauce, apple leather, apple crisp, and of course . . . apple pie

I am a gardener, so harvest has particular meaning to me, and a definite connection to our Thanksgiving menu.  In addition to the must-have turkey with fixings, dinner must include things I’ve harvested.  Things like Cranberry juice from our own high bush cranberry. Made into a sparkling drink.  Homemade Cranberry sauce – made from fresh or frozen cranberries, or even better – freeze dried cranberries. Dressing made with homemade bread, onions, garlic and other herbs from the garden. Vegetables of course, from this year’s harvest. Apples: apple pie, apple juice, apple sauce, apples in salad. Pumpkin: maybe pie, maybe tarts, maybe cheese cake, maybe cookies, maybe dip for gingersnap cookies. Grape: pie from our own grapes.  Bread – homemade rolls. And of course, FAMILY – the greatest harvest of all.  This year, by stupid covid necessity our numbers will be fewer.  One son’s family will be with their other grandparents.   One son’s family will be with another son’s family.  My mother will be with my niece.   Our daughter’s and another son’s families will be with us.  Friends – another great harvest, will be not be around our table this year.  But we will gather as we can, and enjoy the food and companionship of each other.  

Don’t ever discount the importance of food in celebrations, traditions and memories.  Most of us have very strong food-memories, for good or bad. That is why food is so important in how we celebrate special days, and in how we associate with certain people. A strong (and good) food memory for me is “chicken noodles”; many years of family gatherings and happy times are associated with this family favourite. And it is the natural suffix of Thanksgiving turkey. Ukrainian Cabbage Rolls are another strong food-memory for me. No one could make cabbage rolls like Dan’s step-mom Margaret, and no family dinner that she put on would be complete without them. Its been a loss for many years. University of Massachusetts Professor of Psychology Susan Krauss Whitbourne teaches us that “Food memories involve very basic, nonverbal areas of the brain and can bypass your conscious awareness.   This is why you can have strong emotional reactions when you eat a food that arouses deep unconscious memories. . . . The memory goes beyond the food itself to the associations you have to that long ago memory.”   For many of us, those food memories are already well established, but our children’s food-memories are still forming, and we have a tremendous influence on their creation and evolution.   Wouldn’t it be nice if most of those associations were good ones?

Happy Thanksgiving dear ones.


Warmly,
Cindy Suelzle

a Good Neighbourhood . . .

Good neighbourhoods do not exist independently of people. They’re not specific about the size of houses or yards. Whether your nearest neighbour lives across the hall, across the street, down the alley, across a field, or down the road, you live in a ‘community’. And everyone who lives in the same community has one thing in common. Its the one thing that every good neighbourhood needs no matter where it is: good neighbours.  So how do you GET good neighbours?   Ah, that’s the mystery isn’t it?  Its really very simple. If you want to live in a good neighbourhood, you must be a GOOD neighbour.  There.  That’s the long and short of it.  The consistent inescapable reality – that “it always comes back to you“. 

When speaking about friends, Christian songwriter Michael McLean said:
Everyone hopes to find one true friend who’s the kind
They can count on for forever and a day.
BE that friend, be that kind that you prayed you might find
And you’ll always have a best friend, come what may.”


Well the same thing applies to neighbours.  Why should you care?  and why do you want to live in a good neighbourhood anyway? I suppose there must be many personal reasons, but these are the ones that are important to me. Perhaps some of them might be important to you too. Here’s the clincher though: good neighbourhoods don’t just happen. They’re created by the good neighbours who live in them. So herein, you might find some ideas worth implementing, you may even find courage to step out of your comfort zone and make it happen. Somebody’s gotta start the ball rolling. It might as well be you.

10 reasons you want to live in a ‘good’ neighbourhood and how to make your’s one.

1.   People are social beings
Whether you want to admit it or not, we ALL need other people.  Of the things we learned from Covid, one of them is that we cannot be happy for long without other people.  Perhaps you consider yourself more of a loner.  Yeah, whatever.  So am I.  But whether you admit it to yourself or not, everyone has the same basic social needs and that is to be *safe, *loved, and *to feel important.  So deny all you want, I don’t believe you.   We are not an island and we were never intended to be an island.  

2. Living where people are friendly makes for a more comfortable, peaceful environment.  Even for the grump who inevitably lives in every neighbourhood. 

3.  Good neighbourhoods are SAFER.  
Good neighbours pay attention.  They notice things.  They watch out for each other and their property.  They are invested in your safety, just as you are invested in their’s. 

Several years ago, when our kids were teenagers, it was a common prank among their peers to TP each other’s houses.  Their friends’ homes, their teachers’ homes, their neighbours’ homes.   Don’t ask me why.  TP is toilet paper if you didn’t know.  Sneaking to a friends’ house late at night and stringing TP over their trees, hedges, vehicles, fences … anything they could reach.  You wake up in the morning, and …. you’ve been TP’d.  It was a fun thing to do, and fun thing to have done to you too.  Like I say, don’t ask me why.  My kids did it too, so you can’t expect not to get TP’d if you are also a culprit.  What goes around comes around.  I must admit, we have some fun memories involving toilet paper. 

Late one fall night I got a concerned phone call from my neighbour across the street.  “Cindy, sorry for calling so late. I was on my way home, and I noticed something going on in your yard so I pulled over to watch.  Some kids. ….”
“Are they causing damage?”
“It doesn’t look like it.  Hard to say.  Just go look out your front window.”
   I absorbed his concern, and peaked out my front window. 
OH!  That.  Its okay Dwight.  Its just a bunch of Sarah’s friends.”
“But they’re … “
“I know. Its what they do.  Don’t worry about it.  I’ll have Sarah take care of it in the morning.”
  We had a rule in our house.  If it was your friends who did it, then you get to be the one cleaning it up.  Like I say, what goes around comes around. “Thank-you for worrying about it Bryce, but this sorta thing is just part of living with teenagers.  My kids do it too.  Its okay.  Its not vandalism.”

The point is, that our neighbour cared enough to notice, to be concerned, and he-knew-our-phone-number to alert us of something he thought was amiss.  Good neighbours are also the most logical ones to keep an eye on your house while you’re away from home.  There’s added security in knowing that you all have each others’ eyes and ears. 

4.  Good neighbours share. 

I know it seems so cliche to borrow an egg from a neighbour, but sometimes – you just need something you didn’t expect to run out of, and it sure is handy to have that reciprocal relationship.  You wouldn’t ask someone you didn’t know if you could borrow a cuppa sugar, or an egg, or some other small thing. 

Sometimes neighbours share bigger things too.  We bought a weed trimmer several years ago with one of our next door neighbours.  You only use something like that how many times a year? and they last forever.  It didn’t seem necessary for both households to own one.  So we shared, and its worked out well for many years.

Sometimes neighbours even share BIG things.  We don’t often need a snow blower in Edmonton, but we live in a crescent so once in a while it sure would be nice to have one. But for the few times a year that you’d use one it was cost prohibitive and difficult to justify, unless . . . . you could co-own one . . . . .  Dan talked to the three neighbours closest to us and all agreed to jointly buy a snow blower.  You wouldn’t feel comfortable asking a stranger about entering into that kind of relationship, but this too, has worked well for many years. 
The common thread is that actually ‘knowing’ your neighbour, makes it easier to lend, borrow and jointly own – or not.

Sharing on building (and replacing) common fences is another ‘co-owned’ investment that benefits everyone involved.

5.  Good neighbours HELP
Its an easy thing to lend a hand when you see a neighbour struggling with a package, or involved in a project.  And even just a few minutes assisting someone can be relationship defining. Look for those opportunities, and take them.
We share a common front lawn with our neighbour.  Not really, but neither of us know nor care exactly where the property line is.  When one is mowing the front lawn, how easy is it to mow both sides of it?  So we do, and so do they.  Its been much appreciated on both sides, for many years. 

6. Good neighbours ARE RESPECTFUL AND CONSIDERATE.

Maintain your yard and shared spaces.  Keep your weeds down, and your pets under control.  Even if you’re not that motivated to keep your property tidy, consider what it looks like to your neighbours, and go the distance.   Don’t allow garbage to accumulate, keep your lawn watered and mowed and tidy.  If you don’t like to weed, then establish a low maintenance yard, but keep it tidy. I cannot emphasize the importance of this enough.  

Don’t make a lot of noise, especially after dark. 
If you’re gonna have outdoor company with excessive noise or a fire in the backyard, give your neighbour the respectful heads up, and promise to keep it reasonable.
Don’t let your teens party hardy late into the night either.  They can make a LOT of noise.

If you’re having a large group and parking might be an issue, let your neighbours know ahead of time and try to keep it manageable.  Ask your company to be courteous.   If nothing else, apologize ahead of time. LOL

7. Good neighbours are PATIENT and Overlook the small stuff.
When our kids were young we had a trampoline.  It was a magnet for all their friends and the source of a lot of kid-noise.  We never had a neighbour complain.  To be fair, most of their kids spent considerable time on it too.  Once, when I was jumping on it, I noticed how visible many yards around us were from the high point of the jump.  No one had any real privacy with our trampoline. I realized that our trampoline affected people in the several houses immediately surrounding us.  It was not lost on me that no one had ever complained, and I really appreciated it. 

One of our next door neighbours used to have a few friends over once or twice on summer evenings to sit around the fire.  They played music and after a few beers, they could get a little noisy, and yes, maybe even a little irritating if you were trying to sleep.  It made it difficult to escape with our backyards adjoining and bedroom windows open as they most often are in the summer.  These were the times to remember our noisy kids on the trampoline in the daytime. We never complained about those noisy parties, they were infrequent enough that in the big picture, we considered them more than a fair trade.

For years I had several wind chimes hanging outside our kitchen door and along our back deck.  One day as I stood on the back deck visiting with Glenda our next door neighbour there was a slight breeze which made the wind chimes happy.  For the first time I took note of the fact that their bedroom window was open and right across the fence from my wind chimes.   Our bedroom window was around the corner, so on breezy evenings, we were never bothered by the chimes, but it was impossible for our neighbours to not be bothered from time to time.  So I asked “Do these chimes bother you at night sometimes?” Glenda admitted that sometimes they bothered George.  “OH! I am so sorry!”  I exclaimed “Why didn’t you say something?” 
Oh it’s not that bad.” she claimed, but she was lying of course.  I know what its like to lay awake by an irritating night noise.  I took the wind chimes down that very hour, never to go back up in that area of our yard again.  They appreciated it.

Now in a different house, we have grandchildren. Once a year in the summer time, we have a Grandkids Day, (sometimes a few days).  All 18 of our grandkids come over to hang out with us.  Outside mostly.  On the trampoline, in the treehouse, riding bikes in the crescent, and making their share of noise.  That’s a lot of kids. And that can be a lot of ‘kid-noise’. In the beginning I was hyper sensitive about bothering our neighbours.  Dan and I delivered notes around the crescent to let them know of our plans, asking for their patience and also their extra care in backing out of their driveways with all the bikes, scooters, and other riding toys that would be in use.  They were and continue to all be very patient. 

As our teens grew they all got cars, and on the evenings their friends came over, there could be a lotta cars parked around our house.  Our most immediate neighbour jokingly commented once that living next door to the Suelzles was like living next door to a used car lot.  They weren’t that far off. Well, time went on and our kids all married and left home.  Most days it was just Dan and I.   But those same neighbour’s kids grew up and got cars.  Sometimes their friends would come over for the evening and there could be a lotta cars!  I jokingly complained to them one day that “Living next door to the Bowdens was like living next door to a used car lot!”  And more time went by. Their kids are all gone now too.  . . . There’s no sense in getting all bent outta shape about a minor irritation when in due time it will take care of itself.  Save those bent-outta-shape moments for when the problem is more serious. 

8.  Good neighbours are KIND and SUPPORTIVE
Neighbours care about each other, and can be counted on to lend a hand in time of need, and can be a good resource for kids to go to if they need help when you’re not home. 
* One winter day our 17 year old son played with the neighbours’ young children pulling their sleigh on the ice. Little did he expect they would come over often after that asking him to come out and play with them.  Sometimes it wasn’t convenient but he did when he could. 
* For years now Dan keeps small packages of cookies in the garage to give to the neighbour kids and grandkids when they come over.  One summer two wonderful little boys moved into the rental house on the corner. They were the only children in our crescent at the time, and as they rode their bikes one day, Dan gave them each a cookie. They were regular visitors after that, and sometimes we’d come home to find them playing with the riding toys we kept in the yard. I told them they were welcome to use them as long as they made sure to put them away when done. They were pretty good at that. I jokingly told Dan “I guess we’re the Mr. and Mrs. Wilson in our neighbourhood now“. (from Dennis the Menace if you don’t know). Those nice little boys only lived in our crescent for a year, but I missed them after they were gone. One neighbour’s grandkids call my husband “Cookie Dan” and come over when they’re visiting their grandparents asking “is Cookie Dan home?” Its mostly about the cookies of course, but that’s okay. LOL

* Dan and I are involved with our city’s annual Food Drive each fall. Our crescent neighbours contributed occasionally if they remembered, until the year we decided to talk to them all and introduce ourselves, putting a name and a face with the service project.  We didn’t ask for donations, just told them we were involved, and that on Saturday morning someone would be by to pick up donations, and if they could help us out we’d sure appreciate it. On Saturday morning we saw nearly 100% participation from the people we spoke to.  

* There have been times we’ve asked for a neighbour’s helping hand.  There have been times we lent a helping hand. The point is, you’re not going to ask a complete stranger to help move that bookcase, but you’d probably ask a good neighbour.

9. Good neighbours become FRIENDS

We find our friends in the areas of our lives we invest in.  We have something very important in common with each of our neighbours.  We each chose to make our homes in the same neighbourhood.  From there, we can find other things in common to share.  From friendly over-the-fence conversations about the weather, to sharing concerns about our children, we start to socialize and create relationships that we otherwise would not have had.  Don’t wait for that relationship to flourish, don’t wait for your neighbour to initiate it.  WE can and should be the ones who start the dialogue.  A smile and wave coming and going.  A plate of cookies, a loaf of homemade bread, a bouquet of garden flowers, asking to borrow that proverbial couple of eggs (and then returning them), sharing the news about a bargain we find at the grocery store, bringing a meal when a baby is born, a small Christmas gift, an invitation to sit around the fire, . . . .

If our neighbour needs a ride to pick up their car from the shop, will they feel comfortable asking us?   Would we feel comfortable doing the same?
If our neighbour has an emergency and can’t make it home in time for the kids coming home from school, will they feel comfortable phoning and asking us to watch for them? Will their kids feel comfortable with us?  Would we do the same?   Do they even have our number? Do we have their’s?

We can also learn much from people who are different than us. Becoming friends bridges a gap between cultures and customs as well as religion.  Sharing our differences enriches all parties and expands understanding and tolerance.  It doesn’t mean we are trying to convert others, it means we are feeling safe enough to share an important part of us.  It involves risk and vulnerability, but it makes us relatable.  When we first moved to our current house, our neighbours were Sikhs. A little older than us, with adult children.  The parents didn’t speak much English.  We had little in common and it was difficult to communicate short of a smile unless their kids were home. Within a short time we were sharing garden herbs, and building our joint fence together.  We were invited to their daughter’s wedding which was a wonderful opportunity to experience a religion and culture very different from our own. They have long since moved and we may never see each other again, but I am so glad we got to know them when we did.   That neighbourly opportunity opened up a whole new world for both of us.

10.  Good neighbours are INclusive.
It is good to develop a friendship with our neighbours, and its alright if we feel closer to one or two, but it is not alright to exclude some from a circle that should be inclusive.  Remember that all of Heavenly Father’s children have the same social needs of feeling Safe, Loved and Important.  That means the neighbour two doors down as well as the one next door, and the one across the street too.  Be the glue that ties others together.

Years ago we had a yearning to get to know our neighbours better.  We were young, shy, busy and quite introverted.  But it bothered us that though we could wave and smile at each other, none of knew each other’s last names.   We decided to take the plunge, the RISK (make no mistake, it is a risk), and host a neighbourhood get-together in our backyard, including our immediate neighbours on either side of us and the three directly across the street.  It was August and fresh corn was available, so we chose to have a corn-roast thinking it would be easier in the backyard. Corn roast made it an easy menu and the kids could jump on the trampoline.  We picked a date and went to each one of those five doors to introduce ourselves, and invite them to a ‘get-to-know-your-neighbour corn roast‘ in our back yard.  The reception we received was hesitant, even strained. And in the end not a single one of them ended up coming. We were very disappointed and more than a little discouraged.  It shook our confidence and our resolve for a few months, but soon those same nagging feelings that we could be doing better began to surface, and we decided to try again.

By this time it was February so we would have to meet indoors, that meant adult only.  We had a small house with five children, and hosting a sizable group ‘inside’ was a little intimidating to us, but in February there aren’t a whole lot of options in Edmonton, so ‘inside’ it would have to be.  I made up some handwritten invitations in the shape of a house.  We referred to ourselves “the-people-in-the-brown-house-with-all-the-kids“, and we called them “the-people-across-the-street-in-the-white-house-with-the-spruce-tree-in-their-front-yard” or whatever they were.  We went together and knocked on their door.  I readily admit we were terrified.  It is always easier on paper, but once you knock on the door you’re committed.  We introduced ourselves again.  “Hi.  We’re Dan and Cindy. We live over there in the brown house with all the kids.”  We handed them the invitation, telling them we were inviting them to a neighbour party. We didn’t ask for a commitment right away, but told them to RSVP before Thursday. Then we said our goodbyes with a  “hope you can make it,  we look forward to all getting together,”  and went to the next house.

Once the initial invitations were given, we set about happily readying ourselves.   But then we started second guessing ourselves, wondering what on earth we were thinking, wondering where we got the idea that we were up to this, wondering if they’d think the games we planned were lame, wondering if we’d make fools of ourselves, wondering if it would just be one big awkward mess!  All our insecurities came to the surface.  And then a new thought entered my mind.  What if they smoked in the house?  What if someone brought a case of beer?  We were a non smoking, non drinking house – I wasn’t prepared to deal with that possibility, didn’t even know how I might, it had never happened before.

One by one our neighbours called before Thursday to say they were coming.  Each new phone call solidified the reality of the mess we’d gotten ourselves into. The day of, I was a total wreck.  I worked myself into such a state that I cried all day.  Was the house clean enough?  What about the food I planned?  Was there enough?  Why did I pick that dish anyway?  And now there was no time for a change in menu. Dan offered to cancel it.  Secretly he was hoping I’d take him up on it so he could use me as the excuse.  He was just as nervous as I was.  But I knew if we cancelled, we’d never rise above it. We would have lost our best chance to get to know our neighbours, and for them to know each other, and it would be even harder to try again . . . .  

The end of the story is that we went ahead with it.  And yes, we had a few surprises.
1) We were surprised to observe that each of our neighbours were nervous when they arrived. 
2) We were pleasantly surprised that no one brought alcohol, and no one smoked in the house (this was in the days when people still smoked in houses). 
3) We were surprised that everyone enjoyed the games we chose. 
4) Our biggest surprise of all was that though each of them knew our first names and perhaps the first names of the people directly beside them, none of them knew anyone else, even though most of them had lived there much longer than us. 
Into the evening we were laughing and thoroughly enjoying each other.  We all commented about how wonderful it was to finally get together and we promised to do it again. Which we did. Several more times over the next few years, each taking turns hosting.  In retrospect, it was the best thing we ever could have done for each other.  Since then we’ve moved out of that neighbourhood, but we still remember fondly those wonderful people we shared a it with.  They made it hard to leave. Recently we ran into Ann-Marie at a hospital.  We greeted each other warmly and caught up with each other like the old friends we were.  We each walked away smiling, happy to know the other was doing well. 
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People of faith preach a gospel of peace. We accomplish this through our actions, using words only when necessary.  Doing so makes the world a better place for everyone.  It makes the world our neighbourhood.

It is easier to love people that we live in close proximity with, and as we get to know them personally, we feel a connection that bridges possible differences.  Though it sometimes might feel complicated or intimidating to reach out to strangers (even those who  live beside us), the concept of loving our neighbour is really very simple. We are here to love each other.  Jesus taught us to “love thy neighbour” in the New Testament, the Book of Mormon and the Doctrine and Covenants. (DC 59:6, 3 N 12:43)   In fact he said it was “like unto the first and great commandment” which is to love the Lord with all our heart, and with all our soul and with all our mind. (Matt 22:37-40).  While we know that this admonition to love our neighbour includes more than the people we live near, home is a good place to start. 

I’d love to hear about your experiences in building a better community within your neighbourhood. Please share your comments below. I promise to read them.

Warmly,


Cindy Suelzle

do better … that’s enough

Studies show that of the 45% of Canadians who make New Years Resolutions, 75% maintain the momentum thru the first week of January. 46% of us last past the 6 month mark, and 8% follow through sufficiently enough to reach their goals.

The key words of course are: FOLLOW THROUGH.
If it was a good idea on Dec 31, then it is still a good idea. If we have slipped or wavered from our intentions, we don’t have to throw our hands up in the air and give up – again. There is an alternative. Admitting that you fell off the wagon may be discouraging, but getting back on the wagon is a good strategy.

Self-improvement or education related resolutions take the top spot at 47%. I’m surprised, because I didn’t know there was any other kind of resolution. I mean really, if its not going to make you a better human being, what was the point of making the goal? Oh well, who am I to question statistics?

I know enough however, to know that anything we do that is better than we did, is a step in the right direction. The Best time to Do Better was a long time ago, but the second best time is always today.

I have this quote silk screened onto a scarf that I wear often. It is a personal reminder to me of my commitment to do better, and permission to let go of mistakes: “Do the Best that you can until you know Better. Then when you know better, DO Better.” Maya Angelou

Here’s to RE-commitment to better choices even though January is over ….

Cindy Suelzle

money really did buy happiness – best money ever spent

Thirty years ago we bought the best trampoline that we could afford with the money we earned delivering flyers for two years. It was a long two years of seeing little reward except the hope and promise of a trampoline. We had four kids at the time and it was a family effort, not without it’s share of frustration. Hot days. Cold days. Rainy days. Busy days. Days when they’d rather do anything else. Days when they said “This is stupid. I don’t even want a trampoline!” Sometimes I said it too. Quietly to myself. Shhh.

We wondered if we’d EVER have enough, but every nickel we earned went into that savings account, and then one day it was over! We took our money and all of us went to buy the trampoline we had chosen after much research and deliberation.

Our kids grew up on that trampoline. Thousands of hours of fun and noise. Very patient neighbours. Innumerable memories. Not a single regret. Not even for those flyer delivering days.

Three decades later our grandkids are growing up on it too. 
Seriously this trampoline is right up there with the Top 10 Best Purchases of our life.

What would you say are a few of your Top 10 Best Purchases?

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

One step at a time. One project at a time.

Every year since we bought our first house in our early married years (a real honest to goodness fixer upper), we’ve kept to a plan of home improvements as we could afford them. Limiting ourselves to two projects a year, helped motivate us without overwhelming us. It also kept it affordable. Over the years, we’ve stuck to it in every house we lived – even when it was a low income rental when Dan went back to school. It kept us thinking, planning, and making things better for ourselves, while keeping projects in perspective and manageable, All these many years later, we still follow the same formula. One inside project. One outside project.

Some have been big projects – like 2015’s kitchen, and the 2021 greenhouse.  
Some have been smaller projects – like planting a tree, painting a wall, replacing a fixture or a single window or laying some reclaimed brick in the garden paths. The outside project is in the warm months, the inside project is reserved for the cold months. No one wants to waste beautiful summer days working in the house.

hard to see the glass brick patio in this little bistro area off the kitchen door, but this is where it is. To the right, you can catch a glimpse of a 45 gallon rain barrel hooked up to the rainspout

One year we scored some glass bricks from a friend’s reno project. I was so happy! Dan – not so happy. They sat around for a year or two, Dan trying to talk me into getting rid of them, (hoping they’d break so I’d have to) and me just ‘knowing‘ they had a higher purpose in my life. LOL.

In 2002 a big bush winter killed and had to be removed. Just outside the kitchen door, which was very provident! I had the boys chop it down and dig the roots out. We could have planted another tree, but I had visions of a little bistro-type area. Zack and Joseph were willing to make my vision come to life. Dan was not convinced it would work, and didn’t like the idea of the glass bricks being a floor, so he kept his distance from what he was sure was a doomed project. The boys created a base out of sand from the sandbox, and laid the glass bricks as if they were ‘bricks’. Truth be told, I only expected those bricks to last a year or two. None of us were very hopeful about what the winter might do to them, but we had nothing to lose by trying, and everything to gain.  So we did it anyway.

These pictures were taken 14 years later. We’ve had to replace a brick or two from time to time, but not more than 6 or 8 in total. They’ve sunk a little bit, owing to our amateur job of packing the base layer in. But they’re still wonderful, and I still love the spot on our east side, just outside the kitchen door. The perfect spot for a summer breakfast, or a dinner in the shade.  In the picture above you can see the strings from the hammock (on the left) strung from this tree to the one next to it.

In 2016, our inside project was a big one that took 10 times longer than we anticipated. We created a bathroom downstairs adjoining a room that we call “Gramma’s room” for my mom. This was the first big project in preparation for my mother coming to live with us, hence the name “Gramma’s room“. We used to call it Uncle Luke’s room, but things have changed. It was a very big deal. The first project quite so all inclusively complicated. When it was done, we considered having a “Bathroom Done Party” to celebrate. If you came to visit in the months after it was finished, we probably invited you to come see it. LOL. We rejoiced for months and I found myself going down to look at it several times a day for the first few weeks.

We had started the bathroom in January and finished the end of June. When I use the word “WE”, I am of course referring to the “royal WE”. Meaning Dan, although I do the clean up when things get done. There were lots of domino projects that had to get done simultaneously to make it possible. It was a big project that impacted every room downstairs before it was done, and our grandchildren couldn’t play downstairs for so long, they forgot we had a downstairs.

The adjoining bedroom “Gramma’d bedroom” would be the next year’s inside project, but that was a subject we avoided discussing for a very long time. Not surprisingly, the outside project that year was a small one. It was tempting to not do anything that year, but we had made the decision long ago, and that meant we would make one improvement a year outside and one inside. And sticking to it was important.

We painted the fence panel behind our bistro area in the backyard. I know. Big deal. It only took me one day. (We needed easy because the bathroom sucked all our energy.) But easy doesn’t mean ‘do nothing‘. It is important to be flexible with our energy and our expenses, and to not bite off more than we can chew, or afford. Some jobs are big and some are just small. But each one moves us forward, and brings with it a sense of accomplishment. It is just as important to stick to the plan, and move forward. Progress means forward. One step at a time.

Do you have a plan for fixing things up in your little world? I’d love to hear it.


Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle