Spring is the time for New Beginnings: amending our garden soil

Simply put, amending our soil means improving it in texture and fertility. Soil amendment should be looked at as a long term solution with ongoing continual effort and ongoing continual results. If we’re looking for a quick fix, we’ve chosen the wrong hobby. Even if our soil was great five years ago, its not reasonable to expect it to remain that way without continuing to replenish it. Plants use nutrients; water and winter leach out nutrients – it’s simple math. Making our gardens the BEST that they can be begins with healthy soil, and that means we do what we can to continually replenish what is continually being used or lost.

How do I know if my garden soil is good?

The primary way to understand your soil is to check its texture and structure. Good soil has a healthy balance of organic matter, sand, silt, and clay. It should also be moist but not soggy. To determine the texture of your soil, take a handful of damp garden soil and squeeze it into a ball. If it breaks apart easily our soil is on the sandy side. If it clings together, our soil is more clay. Why does this matter? Proper soil texture is essential to allowing roots to take up moisture and air. Most soils contain a mixture of clay, organic matter and sand. Whatever your soil is currently, the objective it to ‘amend’ it so that it is more humus-y. Humus is the result of a long process of decomposition, the combined efforts of earthworms, bacteria, fungi and other microorganisms and time. It is loose, crumbly and spongy and usually dark brown or black in colour. Good soil could have as much as 25% compost and will hold together loosely if we squeeze it into a ball. Ideal soil for growing vegetables could be as high as 50% compost in the soil. This helps hold the moisture in a way that plants can readily access it. Ultimately, it is our goal.

Let’s talk about Clay first:

Clay is a fine grained mineral made when rocks break down. It acts as a binding agent giving the soil elasticity and allowing the soil particles to stick together. Clay soils can be difficult to till, and will not drain quickly after a heavy rain, often hardening when dry.

I remember a certain area near a creek close to my childhood home. We kids called it the ‘clay pit’, and I have no idea who discovered it, but new kids were constantly introduced to it. In the spring we would walk down with pails and (if I was to be totally honest) our mothers’ serving spoons, to dig some clay. We had to go after a rain when the clay was perfect, other wise it would be like cement and good luck getting any out with a serving spoon. It was heavy so we couldn’t bring a lot home in our little pails, but no matter – we didn’t need a heckuva lot.
We would get more water and knead it in like we were making bread. When it was the texture of plasticine, we formed small bowls out of it and left them to dry in the sun. I don’t recall how long they took to dry, probably a day or two if it was nice and sunny. Then we’d give them to our mothers (who were always so ‘appreciative‘) as gifts. They used them as ashtrays – which in the world in which I grew up, was a valuable household ornament. When I was much older and observed old indigenous pottery in museums, made in areas further south of where I lived, I remembered that clay pit and our rudimentary attempts at using the clay – and I felt one with the world.

I cannot say anything really ‘bad’ about clay lol, because it holds such fond childhood memories for me. But on the other hand, I didn’t have to grow a garden in it. And I sure wouldn’t want to. Dense clay soil compacts easily, restricting the movement of water, nutrients and air throughout, making it inhospitable for your plants. Roots hit a hard clay floor or wall when they try to grow, and the clay retains too much moisture drowning or rotting roots. Sandy soil is the exact opposite.

to amend clay soil –

add organic matter – like compost, dried grass clippings, shredded leaves, aged horse manure, and compost. That’s pretty much it. Sounds simple doesn’t it? Well you’d be surprised at how many problems can be solved by compost. My advice – after some very positive personal experience – is this three layer lasagna recipe.

1. Distribute a nice deep layer of straw (3 to 4 inches is a good start) over the surface of your garden area in the early spring.
2, On top of that, distribute another 3-4 inches of well aged horse manure. Why horse manure? Because it is a beautiful natural fertilizer rich in nitrogen and perfect for earthworms. (tip: horse manure is a good thing to add to your soil frequently, so make friends with a horse owner and plan to add a top layer every year or two). Your leafy green garden vegetables will be very happy.
3. On top of that – like the shredded cheese on your lasagna, broadcast the clippings of the first mowing of your spring lawn – with all the leftover fall leaves and snow mold and all the other things you thought were ugly when the snow finally melted. All organic grass clippings are wonderful, but the first mowing is full of microscopic critters that make the world go ’round. Their job is to break down organic material and they’re very good at it.

I am reminded that many years ago when our kids were young – for a different reason entirely, we layered a few bales of ‘hay’ all over the top of our backyard garden (yes, I mean hay as opposed to straw). Hay is grass, less coarse than straw (which is the dried stocks of grain) so it breaks down easier than straw. I hear all the time that one should avoid hay in a garden because of the amount of ‘seeds’ in it that are obviously going to grow, but I found that not to be a problem at all. The types of seeds you can expect to find in hay are the type of hay it is – perhaps Timothy Hay, perhaps Alfalfa. Those seeds are going to grow so LOOSELY in the hay itself that they’re easy to pull out as you’re walking by. Nothing to worry about. Don’t avoid hay for that reason.

Over the course of that summer the hay created a marvelous mulch for us, while it began the process of breaking down under the surface.
Benefits:
– It kept the weeds down, and those that did grow were rooted in the hay so super easy to pull out.
– It helped keep the moisture from evaporating.
– It was excellent mulch for our potatoes. They literally grew IN the hay, shielded from the sun.
– In many ways that was one of the best gardens we’ve every had, and I was anxious to repeat it.
– By the next growing season the hay was almost completely assimilated into the garden, and I needed more. But we couldn’t find more that year – we live in the city, so don’t have easy access to things like this. We found straw instead however, and while we understood the difference, didn’t fully envision the significance of that difference. While it looked good initially, it didn’t readily break down like the hay had, and after another growing season and winter, when Dan rototilled the garden the following spring, it got all tangled up in the tines of the rototiller – very frustrating for him. I agreed to not use straw anymore. In retrospect however, understanding it so much more now, I could have done things a little differently. We gave up too easily. All these years later, it is interesting to me that we’re returning to a method we had unwitting success with decades ago, but we’re understanding more about why it worked and that is helping. Such is the nature of gardening: one lesson at a time.

Sand:

Unlike clay, sandy soil allows water to drain more easily, but that requires a lot more water to sustain plant growth, and the constant draining washes nutrients away. My 9 year old Zack, once asked “Why doesn’t the ocean drain out?” He had noted that the sand on the beach didn’t hold water. I thought that was a brilliant question but of course I didn’t have a brilliant answer. The good news is that it is a relatively easy remedy in the garden; but again, don’t confuse ‘easy’ for ‘quick’. Looking for a one time fix is far too simplistic.

Amending sandy soil –

is necessary to help create a happy, healthy home for our garden vegetables. Adding organic material to the soil will not only add important nutrients, but will also help maintain them. It will also help with moisture retention. Compost is the best amendment. How ironic that for these two extremes of inhospitable soil, the solution is the same: COMPOST and other organic matter.

The best quality compost is made of many different types of material: garden greens, shredded leaves, dried grass, as well as kitchen waste of all kinds, and everything else that goes into a homemade compost. If you don’t have a good supply of homemade compost at your disposal, start by using city compost, or commercially purchased compost. Then immediately start your own compost so you can supply yourself every year after this. If you live in a place that isn’t conducive to compost, consider donating your kitchen scrapes to your local community garden. At the very least, donate it to your city’s green bin program if you have one.

Peat moss aids in moisture retention, helps increase the acidic soil level, and we can still buy huge bags of it quite affordably. I use it in my many pots and window boxes – pots of flowers, pots with peppers or tomatoes – all traditionally places that I have a hard time keeping moist. I use a wheelbarrow as a big mixing bowl. Equal parts potting soil, peat moss and compost – pretty much following my mother-in-law’s recipe. Then I add a LOT of water. It will absorb more than you think it will, and I constantly work the water in with my hands till the mixture is very moist but not dripping wet. Then I put it into my pots and plant my plants or seeds in it. It is a lot easier to keep peat moss moist than it is to get it wet in the first place – it’s first reaction is to repel the water, before it finally gives up and absorbs it. If you let it dry out, you’ll be starting again with that process.

Aged horse manure is an excellent compostable material to either mix into our compost or layer over top of our garden surface. Again, avoid the temptation to work it in. Have a little faith and give it time to amaze you.

Ultimately – this simple rule applies: the best way to improve soil texture is by adding organic material, such as compost. Decaying organic matter loosens clay-dense soil helping air and water move more freely so that roots can penetrate easily. It also helps sandy soil by holding water and nutrients that would otherwise drain away. In each soil extreme, it encourages beneficial microbial activity and provides nutritional benefits.

All soil requires amending from time to time – if only just to KEEP it good. And of course there are all sorts of other issues like ‘heavy feeders’, and crop rotation which continually benefit the soil. Gardens are living breathing entities and part of the cycle of life. Though we cannot see most of that life – it is there nonetheless, and living in harmony with it makes life a lot gentler.

Testing your soil for specific nutrient issues

You can test your own soil using a basic soil test kit from your local hardware or garden store. Inexpensive, easy and relatively accurate, soil tests provide good insight about what’s going on under your feet, including the levels of pH, calcium, lime, gypsum and potassium. I have only tested my soil once, the year after we took our spruce trees out. And after a year of fussing about this nutrient or that nutrient, the only thing that made a sustainable difference was something as simple as that garden lasagna recipe – which added compostable material in a very big way.

5 easy tips for healthy soil in your garden

  1. continually add organic matter – every year, and throughout the year by incorporating compost and compostables – which increases air, water and nutrients
  2. try to get out of the habit of using a rototiller, especially in smaller gardens where they aren’t necessary. Breaking up all that soil isn’t helping it.
  3. protect your topsoil from sunburn with mulch
  4. don’t use chemicals unless there’s absolutely no alternative
  5. rotate crops so that they are naturally both using up and replacing nutrients

Crop rotation:

The concept of crop rotation is simple: avoid planting the same crops in the same area every year. Different types of plants require different nutrients from the soil, and in return – provide different nutrients. By not planting the same vegetables in the same spot year after year, new plants will benefit from what the former plants leave behind, and we will discourage pests and diseases from building up in the soil. Ideally, we should rotate a vegetable family so that it grows in an area only once every three or four years.

Beans include all sorts of beans, peas and other legumes. They are easy to grow and don’t require anything specific in the soil – just lots of sun. They’ll replace the nitrogen that high feeders use up.

Greensinclude anything green and leafy: lettuces, spinach, swiss chard etc. They are easy to grow and not too demanding, but will benefit from nitrogen and phosphorus. Beans and peas are known for fixing nitrogen in the soil, so follow them with greens.

Roots – are obviously potatoes, carrots, beets, and other vegetables that grow IN the ground.
Phosphorus promotes strong root growth. Bone meal is a good source of it, but don’t over use. 1 Tablespoon mixed into about 2 square feet of soil is a good amount. It’s not fast acting so the sooner you can apply it the better.

Fruits – includes any type of garden produce that produces ‘fruit’ like tomatoes, squash, cucumbers etc. They are heavy eaters so give them lots of attention. Brassicas like broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage etc are also high feeders so I’m including them in with fruits. They want phosphorus – and good sources are chicken and horse manure and fish fertilizer (fish emulsion). For several years I have planted a raw broken whole egg with my tomato plants because I had heard that the protein in the egg was beneficial, and I knew that calcium was – which the shelf provides. I had not taken the time to conduct any experiments but I’ve always had good eggs. Last year (2023 I didn’t take the time to use any raw eggs. I noticed at the end of the year that my tomato harvest was disappointing but I didn’t make a connection right away – and who’s to know if there even was one? . . . A good friend of mine conducted an experiment last season with three sets of three tomato plants each. In one set she planted each tomato in a deep hole with a fish head at the bottom (sprinkle a little compost). Same types of tomatoes, everything else the same, but different things ‘planted’ with the tomatoes. She noted that the set of three with the fish heads had considerably more fruit than the others. That is what made me think about my last season’s disappointing harvest.

This year I will be using eggs again – and in half of my tomatoes, I’ll also be including fish remains. I’ll keep track and watch for any changes. Stay tuned.

Gardening is about learning new things Every. Single. Year! So keep your eyes open, listen to others and pay attention.

Personally I avoid growing most vegetables from the brassica family: broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, kale, brussels sprouts, radishes, mustard greens, and collards. Not to say I don’t like them, I DO. But I despise the ugly voracious caterpillars that come from the cabbage moths – which always seem to find my plants no matter how well I think I’ve hidden them. I have tried every potential solution I’ve heard or read about but in the end, each success is limited and unsustainable. I finally gave up years ago and I’m at peace with that. However, I have three exceptions to my ‘no-brassica’ rule: kale, radish greens and mustard greens (which I have recently discovered). These I plant dispersed throughout my garden – especially kale, which are planted here a few, there a few in the vegetable garden, herb garden, flower gardens, front yard, back yard, . . . . wherever I can find a spot for one or two plants. I do this because I’ve noticed that the cabbage moth will take the easy path of going down a row laying their eggs. If my kale are not in a row, I have a chance of saving more of them. I am ruthless though – if a plant shows evidence of being eaten, I quickly pull it out and get rid of it – saving its neighbours from a similar fate. I tell them “Sacrificing for the greater good is noble“. I don’t know if that helps them or not lol.

Radishes I plant sprinkled among my lettuce and carrots. I don’t really care for radish roots, but I do like their green tops so its worth it to me.
Mustard greens – I have only recently discovered mustard greens and I really like them. I haven’t developed a routine for them yet however, still working on that.

For years Dan and I have maintained what I (playfully) refer to as the “grass war”. Its a complicated conflict. He loves his grass and I sorta like it too. I love my garden and he sorta likes it too. I would like more garden and less grass. He would like more grass and less garden. The war has never been won; we remain in a tenuous semi-permanent truce, each awaiting the other to weaken or concede on small issues. Maintaining a healthy balance of both, our yard successfully accommodates every demographic in our family: the little kids who need a play area and a yard to run around in, the bigger kids and Grampa who need a trampoline with water and a treehouse, the young adults and Grampa who need space to set up some yard games and roast hot dogs, Gramma who needs a place to grow food for them all, and the Gramma Great who needs a place to sit and watch the whole goings on.

So far mutual respect is the keeping the peace. However, the ‘conflict’ is further complicated by our opposing views on a few major points – like compost. They’re not irreconcilable differences, just differences of basic idealisms. We both believe in composting – me radically, and him conservatively. It is my insistence on keeping grass clipping IN the yard, being lightly distributed as mulch throughout the gardens and adding the rest to our ongoing compost. His position is that we have too much of it, and some of it has to go. Consequently, he’s motivated to mow the lawn when I’m not around to get the bags of a freshly mowed grass out into the alley for pick up, before I notice and go rescue them – hauling them back in and dumping them out in the compost area.

For years, the quiet but simmering conflict came to the surface every spring with the first mowing. My instincts told me that the first mowing was a gold mine of grass clippings, and his instincts told him it was dangerous – full of snow mold and other bad things that had to be eliminated. This remained a stale mate issue since time immemorial UNTIL a mutual friend unwittingly weighed in. Our friend Scott took a stance firmly on my side – stating emphatically that snow mold was a garden’s friend, and that the first mowing was full of hidden treasure. I should state here that Scott and his wife Alana are excellent gardeners with more formal education on the subject than either Dan or myself. It was Scott who prescribed our garden lasagna recipe above, and we both respected his opinion. The success of that ‘experiment’ has become the stuff of legend in our garden. But that’s perhaps a story for another time. Suffice it to say, that since that supreme success, we have agreed on the issue of the first mowing. Score one point for Cindy (not that I’m keeping track of course lol).

Back to the lasagna recipe –
I understand that it is tempting to want to “work in” all that additional material you just put on your garden. I admit I was sorely tempted the first time we did this too. My opinion was influenced by many years of tradition – as no doubt, is your’s. But DON’T DO IT! In fact, you will actually do damage to the very thing you’re trying to nurture. The natural state of a soil’s structure is alive and loaded with organic material – bacteria, nutrients, worms and other creatures, and microorganisms all working together in the great cycle of life. As we rototill or dig that wonderful material in, attempting to distribute it, we are actually disrupting and destroying instead of repairing. All those channels that worms and other critters create when they chew through the soil, help to bring oxygen and water into the ground below, making it easier for our plants to develop healthy root systems and find the nutrients they need. With our shovel, fork or (heaven forbid) our rototiller, we will break all that up – destroying colonies and disrupting harmony. Let nature do what she does best, and leave well enough alone.

Let the rain do its job of washing the nutrients from the top layer down into the layers below. If we’re having a dry spring, maybe we can help it out a little by watering from time to time. Yes, I know the wind will blow some of the straw around. Calm down. Just mow it up when you mow your grass and sprinkle it over the top again. In a matter of only a few weeks it will all settle in and make itself at home. We can trust the natural process beneath the surface; leave this part up to God and all his little critters.

If we intend to plant this area right away, we may be obliged to work some of this material in with a shovel or fork. We must do what we must do, but be cautious. In the past, I’ve marked my rows and gently moved the straw mixture away from the row line – to plant my seeds or seedlings, gently pushing it back around the seedlings when they come up. For potatoes, I keep the straw in place. Potatoes are tough; they’re gonna grow through it all, but I’m not as confident about more delicate seedlings, so I baby them a little.

Yes, our garden will be several inches higher than it used to be, but over the season the straw will break down, the aged manure will be distributed into it and and the top layer will become indistinguishable. It will remain a fantastic mulch. By the next year we won’t see any evidence of it – testimony to all that subterranean community effort that went on undisturbed and unseen from the surface.

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In the process of amending our soil, we may be tempted from time to time by the lure of a ‘quick fix’. This can sometimes look like synthetic fertilizers, which can be relatively cheap and promise to act quickly. (To be fair, I am not opposed to fertilizers but take care in their selection). Fertilizers don’t amend the soil, they feed the plants. A synthetic fertilizer might help us within a couple of weeks, but its usually a single use result, needing reapplication. Organic fertilizers on the other hand, release their nutrients over a period of time. We won’t get the instant fix, but we will get a longer, sustained feeding. Several years ago we had a problem area in our garden, caused by three 40 year old spruce trees that we had removed the previous year. Whatever we were doing to help the shrubs and other plants we planted in their place wasn’t working; it became clear we had a soil problem. We went to a few local nurseries to ask for advice and suggestions for soil amendment, but the best we received were recommendations of fertilizers to help specific plants in our problem area. This was not helpful, as the foundational issue remained ‘poor SOIL’; the plants were just falling victim to it. That is when Scott and I discussed our problem, and he prescribed our lasagna recipe above – which in a single season, transformed our dead zone into a rain forest.

disclaimer:
While I believe there is a place for natural fertilizers AFTER the soil has been improved, and I use them from time to time, I don’t pretend to be an expert on the subject. This is primarily a discussion on soil amendment.

Tips for ongoing success

  1. Adding compost or another organic material like horse manure, chicken scratchings, grass clippings, or straw or . . . . any other number of sources, is the easiest way to continually nourish your soil. An annual application of spring compost and an occasional top dressing of aged horse manure should in most cases, eliminate the need for any other form of amendment.
  2. The least expensive soil amendment is your own home produced compost using kitchen scraps and yard waste.
  3. While fertilizers temporarily add nutrients directly to the area, amendments improve the nature and characteristics of the soil while additionally adding nutrients.
  4. Don’t expect a quick fix. Soils cannot be changed in a single gardening season; it will take years of continually adding organic material to prevent your garden from returning to its former heavy clay state. The action of compost and garden plant matter breaking down and working its way into the soil is a process not an event.
  5. When clearing out your garden in the fall, consider allowing leaves and other plant material to decay naturally becoming part of the ongoing ecosystem. In the spring, you can rake out what you need to, mow it up and add it back in as mulch once you’ve planted your rows.

I’d love to hear your tips for a healthier garden.
Feel free to comment below.

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

10 things to know, DO and NOT DO when buying emergency food

Years ago, I bought this Emergency Food bucket at Costco in Utah. It says it has 200 adult servings – pretty impressive. I think I paid almost $200 (cdn) for it. I tried one of the meals as soon as we got it, and I recall thinking it was ‘okay’ and in a real emergency if it was all we had, we’d probably be glad to have it. I liked the claim of a 20 year shelf life (still like that part).

To be fair, at the time there really weren’t too many alternatives on the market so its not like I had a whole lotta options and I considered myself lucky to make this find.

The label says 100% vegetarian and vitamin fortified. Each package contains 5 servings. All this appealed to me. I offered it to my son-in-law to use for backpacking trips he was taking in the mountains at the time. He took some meals once and reported that they were ‘alright’, but I noticed that he never asked to use them again. . . . huh.

So flash forward to now, I thought I’d start using some of them – as time is flying by and I did spend $200 on it after all. The first morning I tried one of the breakfast packages, oatmeal. The ingredients: oats, sugar and flavourings (natural and artificial). Instructions: add to 5 cups of boiling water and cook for one minute, stirring. This is much more water than I add to quick oats normally, so I was a little suspicious of the claim to five servings per package.

It wasn’t terrible, but it really wasn’t good either. No milk + no salt = kinda blah. I added some Thrive Instant Milk powder and a little salt and it was ‘better’, but not much. I would have preferred to have had the milk and salt already in the pkg. Gramma Great said it “wasn’t terrible”. but I’ll be glad when they’re all gone. I tried to serve it to my grandkids when the came for a sleep over a few days later, but though they are huge oatmeal fans, they disliked this profusely. Let they lose confidence in “Gramma’s oatmeal” (which they love and request every time they’re here), I promised to never make THIS kind for them again.

I tried a few different meals this week. They were all pretty yucky. I’m committed to try more meals so that I know better what I’ve got, and how to prepare it for my family. Then I’ll decide what I’ll do with what’s left. Dan says we could use it for chicken food.

From the perspective of TODAY (15 years after I bought it), I have 10 suggestions when buying long term, shelf stable emergency food:

1. CONFIDENCE

when you buy something you expect to last long term, you should really know what it’s like. You should be able to have confidence in it. That means you should sample some of those meals fairly soon after buying, so that you know what you’re dealing with. If its good, its good and its gonna stay good. If it’s yucky to start out with, its certainly not gonna get any better in 15 years.

2. STORE WHAT YOU EAT. AND EAT WHAT YOU STORE.

Use the food from time to time so that you’re aware of how it’s ’aging’. Yes, it’s got a long shelf life, but time has a way of passing before you know it. And I know it’s tempting to go with a “One and Done” mentality for food storage, and then forget about it. But I have seen the result of that way of thinking. . . food that you thought you could count on – only to find out too late that it was poor quality.

What if you really had needed it? It let you down. Simply because you didn’t really know what you had. You trusted something too much, something that had not earned your trust.

In the end, you’ll waste a lot of money if you don’t STORE WHAT YOU EAT, AND EAT WHAT YOU STORE.

Keeping it rotated (by using it) keeps it good, and eliminates the potential of waste if it expires.

3. USE IT

‘Protecting’ your food till the end of the world or when the zombies come, may seem like a good idea at first, but eventually it will expire. Even 20 years comes to an end one day – and then what?

If you have something similar to what I describe in this post in YOUR food storage – that you bought a loooong time ago – USE it. Now would be a good time to know whether you like it or not. Finding that out later when you need it is a terrible ‘failure to plan’.

Don’t let it go to waste. The money you spent then, was real money, and if the food expires, you’ve wasted those dollars $$$!

4. CHECK REVIEWS

Seek out ‘real’ reviews from ‘real’ people and better yet, recommendations from like-minded friends. If you find a good line of shelf stable food that you’ve tried and like – tell others. If an emergency supply of quick easy to prepare meals is important to you, and you find a line that you really like, tell others. Learning from each other saves a lotta time and effort for everyone. Personal recommendations from a friend COUNTS.

5. SALT?

The sodium in that package of oatmeal was ‘0’ (zero). Impressive until you tasted it. There’s a reason we use salt. Just sayin’ . . .

6. GOOD FOR YOU?

I really don’t like artificial ingredients. Of any kind: flavours, colours, anti-caking agents, preservatives, etc . . . That’s important to me, even in something I expect to last a long time; maybe ESPECIALLY in something I expect to last a long time.

It’s gotta be “good-for-you”, or what’s the point? In this regard, the food in that bucket is profoundly disappointing.

7. TASTE?

After trying the few meals I tried, I have to say I really dislike the artificial after-taste. Its gotta taste good, or again – what’s the point? Who want’s to eat it if it tastes bad? I seriously couldn’t bring myself to eat a bowl of the bowl of the soup I made last night.

8. TRIAL AND ERROR

When I first bought that bucket, I’ve since found a brand I like MUCH better – for taste and quality, but I did the best I knew at the time, so I don’t regret my choice to purchase the original one. You can’t win them all. I just would never do it again – with what I now know. And I’d be a little more careful to read the label better. I trusted the place I bought it, and sadly, I put too much trust in the labeling – it said things I like to read. But I didn’t take the time to look at the ingredients.

I made mistakes, and learned from them.

9. AVOID PANIC BUYING

To be fair – like I said at the start, there were very few options for emergency food at the time I invested in this one. I may have “panic purchased” for that reason, scarcity.

That’s no longer the case. There are options now. I recommend taking your time. Check out reviews. Ask for opinions. I still think emergency meals are important to have – but ask around first. Read reviews.

10. PAY ATTENTION TO THE DETAILS

Take the details seriously if you don’t want to waste money.
Preparedness is not a vacation; it’s a journey and an investment – so its worth investigating, reading and asking around. If all you’re concerned about is shelf life, then no worries – there are lots of things that will last a long time. But if you want it to be nutritious, read the labels. If you want it to be delicious, read the reviews. And don’t just put it away “in case of”.

My conclusion –
Don’t be afraid to try things – how else will we learn. Though I didn’t like anything about the package I bought 15+ years ago, I don’t regret buying it. It was important to me to invest in emergency planning and I did the best I could have at the time. I learned – and that made the purchase worth it (although I hate wasting money). However, if I can reduce my mistakes by learning from other people’s mistakes – all the better. Which is why I am writing this – so that you don’t have to make the same mistakes.

I am happy to see better options available now, and the BEST in my opinion – came on the market just a few years ago. Thrive Life Premium Meals – 12 individual meals available singly or in 5 assorted packages. What makes them different?

Well, for starters –
I have CONFIDENCE in the company as I’ve tried everything else they produce. They are INSTANT meals, meaning just add water, and ready in 10 minutes – much more suited to emergencies, and also suited to meal prep on those crazy busy days when you still have to feed the family. They are completely freeze dried (prepared as meals from nutritious ingredients, then freeze dried to preserve goodness and taste). I was fortunate enough to be able to taste a few before I invested in them, so I knew they tasted good, and now I can read reviews about them.
Yes, I STORE them for long term, but I still USE them at home when we need a quick meal, for camping trips, in the trailer, at the cabin, I even take them when I travel sometimes – because they’re so easy to prepare. In this way I keep them rotated and replenished.

*I like that they have a 20 year shelf life. *I like that they taste good. *I like that the ingredients are wholesome and nutritious. *I like the variety. *I like that there are many reviews – and more added constantly. *I like that they don’t require cooking, and that they can be refreshed in a bowl or their original package. *I like that each package has THREE servings, honest-to-goodness-hearty-real servings. *I like that they are available in an Emergency bucket very similar to the one I bought all those years ago – suitable to grab and go, or easy to send home with a College student or to take camping or whatever. *I like that I can order them to arrive right at my door. *I like that I can get FREE shipping (yes, even into Canada). Hey, I just plain LIKE them! And I highly recommend them.

Live and learn I guess.

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

Rule of THREE

When considering any emergency, I find it helpful to consider the RULE OF THREE to prioritize my means and my energies. 
*We can live up to 3 minutes without air.
*In extreme weather, we’ll be in trouble within 3 hours without shelter.
*We can go up to 3 days without water.
*Our bodies will start shutting down long before 3 weeks without food.
Variables include age, weight, health, activity level, environmental conditions and type of food of course. 

So with these priorities in mind – whether considering emergency scenarios – especially without POWER or fresh running WATER (both of which could go on several days), do you have plan in place? . . . .
I live in Edmonton, Alberta and in the winter we can experience some pretty severe cold weather from time to time.  To be without power during those times can be deadly, and yet it is precisely those times that we may have problems with our furnaces. Furnaces are not going to quit in the summer when they’re not being used, they’re going to quit in the winter when they’re being used daily, especially when it’s bitter cold outside. (sigh . . . . I know right?)

And if you don’t have heat in the winter, you will soon have a water problem as well. Regardless of the time of year, our water supply is precious yet volatile, always susceptible to restriction or contamination. It is worth protecting and having a clean supply on hand.

Rule of 3

AIR
– not likely to be a problem UNLESS we need to provide an alternate source of heat, at which time improper ventilation becomes a concern.  Carbon Monoxide is produced any time you burn fuel: in vehicles, stoves, lanterns, grills, fireplaces, gas ranges and furnaces.  It is a very real, very scary thing – which can kill. 
*NEVER bring in an outdoor heat source or cooking stove. NEVER EVER.  Those are not meant for indoors. 
link to my post THE NIGHT WE NEARLY WENT TO SLEEP FOREVER
https://backyardcityhomestead.com/2018/12/13/the-night-we-nearly-went-to-sleep-forever/

SHELTER
– This should give us pause to consider the circumstances of the many people without houses right now.  Every day I hear about another death or two in the ‘tent cities’ in Edmonton. People just trying to stay warm in the most difficult situation.
But if we’re sheltering in place during an extended power outage, there are things we need to take care of.  With no heat, it will take only hours for the inside of your house to be the same temperature as the outside.  If we don’t have an alternate source (fireplace or wood stove), we’ll need to leave the house in a short amount of time.  Hopefully we’ve got a place in mind that we can go.  We do – Right? And of course dressing for the weather is imperative.

Assuming we have a wood stove, lighting it when its really cold is not so easy.  The low temperature in our chimney will force the cold air down creating a blockage – that prevents the smoke from escaping.  Time to figure out how to light the fire and have it draw properly. 
Assuming that we’ve mastered that, we may find it a good idea to have everyone sleep in the room with the heat source.  We have a Carbon Monoxide detector right? One that is battery run and fully charged.  Right?
Dressing for the weather is important IN the house too – sweaters, slippers, blankets . . .

WATER

– If we have to leave our home because of no heat, we must ensure the water is turned off and the lines are drained.  Water will freeze in only hours and burst water pipes will cause terrible destruction.  (don’t ask me how I know this)
But even if we’re sheltering in place, there may be parts of our home that are at risk of freezing.  It may be advisable to shut the water off anyway.  We have another source of water in the house – Right? 

If we only have one area that is warm, bring containers of water into that area to prevent them from freezing. 

FOOD

We have more flexibility with this than anything else.  For the short term, open up a can of pork and beans or make yourself a sandwich.  (You have a hand operated can opener – Right?)  Eat up some leftovers in the fridge – it could be lost within a day or two.

If the power outage goes on for more than a few days – your frozen food is in jeopardy.  When its bitter cold, setting it all outside is an option – but that’s a terrible job!  If the weather isn’t cold enough, we better be able to cook – or we’ll lose a lot!  But that sounds like an arduous job too, and not very practical. I strongly advise AGAINST having your freezer contain the bulk of your food storage.  Not a good idea at all, and this is exactly why.  Having said that – I too have a freezer, and I use it. But depending on it alone for your food storage is a terrible idea.

Having some Meals in a Jar (MIJ) on hand will be a life saver if we have the ability to cook a one pot meal.  They are nutritious, delicious, easy to prepare, and provide variety to meals that we’ll be glad to have.  All we need is a pot, some water and a heat source.  15-20 minutes for most meals. 

Instant freeze dried meals-in-a-pouch provide tasty and nutritious hearty meals with nothing more than added water.  Excellent resource to have in your pantry or food storage.  If you have the ability to heat the water, then all the better.

Always consider the RULE OF THREE and use it to measure every emergency when coming up with a game plan. 

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

Cooking with Food Storage – Chili MIJ

Traditional Chili con Carne (but in a Jar)

Using mostly freeze dried ingredients, this is an easy dish to prepare for the pantry, ready when you need to pull a great meal together in less than half an hour. Meal in a Jar! Imagine that. LOL
*when my kids were little, one of our favourite story books to read was STONE SOUP. A hungry traveler convinced uncharitable villagers that he could make Soup from a Stone. Curious villagers contributed assorted ingredients, shaking their heads and musing “Soup from a Stone! Imagine that.” Well it wasn’t that long ago that the idea of a shelf stable Meal in a Jar was just as novel and just as curious to me. Now its a way of life, and I always have several on hand in the pantry – for times that a quick hearty meal will make the day go better, or when I want to send a meal out to someone who could use a lift.

Servings: 6
Time: 15 mins
Layer ingredients into quart sealer in this order:

2 Tbsp chili powder
1 Tbsp cumin powder
4 Tbsp tomato powder
1 Tbsp beef bouillon
3/4 t black pepper
1 Tbsp freeze dried garlic
1/4 cup freeze dried Chopped Onions
1/4 cup dehydrated red + green peppers
1 cup freeze dried Ground Beef
1 + 1/2 cup Instant Beans (which are parboiled and dehydrated) your choice of type
1/2 cup freeze dried Corn

1 quart of home canned tomatoes or 1 796 ml can of tomatoes (your choice of type)
4 cups water

Directions:

  1. if preparing a Meal in a Jar (MIJ), layer all ingredients in the jar. I like to arrange very neatly so that it looks nice. End with the corn – and put as much corn as you can to fill the jar.
  2. Put the lid on and label with name, date and brief instructions.
  3. Store in pantry for up to a year. It’s okay if you pass a year, but shoot to use it within a year. This is no longer long term ‘food storage’, it is intended for the convenience of a kitchen pantry. For up to 5 year storage, insert an oxygen absorber and vacuum seal.
  4. Dump contents of jar into a pot and refill the quart jar with water to add. Stir to combine thoroughly and dissolve spices. Add quart of tomatoes.
  5. Turn heat to high and bring to a boil. Stir and reduce heat to gently simmer approximately 20-25 minutes until beans are tender. Remove from heat and let sit 5 minutes.
  6. if you prefer to have chili soup, just add another 2 cups of water.

If preparing meal straight in the pot (without a jar), just put all dry ingredients in the pot, add water and canned tomatoes and follow directions above.

Serve with dollop of sour cream on top and corn chips. Or cornbread (see recipe for cornbread mix).

When I try a new recipe, I make the recipe once into the pot, and again into the jar. That way I can check the measurements that fit into the jar, and sample the soup to know how much I’d like to store. After we finish dinner, I know if I’d like to make a few more. I’ll make up to four jars to store of a recipe that we enjoy, to keep on hand in my pantry or to share.

Enjoy!

Cindy Suelzle

Cooking with Food Storage – Chicken Curry MIJ

Traditional Yellow Curry Chicken

using mostly dried ingredients, this is an easy dish to prepare straight from the pantry

Servings: 6
Time: 20 mins
Ingredients:

1 + 1/2 cups freeze dried chopped or diced Chicken hydrated in water to cover (I use the bouillon here)
1-2 Tbsp Olive Oil
1-2 cloves minced or 1 Tbsp freeze dried garlic
1/4 cup freeze dried Sliced Onions
1/4 cup freeze dried Diced Green Chilies
1/2 cup freeze dried Green Peas
1/2 cup freeze dried Green Bell Peppers
1/2 cup freeze dried Red Bell Peppers
1 tsp Garam Masala
1Tbsp Yellow Curry Powder
1 Tbsp Chicken Bouillon
1 tsp Black Pepper
1 Tbsp Turmeric
1 Tbsp Cumin
1 Tbsp Paprika
pinch of Cayenne
2 Tbsp Brown Sugar
3 Tbsp Tomato Powder
2 cans Coconut Milk
1/2 – 1 cup freeze dried Zucchini, Green Beans, or your choice of other vegetable

Directions

  1. Pre-cook your favourite type of rice.
  2. While your rice is cooking, place freeze dried chicken in a bowl covered with water and 1 Tbsp bouillon. Set aside to refresh 10-20 minutes.
  3. Heat a large skillet with sides, to medium-high heat. Add the olive oil heat. Saute garlic, onions and chili peppers in the oil. Add the chicken (with water used to refresh), and saute until the chicken is tender and warm.
  4. Add all of the seasonings and stir to mix well, continuing to simmer.
  5. Add the coconut milk, tomato powder and brown sugar and stir well to completely dissolve tomato powder and brown sugar.
  6. Add the peas and zucchini and any other freeze vegetable you want to use. Don’t be afraid to add a little more water if needed.
  7. Simmer till warmed through, then remove from heat and let sit for 5 minutes Serve over hot rice.

for Meal in a Jar:
1. layer in dry seasoning – one at a time; I like to put the smaller amounts against the glass so that they show better. Top seasoning with the tomato powder, unless you’re using tomato paste later.
2. 1/4 cup each of freeze dried Sliced Onions, and freeze dried Diced Green Chilies,
1/2 cup each of freeze dried Green Peas, freeze dried Green Bell Peppers, freeze dried Red Bell Peppers
3. 1+1/2 cup freeze dried chopped or diced chicken
4. Top the jar up with 1/2 cup of your choice of Zucchini or Green Beans, or your choice of another vegetable. Add as much as you can till jar is full.
5. Put the lid on, label and date, put it away in your pantry to use within a year. Store away from light. For best results, don’t push the shelf life passed a year.
6. To prepare – cook your rice ahead; pour jar ingredients into a fairly large skillet and add 2 cups water. Stir to combine well, while bringing to a boil. Reduce heat to medium, add coconut milk, stir well to combine. Lightly simmer till chicken is tender, then remove from heat. Let sit covered for 5 minutes and serve over top rice.

Pro Tips:
– if you don’t have tomato powder, use tomato paste (not in the jar – at the time of cooking)
– if you don’t have all those spices (other than curry), not to worry; just use what you’ve got. CURRY however is important. If you don’t have curry – don’t make the dish.
– to simplify the preparation I spoon the spices into a small (1/4 pint) jar, arranged beautifully. I save this seasoning mixture in my spice cupboard to add all together when preparing similar dishes later.

Enjoy!

Cindy Suelzle

guest post: How to budget to build my food storage?

by Sandi Giesler

note from Cindy:
Let me introduce my friend Sandi. I’ve known her for about 20 years and in the last few years, as I’ve learned more about WHO she really is, we’ve become quite close. I have tremendous respect for her, to the point that I think she’s a real live super hero (not all superheroes wear capes you know). Sandi came to Edmonton from southern BC, as an 18 year old for a job with ETS (Edmonton Transit System) in their book-keeping department. It was an exciting time despite the homesickness that naturally came being so far away from all that was familiar, and though she didn’t know a soul before arriving, she made a life for herself.

Flash forward these many years later, through lots of ups and downs, including a failed marriage that blessed her with two children, now grown up and much loved grandchildren. She raised her kids on her own, a single mother with no local support system, in the days before daycare subsidies. There were often tough, tough choices to make. Sometimes daycare expenses were as high as rent, and some of those choices were between groceries and childcare, but childcare enabled to her go to work, which paid the rent . . . . so food insecurity became a constant companion.

25 years ago, she started a side business helping other ETS employees with their tax returns, to be able to afford necessities that her current income didn’t allow, and to have some needed financial flexibility. To build herself a ‘community’, she volunteered wherever she saw the opportunity – often bringing her kids.

She wears many hats these days: an administrator (City of Edmonton), a personal tax specialist, a Bookkeeper, a chief trustee (Civic Service Union 52), a board member (ABCU Credit Union), a Thrive Life Consultant, an active church member, an active member of her community league, and a VOLUNTEER many times over. She grows a garden at home, and is actively involved in her local community garden. She helps her neighbours. Okay but that’s not what I want to tell you. That’s just all the preface to this: Sandi is out of debt. Now that in itself may not amaze you, but there was a time when she in her own words, ‘had more credit card debt than she earned in two years’. Yikes. I fear there are many who can relate to that kind of bondage. She went from there to being completely debt free other than her mortgage – which is under control and nearing its last days. For this reason, I think most of us can learn a lot from her.

It should be of no surprise to learn that one of her volunteer positions is the Food Bank facilitator in her local Community Garden. In the growing and harvest seasons of gardening, Sandi is regularly delivering produce to homes she’s come to identify in her community with food insecurity.

In our society more of us are IN unmanageable debt, than are out of debt. Did you know that Canada has one of the highest rates of consumer debt in.the.world!?! Not something to be particularly proud of. In this environment, and with every excuse under the sun to BE in debt, she dug her way out of it. Not only that, but she has a respectable start on her family’s food storage. So I asked her to speak at a local event on FOOD STORAGE that I was hosting. I asked her to address the question “How Can I Afford To Build a Storage?”. I asked her to do that because I hear “I can’t afford it” all the time, and I always think of Sandi.
– Cindy

So Sandi, How DO you afford to build a food storage? And what suggestions would you have for those who would like to.

Sandi’s words below:

My answer – just do it!

Let me ask you this Question: what is your biggest fear or reason for not having a Food Storage? 
These are the worries I most often hear . . . . . 
* I don’t know where to start
* I can’t afford it 
* I have no space to store
* I don’t know how to use the stored items to create real meals
* I don’t think my family will eat that food 

I’ve been a single mom for most of my parenting years.  I have two adult children and five grandchildren.  They are my life. 
As a single mom with limited means, I struggled tremendously with providing healthy, nourishing meals for my children on the limited income I earned when they were little.
I wanted better for my family and I searched out ways that I could afford better options.
Over 25 years ago, I started my home based business of helping people with their taxes, to allow for the extras that I could not afford otherwise.
Over time that transitioned into other earning streams and I utilize all my resources to ensure I have what I need for today, tomorrow and next year with the peace of mind that I have the basics covered.

I continue to learn each and every day and I have a wish list always on the go to ensure I keep that peace of mind and better the lives of myself, my children and my grandchildren. 
Accounting runs in my blood but unfortunately I do not have an accounting designation.  Nevertheless most of what I do for work revolves around finances.  So it is interesting to me that though finances used to be my biggest worry, my understanding of them became my biggest ally. 

I wear many hats in addition to my main jobs of a mother and grandmother.
A year ago, I was invited to teach a class in my community about getting out of debt because – other than my mortgage – I AM OUT OF DEBT. 
It was thought that because I had reached that important goal myself, I might have something to offer people like me – who at one time couldn’t see how getting out of debt was even possible. Some thought that my story might help people feel they could DO IT too.  The truth is – it’s been a tough road but I knew I was the only chance my kids had to have a better life than my own.  I was their sole provider, their support system, and their example – for good or bad.   Remaining in debt wasn’t going to help me be a better mom, and it certainly wasn’t going to help me with any of those priorities. 

Our community thought my story provided me with some credibility, and that along with my practical advice, I might be able to provide hope.  I don’t know how much influence or credibility I might have in those areas – but I know one thing.  I LIVED THE LIFE.  I DID IT.  I GOT MYSELF OUT OF DEBT.   For all those same reasons, I am here to address the problem many people think they have when it comes to Food Storage. The “I CANNOT AFFORD IT” mindset.  That is a DEFEATIST statement and I spent my share of time with that kind of defeatist attitude.  It got me NOWHERE.  Long ago, I decided that I had to be stronger than that.  When one really thinks something is important – when it Really IS important, then it’s amazing what you can do to make it happen.  You will do whatever you need to! 

I admit, when I first became serious about it, Food Storage was not foreign to me, but when it became important to me, it became a PRIORITY.  I knew that I would find a way and I found a way.   I’ll share my secrets with you.  Hopefully you may find some of them helpful.

FOOD STORAGE Rules I live by:

1. Never, EVER buy food storage with money you do not have!  

2. Set a monthly budget and stay within it – if you don’t have one yet START now! 
Keep your grocery receipts for a one month period and write down an itemized list of what you bought.  Were those items on your grocery list?

3. Shop the Sales but only purchase what you use – don’t add in exotic or one-of meal add-ons to start off with. 

Consider making a multi-family purchasing group so that you can buy in bulk and each family gets a share of the discounted product. 
ie: I can’t use a case of store bought soup in my food storage but I would like to have 4-6 cans and can share the rest.   
This could also be preserving equipment that could be shared between a group (ie meat slicer, vacuum sealing unit, pressure canner, etc). 

4. Make your money work for you – I purchase on a credit card that gets paid off each month but I earn air miles on my purchases or scene points that I can redeem for other items my family can use during the year: cash back, points, aeroplan miles, store apps for discounted/coupons, etc. 
WARNING: This only works if you are IN CONTROL of yourself and DON’T GIVE IN TO THE TEMPTATION to overspend.  

5. ONLY STORE WHAT YOU EAT.   When you do otherwise, it is wasted money that you could have used to buy something more useful. This also includes your grocery store fruits and vegetable purchases – only purchase if you are using it in your meal prep that week.
Stats say 47% of food is wasted in Canada.   That’s a shocking $47 out of every $100! 
As a single person I am in a risk category for high food waste, especially when it comes to produce.  Because of that, I take precautions to avoid waste. 
I want to buy food that I never have to throw out.   That counts big time in my books.  

6. EAT WHAT YOU STORE.  You need to be rotating your stock and have confidence that every item is usable to you and your family.
Space is at a premium when you are building a 6 month to 1 year food storage – don’t waste that space on something you won’t be using. 
Make sure your food storage takes many different forms – a single form (ie freezer), may not be that convenient and long lasting if you lost power for a few days.
Frozen, canned, freeze dried, cold storage, home preserved – these all have a place in your food storage as they all have varying lengths of storage life and costs. 

Slow and Steady wins the race.  
7. Be patient, and long sighted. This is a long term goal.  You will never reach it if you give up. Dedicating a portion of your budget to Food Storage is moving forward constantly.  Use it and rotate it so that it becomes ‘groceries’.  
When you have extra money – devote it to Food Storage.  Those bulk purchases are a GOD-send. 

Make it a lifestyle.  It is my choice to have a food storage – with all that goes into that choice.  With it, comes PEACE OF MIND in a troubling world where nothing is certain.  It is worth it to me. 
In the end, my food storage isn’t quite where I’d like it to be, but I am content with my continued progress.  

The average Albertan spends almost $300 per person on monthly groceries.  I tend to fall right into that average. In the summer, I garden, which helps with fresh produce; in the winter I purchase more fruits and vegetables so my spending may go up an additional $50 per month. I also buy freeze dried food on a monthly basis, which I use regularly. This keeps my waste to a minimum (wasted food = wasted money).

When I have extra money, I set it aside for the bigger sales (which I’ve learned come every spring and fall). During those bigger sales (for which I budget extra money) I buy more expensive items that get higher discounts at these times.  
Make no mistake, I eat very well.   Nutrition is a priority with me.   I have made some big health changes in the last couple of years that I’m very happy about.  And I am committed to moving forward with them.

When I started really getting serious about building my food storage, I knew that freeze dried food was where I wanted to focus my energies and resources. I do it gradually, adding to it every month, and so it made sense that I’d want the biggest bang for my buck. I decided if I was going to buy monthly anyway, I might as well get a kickback in the way of commission on my own purchases that I could turn around and reinvest if I wanted to. So I became a consultant. My original intention was not to work the business, just to benefit from available perks, but I found myself dabbling in the business and enjoying the process when I told others about it. You never know where something like this will lead you, and I’ve been around enough to know I enjoy new adventures.

I enjoy sharing my resources as well as my knowledge, but I don’t consider myself an expert at Food Storage.   I’m just a mom who wants the best for my kids, doing what I think is the best. 

Sandi Giesler
guest post

Homemade Mixes, Sauces, Salsas, Dips and Dressings

First of all, let me state for the record that I am a die-hard, back-to-basics kind of a cook in my own kitchen. I prefer everything homemade, and I’m not opposed to spending a lot of time on the creation of certain meals. I am not a fan of prepared meals or processed food, and normally I avoid ‘mixes’, at least commercial mixes. But I am also not willing to spend inordinate amounts of time or inconvenience if there is a homemade alternative that promises to shorten my kitchen time without compromising nutrition. Enter in all sorts of mixes, dressings and sauces to make my life easier.

Let me share some of my favourites that I think you’ll enjoy. Each recipe closes with my suggestions on: how to use it in a dish, how to store it, and how to use it up (when you have leftovers that you’re trying to use up). I hate wasting things.

I’m all about using FRESH foods in season, but will use preserved foods as long as nutritional value isn’t compromised. For this reason, I often use FREEZE DRIED options when I can. This serves three purposes:
a) I ALWAYS have it on hand as it is very shelf stable having a shelf life of 25 years. With proper rotation, I can always count on it.
b) Freeze dried produce is highly nutritious and I have found a company who’s standards are so close to my own, it was a natural fit. Thrive Life has a 40+ step process of ensuring the highest quality, and only after completing those 40 steps, do they put their iconic NUTRILOCK symbol on that item. They call that the NUTRILOCK guarantee. You’ll do well to remember this term.
c) Freeze Dried food is exceptionally easy to handle, easy to refresh and delicious. I often refer to it as FRESHER than FRESH because it is picked ripe and flash frozen within 2-4 hours of harvest.

DRY MIXES

PANCAKE MIX
a basic pancake mix generally contains flour, baking powder, sugar, salt, milk, egg and oil. The types of flour, sugar, milk, eggs and oil are up to you, but for the purpose of a shelf stable mix in my pantry I use certain ones.
Flour – if making from scratch, I always prefer freshly ground whole wheat flour, but whole wheat flour has wheat germ oil in it and is best if used fresh. So for a pancake mix I use UNBLEACHED flour. Actually I only ever buy unbleached flour – as opposed to all purpose flour which is ‘bleached’. All purpose flour goes through a chemical process to make it white, and that alone is enough for me to not use it. Yes I know it’s cheaper, and more common, in fact sometimes I can’t find unbleached flour, but the few dollars more and the inconvenience of looking for it is worth it to me.
Baking powder – is a leavening agent, and it’s the secret to fluffy pancakes.
Sugar – just a tablespoon of sugar is all you’ll need for subtly sweet pancakes.
Salt – a pinch will always enhance the flavour
Milk – as opposed to water or juice, adds moisture and richness to pancakes.
Eggs – add more moisture, richness and helps bind the batter together.
Butter or Oil – adds richness, moisture and produces a lighter, more flavourful result

Mix:
15 cups unbleached flour
1/2 cup + 2 T baking powder
2 cup white sugar
1 1/2 T salt
1 1/2 cup Thrive Life Scrambled Egg Mix
3 cups Thrive Life Instant Milk powder

Store mix in a large container with a tight fitting lid. Should be shelf stable for up to a year.

to prepare pancakes:
2 cups mix
1 1/4 cup water
1/4 cup oil
mix oil and water, pour into dry mix and stir only till moistened.
Makes 10 – 4 inch pancakes

BISCUIT MIX

6 cups flour (you do you, but I always use unbleached flour for mixes)
1 cup shortening powder or butter powder
2 Tablespoons baking powder
1 T salt
1/2 t baking soda
1/2 cup sour cream powder
Whisk all together till thoroughly combined.

Store mix in a large air tight container in a cool dry place for up to 4 months. This is because of the shortening powder. If you use the butter powder, you can extend that up to 6 months.

to prepare biscuits:
3 cups mix
1 cup milk
Stir only till moistened. Roll lightly on floured board till 1/2 inch thick. Cut with biscuit cutter or knife.
Bake 425 F oven 8-10 minutes

CORNBREAD MIX
recipe makes 2 gallon sized cans (#10 cans)
6 cups cornmeal
3 cups Thrive Instant Milk (yes, it really IS better than any other milk powder you can buy)
8 cups flour (I always used unbleached)
1/2 cup baking powder
1 Tablespoon salt
3 cups sugar
* 1 cup sour cream powder (not necessary, but adding it makes it nicer and more cake like)
1 cup Thrive Scrambled Egg Mix (freeze dried eggs, and yes, this brand is the BEST tasting eggs out there. I am inserting a video below of my brother and sister who could not tell the difference between it and FRESH eggs gathered the morning of)
Whisk all these powders together completely and store in a marked jar in your pantry.

To use for a batch . . . . preheat oven to 350 degrees F
4 cups mix
1 + 2/3 cup water
1/3 cup vegetable oil
Add oil to water and pour into the dry ingredients. Stir to moisten all. Set aside for 3-5 minutes to moisten cornmeal. If you need to add a little more water, do so to get the consistency you prefer. Pour into a greased 9×13 pan and bake for approximately 40 or until center bounces back when touched. Remove from heat and allow to cool for 20 minutes before cutting into it.
* We really like cornbread waffles. Pour 1 cup batter into HOT and slightly oiled waffle iron. Cook for 4-5 minutes before removing. Perfect to serve alongside a bowl of chili or taco soup, or homemade tomato soup.


HOMEMADE INSTANT OATMEAL PACKS
This almost seems blasphemous to me, because nothing is as wholesome as a bowl of old fashioned oatmeal, but there are times (like when you’re camping) that the kids would like instant oatmeal. I confess that I buy instant oats for lots of other things, and there IS a convenience that I appreciate. I just don’t like all the sugar in the commercially boughten packs, so when I make them up for the kids, (another confession), I add 1/4 cup regular quick oats to their bowl. They don’t seem to notice and it makes me happier.
Instant oatmeal is also a great after school snack – nutritious and satisfying. So buy yourself a bunch of small 1/2 pint jars and make some up.
in each jar layer:
1/2 cup quick oats
2-3 T Instant Milk powder (Thrive Life is the BEST)
1 T brown sugar or honey granules or your choice of whatever you use
*optional: your favourite ‘additive’ – raisins, freeze dried peaches, apples, mangoes, apricots, or blueberries, crumbled cranberries raspberries, blackberries, or whatever you like. Or nothing at all.

Store them in little baggies, or jars. That’s it! To make your oatmeal, pour each package into a bowl, add 1 cup boiling water and stir. Give it a couple of minutes to thicken up and ENJOY.
* Consider: mixing up a whole quart of instant oatmeal with quick oats, powdered milk and brown sugar. When you want to make a bowl, shake up the jar (as the milk and sweetener may have settled), and scoop out 3/4 cup. Add your own fruit if you want, then boiling water. How does it get any easier? STORE in your pantry for 6 months to a year – depending on whatever fruit you may have added.

BASIC WHITE SAUCE or CREAM SOUP BASE

2 cups Thrive Life Instant Milk powder (you’ll be disappointed if you use any other brand of powdered milk because not a one tastes as good as Thrive Life’s – just sayin’)
1 cup Thrive Life Sour Cream Powder
1 heaping Tablespoon of Thrive Life’s Chef Choice Seasoning or your favourite seasoning
2 cups Cornstarch
1/3 cup Thrive Chicken Bouillon (or your favourite powdered Chicken bouillon)
1/2 cup Thrive Life freeze dried Chopped Onions. You cannot substitute dehydrated onions, unless you powdered them first in a blender
1 teaspoon black pepper

Sift together all dry ingredients till completely mixed and store in a air tight container.
I double the recipe and Store in 3 glass quart sealing jars for about a year.

To use for white sauce:
Whisk 1/2 cup into 2 cups water. Bring to a boil whisking all the time to prevent lumping. Reduce heat and simmer gently 3-5 minutes till nicely thickened.
To use for base of cream soup:
I prepare the same way, and just slowly whisk into your soup.

I love to make cream soups by preparing the white sauce, adding milk or broth and then adding freeze dried vegetable crumbles or powder. Lightly simmer for a few minutes to soften the vegetables and till you’ve reached the desired consistency.
Cream of Tomato Soup – whisk in a Thrive Life Tomato Powder (approx 1 T per cup of soup)
Cream of Mushroom Soup – saute some fresh mushrooms in butter (mmm), then add to the prepared sauce. OR add some Thrive Life freeze dried Mushroom pieces and some mushroom powder from the bottom of the can.
Cream of Celery Soup – add some finely diced fresh celery and simmer long enough for them to become tender to the fork and share their flavour. OR add some Thrive Life freeze dried chopped celery. I crush these pieces up in my hand because I like smaller pieces. If there is any powder at the bottom of the can, throw that in too – its loaded with flavour.
Cream of Chicken Soup – add Thrive Life freeze dried Chopped Chicken and some powder from the bottom of the can.
Cream of Asparagus Soup – add Thrive Life freeze dried Asparagus and some powdered asparagus from the bottom of the can.
Cream of Broccoli Soup – add Thrive Life freeze dried Broccoli and some broccoli powder from the bottom of the can. Maybe add some shredded cheddar if you want.
The list goes on – you can make whatever cream soup you want.
recipe link

CURRY COCONUT CHICKEN
This recipe is very similar to traditional “Butter Chicken”, a chicken curry dish that is so popular outside of India, it is sometimes mistakenly believed to be a western invention. It was however, originally created by the chef at Moti Mahal restaurant in Delhi in 1947. Although it’s name Murgh Makhani translates to “chicken butter”, its name has less to do with butter and more to do with how much yogurt and butter are used in its original recipe.
There are probably as many variations as there are Indian moms or restaurants, but this one uses coconut milk and is a favourite in our house. When you use freeze dried produce, it takes less than 10 minutes to put together.

Dry Seasoning Combination:
1 t garam masala
2 t chicken bouillon powder
1 t black pepper
1 t cumin
1 t ginger powder
1 t paprika
1 T curry powder
1 T turmeric
* 1 t cayenne powder IF you like it a little spicy
3 T tomato powder (OR substitute in 1/4 cup tomato paste when making up the recipe)
1 T brown sugar
layer seasoning in small (1 cup size) jar. Put the lid on tight, label with recipe name, and set aside to have ready.



Recipe for Curry Chicken (using freeze dried vegetables OR substitute fresh):
1 1/2 cup freeze dried chicken pieces OR equal amount cooked chopped chicken
2 cups water (OR if using regular chicken, only 1 cup water)
1/4 cup olive oil
1/4 cup freeze dried sliced onions
2 T freeze dried garlic OR 2 cloves garlic minced
1/2 cup freeze dried peas
1/4 cup freeze dried diced green chilis
1/2 cup freeze dried green peppers
1/2 cup freeze dried red peppers
1/2 cup freeze dried zucchini
spice mixture above
2 cans coconut milk
– cooked rice to serve it over –

Directions:
Cover freeze dried chicken in 2 cups warm water and set aside to refresh for about 15 minutes.
Cook rice, set aside.
In the meantime, prepare everything else – having it ready to add one right after the other.
Heat oil in large skillet over medium heat. Sauté onions and garlic till aromatic, stirring all the time to prevent scorching. Add chicken and remaining water, continuing to stir. Add vegetables one at a time, stirring all the while. Add seasoning mix and stir to completely blend in. Add coconut milk and stir to completely till all is blended perfectly.
Let simmer till all is heated through.
Serve over rice.

FRESH MAYO and Salad Dressings

FRESH MAYO
Not only is fresh mayo a great alternative if you run out of the more ‘shelf stable’ mayonnaise from the store, but it can be a game changer in terms of flavour and texture. And its so easy to whip up (in 5 minutes) you may wonder why were so dependent on the store bought version all your life. You can expect it to last about two weeks in the fridge.

In its basic form, mayonnaise is an “emulsification” oil into other ingredients, but it helps to understand the process. Emulsification happens when two substances that don’t want to mix are forced to mix. In the case of mayo, oil is emulsified into a mixture of lemon juice or vinegar, mustard, egg, and salt by whisking it in drop-by-drop at the very beginning—and vigorously. The droplets of oil become tiny enough, and evenly suspended in the liquid creating a creamy, almost fluffy texture.

There is much opportunity for slight flavour variations in mayonnaise.
1) ACID – You choose the type of acid you want: lemon/lime juice or whatever vinegar you prefer (white, apple cider, herb infused vinegars . . . ). You will get different flavoured mayo in the end. It doesn’t take much acid, so you can be brave and experiment with different kinds to find different flavours. Perhaps in the beginning while you’re still getting the ‘hang of it’, stick to a plain white vinegar or lemon juice, and then go from there.

2) OIL is what make mayonnaise – MAYONNAISE, but you get to choose what kind. For a neutral flavoured mayo use neutral flavoured oils like canola or vegetable. For a richer, more flavoured mayo, use olive oil. Or use another oil if you have a favourite, or use a combination.

3) SEASONING is not necessary but nice. Use it or not. I like pepper, but if you want a pure white mayo then use white pepper. You can also use dried chiles, ginger,  paprika, garlic, chives, a dash of sesame oil, . . . no end to the possibilities. For a standard all purpose mayonnaise, I just use pepper, but a little more than you might. If you use a lot of mashed garlic, your mayo becomes something wonderful called AIOLI.

recipe:
1 large egg
1 T lemon juice or vinegar (your choice – remember)
1/2 t dry mustard
1/4 t salt
1/8 t pepper
1 cups oil
Combine the first five ingredients in a blender, turn on high and begin adding oil SLOWLY in a steady steam, turning off blender to scrape down sides once or twice if necessary during the process. Stop blending as soon as mixture is fully emulsified and thick. Makes just over 1 cup mayonnaise. Store in refrigerator. Personally, if I’m going to go to the trouble, of washing my blender, I’m going to double this recipe and end up with about 2 1/2 cups mayo, especially if I know I see dishes like potato salad, tuna sandwiches, or toasted pesto mayo tomato sandwiches in my immediate future.
Store – You can expect it to last about 2 weeks in the fridge so plan accordingly.
link to recipe

HOMEMADE SALAD DRESSINGS

Yes there’s something to be said about the convenience of store bought salad dressings, but really – try buying a few different vinegars instead and make your own. It is SO easy to make your own salad dressings at home – you’ll wonder why you ever thought you needed to buy them. The benefits are taste, and control over all the ingredients – simple, whole food. That’s what its about. Nothing you can’t pronounce. Make them as you go and then they’re always fresh. 🙂

ASIAN SALAD DRESSING
1/4 cup soy sauce
3 T sesame oil
2 T honey
3 T rice vinegar
2 t freshly grated ginger root
2 cloves garlic minced
1-2 T lime juice
sprinkle sesame seeds over top the salad
can Store in fridge for a week

SESAME GINGER SALAD DRESSING
3 cloves garlic minced
1 3inch piece of fresh ginger root (peeled and grated)
1/4 cup mayonnaise
1/3 cup rice vinegar
1/4 cup sesame oil
salt and pepper
Toss dressing into salad. Top with toasted pumpkin seeds and sesame seeds.
can Store in fridge for a week
Salad:
1/2 small cabbage finely sliced or chopped
about half as much fresh kale finely chopped
4-6 small Persian cucumbers coarsely chopped or 1 large English cucumber
1 or 2 peppers (your choice of colour) coarsely chopped

TACO SALAD DRESSING
1 cup sour cream
1/2 cup mayo
1 cup tomato salsa
1/2 t chili powder
Stir with a spoon and chill till ready to serve on top of Taco Salad.
can Store in fridge for a week
Salad: romaine lettuce – large chunks of tomatoes and cucumbers – black beans – taco flavoured ground beef – shredded cheddar – tortilla chips

RED RASPBERRY POPPYSEED DRESSING
1/2 cup raspberry vinegar
2 T sugar
1 t salt
1 t dry mustard
1/4 cup water
1/2 onion finely chopped (I use 1/4 cup Thrive freeze dried chopped onions)
2 T honey
Blend all ingredients EXCEPT RASPBERRIES AND POPPY SEEDS in blender. Pour into serving container.
Add 1 cup fresh raspberries (I used 1 cup Thrive freeze dried raspberries)
1 t poppy seeds. Gently stir to blend berries and seeds throughout and serve.
can Store in fridge for a week.

Homemade BALSAMIC VINAIGRETTE
(I love the powerful taste of dark balsamic vinegar – it stands alone)
1/2 cup olive oil
1/4 cup balsamic vinegar
juice of one lemon (2-3 Tablespoons)
2 cloves of garlic minced
1 T honey
salt and pepper
Put all ingredients except salt and pepper into a pint mason jar with a lid. Shake well till honey dissolves. Taste, then decide if you want to put in about 1/4 t salt and 1/4 t pepper. Shake again. Taste again.
This makes about a cup, but will Store in the fridge for a week or two so make a bigger batch if you want. Just shake it up when you want to use it again.

Substitute the olive oil for TAHINI to make it creamy and rich. Add 2-3 Tablespoons of water if it’s too thick.

Tahini is ground toasted sesame seeds similar in texture to peanut butter, in fact, it is sometimes used as a substitute for peanut butter. Rich is protein and trace minerals it is a healthy addition to add to your salad dressings.

CURRY TAHINI DRESSING
1/2 cup tahini
1/4 cup olive oil
Juice of 2 lemons (about 1/3 cup)
1/4 cup water
1 T honey
2 cloves garlic minced
1-2 teaspoons curry powder (start with lesser amount then taste test before adding more)
1/4 – 1/2 teaspoon ginger (start with lesser amount then taste test before adding more)

Whisk in pint bottle till honey is dissolved.

RHUBARB SALAD DRESSING
1 cup apple cider vinegar
1/3 cup honey
1 cup vegetable oil – your favourite
1/2 cup finely chopped fresh garlic chives – or regular fresh chives if you don’t have them
1 cup finely chopped rhubarb
Whisk the vinegar, honey and oil together to totally dissolve the honey. Add chives and garlic and mix well. Set aside for at least an hour to combine flavours. Stir as you serve to keep garlic and chives incorporated throughout.
can Store in fridge for a week

BUTTERMILK RANCH DRESSING
1 cup buttermilk*
2/3 cup mayo
2/3 cup sour cream
1 clove garlic minced
1 T minced onion or Thrive freeze dried chopped onion
1 T chopped fresh chives
1 T fresh or frozen dill greens
1 T chopped fresh parsley or half that dried parsley crumbled
1/2 t each: salt and pepper
Mix all ingredients and let sit 30 minutes before serving.
Reduce buttermilk to 2/3 cup to make ranch dip.
Store in the fridge for up to a week.

*making buttermilk from Thrive Instant milk powder is easy.
1/4 cup Thrive Instant milk powder
3 Tablespoons of vinegar or lemon juice
1 cup water
Mix well and let stand for 5 minutes. Use in a recipe as you would buttermilk.

AVOCADO LIME DRESSING
1 avocado
1/2 cup sour cream (I use Thrive sour cream powder)
2 T mayo
2 T lime juice or 1 T limeade powder
1/2 t salt
1/2 cup water
Add everything to the blender
Dressing perfect for salad or for Chili Lime Chicken Tacos
can Store in fridge for a week

CILANTRO LIME DRESSING
1 cup cilantro
1/2 cup plain yogurt
1 clove garlic minced
1 T apple cider vinegar
1/4 cup olive oil
1/3 cup mayo
1/4 t salt
1 T Thrive freeze dried chopped onions OR 1/2 t onion powder
juice of 1 lime
Puree in blender. Chill till ready to serve.
can Store in fridge for a week

LIME VINAIGRETTE
1/2 cup cilantro
3 T olive oil
2 T apple cider vinegar
juice of 1 large lime
1/2 t each: salt, cumin, chili powder, black pepper
1 lg clove garlic
1 T tomato powder
Puree in blender till smooth. Chill till ready to serve.
can Store in fridge for a week

Savoury Sauces, Salsas, Dips and Spreads

TERIYAKI SAUCE
1 cup water
1/4 cup soy sauce
1/4 cup brown sugar
2 T honey
1/2 teaspoon powdered ginger
1 garlic clove minced OR 1/2 teaspoon garlic powder

2 T cornstarch mixed into a slurry with 1/4 cup cold water and set aside

Combine everything except cornstarch slurry into a small sauce pan. Bring to medium heat and whisk ingredients till thoroughly combined. Slowly add cornstarch slurry whisking constantly till its thickened to desired consistency. Use as you would any other teriyaki sauce. Make ahead and Store in a glass jar in the fridge for 4-6 weeks.

HOISIN SAUCE
Hoisin sauce is a thick, dark, fragrant sauce commonly used in Chinese cooking, in a stir fry, or as dipping sauce for Asian dumplings. Lots of different recipes – give this one a try.
1/2 cup soy sauce
2 T dark molasses
2 T honey
1 T toasted sesame oil (darker and more flavourful than regular sesame oil)
2 T rice vinegar
1/4 cup peanut butter
3 cloves garlic finely minced
2 T sriracha sauce or your favourite hot chili sauce
1/2 t black pepper
1 T miso paste
1/4 cup water with 1 T cornstarch made into a slurry

Directions: In a small saucepan over medium high heat, whisk together everything except cornstarch slurry. When sauce is bubbling, whisk in cornstarch slurry continuing to stir and simmer till it begins to thicken. When it is the desired consistency, remove from heat. Makes almost 2 cups. Pour into a pint jar and allow to cool.
STORE in fridge for 4-6 weeks.
Use it to glaze salmon, ribs, chicken, shrimp – a little goes a long way as it is highly concentrated.

SWEET AND SOUR SAUCE
Sweet and sour sauce is a exactly what its name suggests: sweet AND sour. Many people use a splash of red food colouring to give it it’s signature red colour. Don’t do that! Use my secret ingredient to get a full bodied flavour, and an all natural, gorgeous red colour.

I grew up on sweet and sour meatballs or short ribs – complete with food colouring. It was the way of things in those day. You could go out and buy a bottle if you crave that food colouring, but it’s SO easy to whip up your own. It tastes better. is free of all those nasty “unpronounce-ables”, and it’s cheap.
Great to use as a Dipping sauce for ribs, egg rolls, and dumplings.
Great to serve your meatballs in, or to even add to your pulled pork dish.
Great to use in your stir fried vegetables and chicken over rice.
Great to use as a glaze when grilling chicken pieces, hamburgers or porkchops.
Great to even use as a pizza sauce for an Asian twist. Be creative.

In small saucepan, dissolve 1/2 cup brown sugar
in 1 cup pineapple juice
Bring to a boil, then reduce heat.
Create a cornstarch slurry with
1 1/2 Tablespoon cornstarch and 2 Tablespoons water.
Pour into the pineapple juice and stir while it simmers and begins to thicken.
Add 3 Tablespoons of *TOMATO POWDER* and continue stirring to completely dissolve.
Add 2 Tablespoons soy sauce
and 1/2 cup rice vinegar, continuing to stir.
When its the perfect consistency, turn the heat off and serve!

Pour into a pint jar and allow to cool. Makes almost 2 cups.
STORE in fridge for 2-4 weeks.

TZATZIKI
Tzatziki is a creamy cucumber yogurt dip made from simple ingredients including thick yogurt, cucumbers, garlic and fresh herbs. It is primarily used as a dip or a topping.
Traditionally of course, fresh cucumbers are used, but I most often use freeze dried cucumber dices. Makes it so much easier! If you’re using fresh cucumber it needs to be grated and strained so get to that right away.
* 1 medium cucumber finely shredded, tossed in 1/2 t salt. Set in colander to drain about 30 minutes. Squeeze excess moisture out as much as you can. Set aside.
I skip this step entirely because I use Thrive Life freeze dried diced Cucumbers.
Start with 1/2 cup and add more as desired one T at a time so you don’t add too much.

1 1/2 cup Greek yogurt (or another nice thick plain yogurt)
1 T lemon juice or 1/2 t Thrive lemonade powder
2-4 T fresh dill chopped (I freeze fresh chopped dill in the summer and use all winter long)
1-2 cloves garlic minced
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
* if you’re not using the fresh salted, strained cucumbers, add 1/4 teaspoon salt
1 T olive oil
Mix everything except cucumbers. Add at the end and gently toss cucumbers in.
Set in the fridge for an hour or so to blend flavours.
Can Store in the fridge for several days; if you’re using freeze dried cucumbers, it will keep up to a week.

HOMEMADE KETCHUP
It’s ironic that in most cases, condiments were homemade at first, and then commercially reproduced to taste as close to homemade as possible. Not really possible – but we become so accustomed to it that we now try to make the homemade version taste like commercial. How backwards is that? The homemade version is all about natural flavours and ingredients. Super easy, and tastes so much better than commercial if FRESH tasting is important to you.

1 c. *Tomato Powder
3 1/2 c. water
1/3 c. honey or sugar – your choice
1/2 c. Cider Vinegar
2 tbsp. THRIVE freeze dried Chopped Onions
1 tsp. salt
1/2 tsp. garlic Powder
1/2 tsp. black Pepper
1/2 tsp. dry Mustard
1/8 tsp. ground Allspice

directions:
In a medium sized pot combine all the ingredients. Stir to mix and bring to a boil, continuing to stir frequently.
Reduce heat and gently simmer, stirring frequently till ketchup reaches the perfect consistency for you. Expect that to be about 45 minutes – depending on thickness desired. Pour into glass jar and refrigerate. , continuing to stir frequently.
Reduce heat and gently simmer, stirring frequently till ketchup reaches the perfect consistency for you. Expect that to be about 45 minutes – depending on thickness desired. Pour into glass jar and refrigerate. Mine yielded 2 pint jars. Best to let it sit for a day to allow flavours to fully blend. STORE 2 – 3 weeks in the fridge.
Use as you would normally use regular ketchup.

PLUM SAUCE
1 1/2 pounds fresh plums, pitted and chopped
1/3 cup apple cider vinegar
1/3 cup brown sugar
2 T soy sauce
2 cloves garlic minced
1-2 T grated fresh ginger or 1-2 teaspoons ginger powder
1/2 t red pepper flakes (optional)
Put all together in medium sauce pan, bring to boil over medium heat. Reduce heat to low and simmer 25 minutes till sauce is thickened slightly. Puree if desired (I don’t. I prefer the chunky texture but I know some like it smooth)
Store: without canning, it will be good in your fridge for about a week.
I highly recommend multiplying the amount if you have a good source of plums, and canning in pint jars. Process 15 minutes in a hot water bath for pints.
Once canned, label and date the jars; Store for about a year.

CHEESY BUFFALO CHICKEN DIP
I could never figure out what made hot chicken wings “buffalo chicken wings”. Didn’t make any sense. I kept thinking there’s gotta be a good reason, but in the end, it’s stupidly simple. The hot sauce  gets its name from it’s origin: the Anchor Bar in, you guessed it – Buffalo, New York. So why don’t they call it Anchor Sauce? Who knows?
2 cups shredded cooked chicken (I use Freeze Dried chopped chicken refreshed)
3/4 cup of your favourite hot sauce
2 – 8 oz packages of cream cheese, cubed
1 cup ranch dressing (I use 1 cup Thrive Life Sour Cream powder with 1/2 cup water)
1 1/2 cup shredded cheddar (I use the same amount of Freeze Dried Cheddar refreshed)

Skillet method: In large skillet over medium heat, pour hot sauce and add chicken. Stir to coat evenly and heat through. Add cream cheese cubes and ranch dressing. Cook to melt cheese, stirring occasionally. Lower heat and cook till hot and bubbly.
Slow cooker method: Add all the ingredients into slow cooker set on medium. Stir occasionally to keep from scorching until all is blended, cheese is melted and sauce is hot and bubbly – aprox 45 minutes.
Serve with a loaf of crusty sour dough bread or fresh vegetable wedges.
Can Store in fridge for a week.

SPINACH DIP
Personally, I choose NOT to add any seasoning to this dip because I don’t want it to over power the subtle taste of spinach (which I love). But you do you. If you have a favourite seasoning, then go ahead and use it.
2 – 8 oz packages of cream cheese
1 cup sour cream (I use 1 cup Thrive Life sour cream powder + 1/3 cup water)
1 cup mayonnaise
optional – 1/2 cup freeze dried chopped onions (you won’t see the onions but you’ll get their wonderful taste) OR 2-4 chopped green onions
lots of Spinach slight steamed and wilted, then chopped and strained (make sure you get all the liquid out of it). I used Freeze Dried Spinach straight from the can. A LOT easier and more nutritious than store bought spinach.

Blend the cream cheese with hand mixer till smooth and creamy. Add sour cream continuing to blend till completely mixed. Add mayonnaise, mixing the whole time till completely combined and smooth.
I add spinach a cup at a time, mixing with a spoon. The steamed chopped spinach will be wet of course, the freeze dried spinach (my preference by far) will be dry. I add as much spinach as I can, judging by texture, colour and personal preference. I don’t want it to get too dry, but if I’ve added too much FD spinach, I simply add a little water to moisten.
Can Store in fridge for a week.

PEANUT SAUCE (for Spring Rolls)
2/3 cup peanut butter
1/4 cup T rice vinegar
1/4 cup soy sauce
1/4 cup liquid honey
2 T sesame oil
4 cloves garlic minced
1/4 – 1/3 cup water (start with 1/4 cup and add a little more if needed
Whisk together to make creamy but dip-able sauce.
Can Store in fridge for a week.

*I use this sauce to pour over or as a dip for Spring Rolls, but the truth is – I could eat it by the spoon its so good. I may have done that from time to time.
Spring rolls can seem intimidating, but you’ll get the hang of it quickly and be a pro in no time. It’s kinda like folding a burrito but tighter. The first few won’t be perfect, but don’t stress out – you’re just gonna eat ’em anyway.
*BONUS – Spring Roll recipe
filling: thin rice noodles, finely shredded: lettuce, cabbage, carrot; long thin cucumber wedges; chopped green onions, fresh cilantro and fresh mint. Small amount of sesame oil and little bit of salt.
Cook noodles in boiling water for 2-3 minutes. Test. DON’T over-cook. Drain and rinse immediately in cold water. Drain again. OR soak them in warm water (not cold, not hot) for 10-15 minutes till softened. Drain and rinse in cold water. Drain again. Toss 2 T sesame oil over top and 1 t. salt to keep from sticking together. Set aside.
*hint: have everything ready to go so that you can focus on the rice paper and folding.
wrapper: Rice Paper Sheets
building the rolls
1- lay a round rice paper sheet one at a time in a pie plate of cool water – 10-20 seconds till pliable. Lay on a clean tea towel and place a few pieces of lettuce about one-third from the bottom of the wrapper. You want to leave a couple inches open on the two sides for wrapping.
2 – Add remaining ingredients in whatever order you prefer, but I like to do – lettuce, cabbage, carrots, green onions, topped with a couple wedges of cucumber and then sprinkled with the chopped herbs . Leave the top third of the wrapper open for wrapping.
3 – Gently pull the bottom of the wrapper up and over the filling. Try to keep the filling as tight as you can as you roll upwards, until the filling is enveloped. Pull the sides over to enclose the filling completely. Continue rolling till fully wrapped.
The more you do, the tighter they’ll get. You may have to eat the first one to get rid of the evidence of it.

Salsas and PESTOS

MANGO CUCUMBER SALSA with LIME
2 cups Thrive Life freeze dried mangoes OR fresh mango diced
2 cups Thrive Life freeze dried cucumbers OR fresh cucumber diced
1 cup Thrive Life freeze dried red bell peppers OR fresh pepper diced
1/4 cup Thrive Life freeze dried chopped onions OR 1/2 medium red onion diced finely
1/4 cup vegetable oil
1/2 cup water if using freeze dried OR 1/4 cup water if using fresh
1 T Thrive Life Limeade powder OR juice of one lime (don’t be afraid to add more LIME)
1 1/2 T Thrive Life honey crystals OR 2 T honey
1/2 c chopped fresh cilantro

Combine all produce. Prepare dressing on the side and drizzle over top. Let sit for a few minute before serving.
When you’re using freeze dried ingredients you can prepare this ahead in a jar, all except for the liquids. When you’re ready, just pour into a bowl, add water and oil, stir to combine and presto! You’re done. You’ll have to forego the fresh cilantro, or add it later.
This is wonderful for me because I can have ‘fresher-than-fresh’ mango salsa any time it appeals to me.

recipe link
Mix can Store in a sealed jar for 6 months to a year. Prepared, it can Store in fridge for a week

FRESH RHUBARB SUMMER SALSA
click link for recipe
I call this ‘summer salsa’ because of the many other ingredients that are plentiful in a summer garden, but not so plentiful in the spring as early as rhubarb is ready. This combination is terrific, delicious all by itself. Who said rhubarb has to be sweet? When you use it as a vegetable, you’re a little more willing to use less sugar. Only 1 tablespoon of brown sugar with over 8 cups vegetables.

FRESH RHUBARB CHUTNEY
click link for recipe
I love the sweet spicy smell that fills the house with this gorgeous spiced rhubarb chutney. So delicious, you can eat it straight. Personally I wouldn’t can it, simply because I’d prefer not to cook it that long, but you can always freeze the fresh rhubarb so that you can make this a few times in the off season. So quick and easy, and the bonus is that your house will smell GREAT! Lovely served over pork roast, beef or chicken – or wherever you use chutney.

PESTO
I am a huge fan of PESTO – in fact, many PESTOS. I grow a lotta Basil for the sake of Pesto, but don’t limit yourself to just basil. You can use many different green herbs, or a combination of some of them. A whole new world of pesto awaits. I have a few different Pesto recipes elsewhere on this site, so instead of pasting them all here – I’m including the links.
basil pesto
oregano pesto
nasturtium pesto
radish green pesto
I hope you’ll go check them out, and even make up a batch or two in the summer when all is fresh and green.

SOMETHING SWEET

CONDENSED MILK or EVAPORATED MILK
This is the milk my mother’s generation prepared baby formula out of. My mom and all my aunts diluted it with boiled water and put it into baby bottles. It was the opinion of the time that enlightened western women did not need to breast feed anymore, as it was “quite inconvenient” and cows milk was just as good, in fact some considered it better. Evaporated milk was the first food of every child I knew – certainly myself, my siblings, and my cousins. That generation of western women was fully indoctrinated that bottle feeding and cow’s milk was better, and it took a lot of convincing to turn the tide back around. Not an easy sell. I was one of the few young moms of my peers who chose breastfeeding against the better judgement and advice of most older women I knew – including nurses on the maternity floor. My in-laws considered it quite a radical move, but they were becoming accustomed to my ‘radical’ ways and just rolled their eyes.

Nevertheless, there is a place for condensed/evaporated milk, and from a food storage perspective it can be a good resource – ie: a substitution for half and half cream in recipes. Yes, you can use ‘fresh’ milk and reduce it over heat – but you don’t need me for that. You can find a recipe for that online. However, making it from your shelf stable INSTANT Milk powder is super convenient since you already have everything on hand.
1 cup Thrive Instant Milk
1 1/4 cup water.
Blend thoroughly in blender or with whisk. Makes 12 ounces Evaporated milk. Store in the fridge for up to two weeks.

SWEETENED CONDENSED MILK (not to be confused with ‘Condensed’ milk or ‘Evaporated milk’)
An alternative to spending $4.99 – $5.99 for a 10 oz (300 ml) can of sweetened condensed milk, this takes less than 5 minutes and costs pennies.
You can even make *Dulce de Leche from it, the same way you would regular canned Sweetened Condensed Milk.

2 Tablespoons butter
1/2 cup HOT water
1 cup Thrive Instant Milk powder
1 cup white sugar
1/2 teaspoon vanilla
Put your butter in the blender and add your HOT water. Blend on low, gradually adding 1 cup white sugar and 1/2 teaspoon vanilla. Continuing beating till completely incorporated, scraping down sides as necessary. Makes 14 ounces sweetened condensed milk.
Pour into a glass jar with a lid and refrigerate till needed. Mixture will thicken a little as it cools. May be Stored for up to two weeks in the fridge.

Personally, I don’t use sweetened condensed milk a whole lot. Maybe once a year if that. But when I do, I don’t want to have to run out to buy some, and I don’t use it enough to justify having it in my food storage. But since I have the milk and sugar on hand all the time, this is my best option.

*what is Dulce de Leche?
Also called: caramelized milk or milk candy, it is a popular confection in Latin America, France, Poland and the Philippines – prepared by slow boiling an unopened can of sweetened condensed milk for 3 hours. The resulting substance is a sweet, gooey caramel coloured, spreadable, thick sauce (hence the name caramelized milk). Use as a spread in layered cake or buttery sandwich cookies, a filling for dessert crepes (topped with whipped cream to add to the calories lol), in homemade cheese cake filling, or as a topping for classic cheese cake, to sweetened home made eggnog, or in any number of sweet and delicious ways.

STRAWBERRY CREAM CHEESE DIP
for fruit, graham crackers, sugar cookies, bagel wedges or apple wedges

8 oz package cream cheese softened
2 T honey
2 T milk
2 cups freeze dried strawberries
In medium bowl, beat cream cheese, honey and milk until smooth. Add strawberries and continue to beat another minute or two – until strawberries are broken up and dip is a beautiful strawberry colour and taste. If it appears dip is getting a little dry, add another tablespoon or two of milk (one at a time to test texture).
Let sit for ten minutes to completely refresh the strawberries.
Can Store in the fridge for up to a week.

WHY MAKE YOUR OWN?

The biggest advantage of making your own mixes is that you know exactly what’s in them. It allows you to control salt, eliminate MSG and every other artificial or harmful ingredient. Consequently the storage time will be shorter, but in most cases, they’re so quick to make up – using ingredients that are common in most kitchens, that you can whip them up in minutes.

The other advantage is that I don’t have to run to the grocery store for common things we’ve become accustomed to using. Once we get over the fact that we’re also “accustomed” to store bought taste, we can replace that – and get used to – the natural homemade goodness of FRESH.

The video I promised to include about Thrive Scrambled Egg Mix (freeze dried eggs). And yes, they really are better than other ‘powdered eggs’. Much better!

Really? No, I mean REALLY? How is this possible? You can take my word for it. They taste THAT good.

*What is Tomato Powder?
Made from dehydrated tomatoes, ground into powder, tomato is exactly what it purports to be. It adds the gentle acid of tomatoes to the full bodied, concentrated flavour of a tomatoes in all your favourite dishes. You can make your own – you go girl! – or buy it from a good natural source. My favourite is from THRIVE LIFE.

ENJOY.

Cindy Suelzle

When the Power Goes Out: hacks for beginners, those with experience, and the pros (what did you learn from day 5?)

Today’s challenge (which was Day 5) started with an unexpected twist: A drunk driver struck a power line near our house, and the entire neighborhood is without power for the entire day.

We were tasked with cooking a nice meal for our family and keeping them entertained without the convenience of electricity. It was a reminder that emergencies can happen at any time, and preparedness is about adaptability and resourcefulness. The Goal was to: Practice powerless cooking techniques, using appropriate lighting, and to find meaningful ways to spend our time without the use of power.

Our tasks were to:

  1. Cook all three meals without electricity
  2. Make a NICE dinner from scratch. No opening a can of soup, eating cereal or a peanut butter sandwich. Yes, I know those are viable meals now and again, but for today, that’s a cheat. Remember, you might have water, but you don’t have hot water – that requires power for your hot water tank.
  3. How do you entertain your kids all day without their usual pattern?
  4. How do you tell time? Get up in the morning? Get your kids off to school?
  5. How do you keep your phone charged?
  6. What is your source of light all morning, afternoon and evening?
  7. Do something fun with the people who live in yourself that does not involve power. Tell me about it.
  8. Do up an inventory of your fuel storage. What kind of fuel do you have? How many days of meals could you expect to cook with the fuel you have stored?

A power outage will disrupt communications – your ability to reach out as well as your ability to be aware of what is happening around you. It will close retail businesses including grocery stores, gas stations, banks and other services. It will cause food spoilage dependent on fridges and freezers, and prevent the use of many medical devices.

How did you do?
Have you been in a situation in the last several years when power really was cut off for a period of time? If so, how did you do then? And did that help you prepare for this scenario?

What kind of items do you have in your house to assist you to
prepare a meal without electricity
have light without electricity
in the winter – have heat without electricity
What would you do about the food you currently have in your fridge? or freezer?

what to do?

1. Check whether the power outage is limited to your home. If your neighbours’ power is still on, check your own circuit breaker panel or fuse box. If the problem is not a breaker or a fuse, notify your electric supply authority. Do you have the phone number along with other emergency numbers handy?

2. If your neighbours’ power is also out, find out how far reached the outage is. Make a couple of calls to other neighbours or nearby friends. Can you access a local radio station on your phone? From your car?

3. Turn off or better yet, disconnect all tools, appliances and electronic equipment, and turn the thermostat down to a minimum to prevent damage from a power surge when power is restored. Also, power can be restored more easily when there is not a heavy load on the electrical system.

4. Turn off all lights, except one inside and one outside, so that both you and hydro crews outside know that power has been restored.

5. Don’t open your freezer or fridge unless it is absolutely necessary. A full freezer will keep food frozen for 24 to 36 hours if the door remains closed.

6. NEVER use charcoal or gas barbecues, camping heating equipment, or home generators indoors. They give off carbon monoxide. Just because you can’t smell or see it doesn’t mean its not there. Carbon monoxide can cause health problems and is life-threatening.

7. Never leave lit candles unattended and keep out of reach of children. Always extinguish candles before going to bed. Always have proper candle holders.

8. Assuming you planned ahead, and have a battery-powered or crank radio, listen for information on the outage and advice from authorities.

9. Make sure your home has a working carbon monoxide detector. If it is hard-wired to the house’s electrical supply, ensure it has a battery-powered back-up.

10. Protect sensitive electrical appliances such as TVs, computer, and DVD players with a surge-protecting power bar.

Thinking ahead: BEFORE a power outage, make sure you have these basic items on hand

– a flashlight or two
– batteries
– candles and/or kerosene lamps with extra kerosene
– battery powered or windup radio
– fully charged phone with fully charged power banks
– water and non-perishable food
– an analog clock (battery powered or wind up)
– a means of cooking if power is out for very long
– consider your dependence on the fridge and freezer. Do you have easy to eat food in your pantry, not just the fridge?
In my world, if the power goes out in the winter, there must be another source of heat, or you need to get outta there. Have a plan. In different climates, I assume you’ve gotta come up with a way to get out of the heat

let’s talk about light

In my world in the summer, its light till very late, so a light source isn’t as important, but in the winter it will be dark from 5 PM to 6 or 7 AM. That means that a light source is critical.

In our case, we have flashlights that we use in the trailer, but rarely in the home. We prefer kerosene lamps as they light up a room for hours. We have small inexpensive flashlights in the house that come in handy when the kids want to sleep in the tree house in the summer, or if we need to check on something outside, or if (heaven forbid) the power goes out and we need to see the lamps to light them. They’re always on a shelf by the back door, where the matches and the barbeque lighter are.

For the most part, its gonna be lamps for us.
The first house we bought in our early years of marriage was an old one. Very old. Older than my dad (which at the time seemed exceptionally old). It had only one electrical outlet in the kitchen (other than for the fridge), so electrical kitchen appliances weren’t an option for me. And for some reason, nothing to do with our house – but a lot to do with our small little town, our power went out frequently. Having a gas stove was super handy – we just had to light it with a match. And we came to rely on kerosene lamps, which we had in every room. Those were good lessons for us, and it created a bonding relationship with lamps.

The thing I like most of all about having kerosene lamps is that they are hidden in plain sight so we never have to go looking for them. These two are in our living room, and there is a third one in the same room but out of this picture. It’s an easy thing to light them and set them when needed, and there is spare oil on hand.

We have other lamps in the kitchen/dining area, in the family room, in the hallway and in the master bedroom. Each have their resting place on a shelf or table and are part of the decor so never really stand out. We also have assorted candles with holders, and a few 24 hour lamps.

let’s talk about entertainment

One can see why our pioneer ancestors retired early for the night, keeping the house lit and warm for long hours at night is not practical. So we can assume that with no electricity, we’ll be going to bed much sooner. Our prior sources of entertainment will now become emergency only resources. But still – what do you do from 5:00 till bedtime?

Actually, as inconvenient as it sounds, it also sound like heaven to me. No distractions. Time to bond with those you share a living space with. Back in the day, when we were without power from time to time, our kids were toddlers. I recall sitting together under a blanket in the living room and reading aloud by the light of a lamp. I recall having Dan’s mom and brother and sister over on a Christmas Eve, playing cards at the table by the light of a lamp. These are pleasant memories.

Young children? Have some quiet table games on hand to play with a single light source, or read a book together.
Older children? Same things, just different games and different book.
Adults? Same things. Life just got simpler.

How are you going to tell time? We’re so dependent on our phones, computers and other devices for telling time that many kids cannot even read an analog clock. Not a good idea. You should have a battery or wind up analog clock that you can depend on for accurate time.

Follow the examples of people of yesteryears when it came to heat and light. Sleeping when its dark saves on fuel. Plain and simple. Learn how to conserve.

lets talk about heat

This is very important in the world I live in. And ensuring your heat source is properly vented is a matter of life and death. Carbon Monoxide is still a killer; a silent, odourless, invisible killer. It has no conscience and no preference – it will kill indiscriminately.
We had a very close call with Carbon Monoxide when we lived in that old house. Click HERE to read about it. Suffice it to say that our respect for this silent killer is high. So what are you going to do? What is your plan for heat?

For us, we settled on a wood stove. The advantages are maximum heating potential with minimum heat loss compared to a fireplace. We chose one that had a flat surface suitable for cooking, should we need that in the winter time. We had it professionally installed to eliminate or reduce our chance of inadequate exhausting (back to that carbon monoxide problem). A few Novembers ago, we came home one late Saturday night to a very cold house. We weren’t alerted because it was late and we went straight to bed, but by morning it became evident we had a problem. Our furnace was not working and we guessed it had quit some time the previous day. The first thing we did Sunday morning was light the woodstove downstairs. Our plan had previously been to close off the upstairs if needed and live primarily downstairs with the heat source, but we were surprised at how sufficiently that wood stove heated the whole house. It’s possible had we been in January or February, pulling off some of the brutal temperatures that can happen in our area, that we may very well have had to close off the upstairs as planned. As it happened, we needed a part for our furnace that had to be ordered, and we were without it till Tuesday early evening. That was a tremendous test-case scenario. One never really knows how effective your heat source is going to be, so best to come up with a few options about implementing it.

Evacuation is more likely going to happen during winter months, when plummeting temperatures can make a house uninhabitable. Although a house may be damaged by freezing temperatures, the major threat is to the plumbing system. If a standby heating system is used, check to ensure that pipes are warmed sufficiently.

If the house must be evacuated in cold temperatures, you can protect it by taking the following precautions:

1. Turn off the main breaker or switch of the circuit-breaker panel or power-supply box.
2. Turn off the water main where it enters the house.
3. Drain the water from your pipes. Starting at the top of the house, open all taps, and flush toilets several times. Go to the basement and open the drain valve. Drain your hot water tank by attaching a hose to the tank drain valve and running it to the basement floor drain. *Note: If you drain a gas-fired water tank, the pilot light should be turned out – call the local gas supplier to re-light it.
4. Unhook washing machine hoses and drain.
5. Do not worry about small amounts of water trapped in horizontal pipes. Add a small amount of alcohol or anti­freeze to water left in the toilet bowl, and the sink and bathtub traps.
6. If your house is protected from groundwater by a sump pump, clear valuables from the basement floor in case of flooding.

lets talk about cooking

#1 – keep your fridge and freezers closed as much as possible. Every time you open them, you lose time that they will be able to stay cold. If we’re only talking about a few hours or a day or two, it’s relatively easy to deal with, but if it goes on for days, you’re going to have a big problem keeping your freezer frozen. Yes, there are some with a generator, and if you’ve got one, then awesome. We don’t.

You’ll want to use up your perishable food in the fridge right outta the gate. At least you know what you’ll be eating that first day. Does it need cooking? If so, what’s your plan?

In our case, if its in the summer time – its the barbeque outside. In the dead of winter, while the woodstove is burning all day, we’ll use the stove top. In the in between times, it will be a little more challenging because we won’t want the heat of the woodstove in the house. It may be that the best we can do with the barbeque OUTSIDE is to heat water. In that case, you’d be glad to have some freeze dried meals on hand. All they require is water to ‘refresh’, not even hot – although hot is soothing and a lot more pleasant. I highly recommend getting some to have on hand for just such an emergency. With a 20 year shelf life, you don’t have to worry about them timing out on you anytime soon.

Having said that however, it is a very good idea to be familiar with the meals ahead of time by sampling them. Also, they are great resources to have when you need a quick meal on a busy night. Hot water + 10 minutes is all they take. They’re also perfect for camping, hiking or in your 72 hour kits.

BEGINNER level – starting from scratch!

7 tips for Beginners

  1. Buy a good flashlight or alternative light sources. Make sure you have spare batteries or extra oil. Matches and/or lighters are a must.
  2. Buy some nourishing good quality meals that just need water. Hot water makes hot meals, but we can live without HOT for a few days if necessary.
  3. Be prepared to not rely on your fridge for everything. Consider using “instant milk” from time to time so you can make it up in small amounts when needed, rather than having a large container of milk in your fridge.
  4. Think about how will you spend your evening hours without electricity. You need more than light. You need something to DO. What will you do for a couple hours every evening?
  5. Do you have a power bank to recharge your phone? Is it fully charged? Do you know where it is?
  6. Do you have a non-electric clock? If not, get one.
  7. Have a PLAN for “in-case-of”. What will you do if the power is expected to be out for more than two days? Depending on what your living circumstances are: apartment? townhouse? single family house? your plan will be unique to you. Will you have to leave your home? Where will you go?

INTERMEDIATE level – incorporate the basics and begin filling in the blanks

5 Tips for Intermediates

  1. Plan to have some Instant Meals in your pantry for quick nourishing ‘just-add-water’ breakfasts, lunches and dinners.
  2. Plan ahead to prepare a good variety of Meals in a Jar (MIJ) to have on hand in your pantry for nourishing meals that take minimum time to cook.
  3. What is your planned light source? Flashlight: Buy a good one or two or three. Coal oil lamps: Buy a good one or two or three.
  4. Create a plan to acquire a non electric source of heat.
  5. Learn how to turn your water off so that you can do it if needed.
  6. Do you have a battery or wind-up radio? Get one.

ADVANCED level

Tips for those who are more Advanced

If you have a generator, be SMART and implement these basic safety rules. They very well could save your lives.
– Yes they are helpful when the power goes out, but generators go hand in hand with carbon monoxide. They should always be used OUTDOORS and at least 20 feet away from windows, doors and attached garages. Don’t cut corners here.
Install working carbon monoxide detectors on every level of your home. 
– Keep the generator dry and protected from rain or flooding. Touching a wet generator or devices connected to one can cause electrical shock.
– Always connect the generator to appliances with heavy-duty extension cords.
– Let the generator cool before refueling. Fuel spilled on hot engine parts can ignite.
– Follow manufacturer’s instructions carefully.

Preparedness is a Journey, and the journey is always more pleasant when you have a good support system. As always, I highly recommend you find a friend to share this journey with. Help each other, Encourage each other, Share resources and great finds with each other. Find classes that are offered in your community, designed to assist you in your preparedness – take them together if possible. Teach each other.

Find groups on social media that are dedicated to preparedness and helping one another. JOIN THEM. Especially if they’re local.

I’d love to hear where you are on your Water Storage Journey and I want to hear your tips. We learn so much better when we’re sharing. Mark your calendar for the 2nd week in January. Join the Challenge. Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/676439330803075/
If you’re not on facebook, but would like to join the next challenge, let me know. I’ll send you the daily test alert in an email.

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

getting to know you – relationship 201

over 100 questions to review with your sweetheart before you go any further

When my parents got married, they hardly knew each other. My dad had been serving in the Navy during the Korean Conflict, and my mom was a young teenager on the Canadian prairies. Her dad had recently died and she’d quit school to earn some cash to help out at home. In 1953 my dad was stationed on Vancouver Island. He took a leave and traveled by bus to southern Alberta to marry my mom. They hadn’t seen each other in nearly three years; she was not quite 18 years old. The night before the wedding they had a terrible fight – raising their voices. SHE hurled out “I don’t want to marry you!” HE surprised her by adding “I don’t want to marry you either.” That sobered them both up and they asked “What are we gonna do?” SHE said “I don’t know. But if we don’t get married, Mom will kill me. She’s been cooking all day.” . . . . . now this is a good moment to pause and reflect. Gramma was a widow with 8 children, struggling to make ends meet. My parents – being kids, decided that under the circumstances, their best option was to get married. Within 48 hours, they had all her worldly possessions packed into two suitcases, and were on a bus headed for the coast. Predictably, their life was not an easy one, they had little common ground. But they struggled their way through it.

Many years later, when I wasn’t much older than my mother had been, Dan and I lived in different cities during our courtship. Consequently we spent many hours on the highway driving from one place to the other. I lived in Cold Lake on the Military base finishing high school, Dan lived in Edmonton – a four hour drive. During those long drives (mostly in the winter and mostly in the dark), radio had poor reception the further north we drove, so we filled the time by talking. We shared opinions, philosophies and perspectives, as well as histories, traditions and dreams. We got to know each other. Touching just about every subject we could think of, we learned things about ourselves and each other, found common ground, made compromises, established boundaries, and agreed to agree on many things. I shared my fledgling testimony of the gospel.

Flashing forward a handful of years, we discovered that the things we understood better because of those long uninterrupted conversations set the groundwork for many little successes in our relationship. We had shared feelings about things that were important to us at the time, and made commitments of mutual respect to honour those feelings. We had sorted out some differences that likely would have been divisive later on.

We made a series of very important commitments to each other that sustained us for the decades that followed. We could not have guessed at how important or long lasting and strengthening those discussions would become. One thing we agreed on in those early years – long before any children came our way, was to never argue in front of our children. We agreed to never raise our voices at each other, never swear at each other, belittle or speak poorly of each other, never undermine the other – and above all, to maintain a “united front” of solidarity and mutual respect in front of our children. We understood that we wouldn’t always see eye to eye, but we agreed to take care of those issues privately until we did.

We had discussed family traditions, those we grew up with, those we observed outside our families, and those we wanted to establish in our future home. There were many things we couldn’t have anticipated, but in retrospect I am surprised at how many we did anticipate or accidentally hit on. I’ve always been glad we had that time – undisturbed by default, devoted to learning about each other as individuals, and US as a future family. It helped. It truly helped. Marriage is difficult enough – the merging of personalities, priorities, different backgrounds, expectations, feelings of right and wrong, and unique understanding of the world we live in. Difficult enough without adding powerful differences like our personal relationships with, and how we felt about God. We talked about that too; my feelings were much stronger. I had seen opposing examples of family life with God and without God, and my decision to establish a house with God had been cemented. Dan didn’t share that conviction but he respected it. It was almost enough.

As our kids grew up and began courting themselves, it became clear to me that they didn’t take the time to discuss the things I felt strongly that they needed to. They didn’t have those undisturbed hours on the highway without music or talk radio. I began to worry that they wouldn’t enjoy the unplanned but much appreciated benefit of those discussions that had served Dan and I so well. I decided to write down some of the questions that came to mind – the ones that stayed with me and that I was most grateful we had gone through. There will always be things one discovers later, things you wish you had talked about, ‘surprises’, but hopefully – with learned communication skills and a greater appreciation of the inner workings – they can be handled better.

The list of questions in this article is intended to be the beginning of ongoing dialogue between couples who are seriously dating and moving toward marriage.  Ultimately, its purpose is to increase understanding and mutual respect between both and to prevent bringing unnecessary baggage to the marriage alter. 
Please go through them together, and in order as they are designed to progress – one section upon the other, from Temporal issues to Spiritual issues.  Take your time, don’t rush through them.
I suggest dedicating a whole week to each question. I also suggest you add your own questions as they come to mind.

You may discover one or two questions are repeated – this is not an accident.  It is intended that the question be considered from a different perspective.  Perhaps in your discussions, you might realize you have new insight. Perhaps in your discussions, you may find that your differences are irreconcilable. That will be very sad, but much better before the wedding than after. It happened twice in our family. It was sad to watch our kids’ broken hearts – but far better than marrying with those differences.

Temporal

  1. FINANCES
    Money, and the use/misuse of it, is unavoidably part of our everyday lives and is one of the biggest causes for contention, arguments, and divorce.

? What is my/your/our – commitment toward TITHING?  What is my / your testimony regarding this important commandment?  What do I pay tithing based on – the gross or the net?  How do I determine that?  How strict am I in my obedience?  We know that tithing is a principle with a promise.  What promise?  What blessings do I expect in return for my obedience?  Is it wrong to expect a blessing when I am obedient to the principle upon which it is founded?

– Who will handle the day-to-day finances?
– What are our long term financial goals?
– What sacrifices are we prepared to make to reach those goals?
– What are our financial goals for the next year? For the next five years?                         
– What kind of a budget will we set up? What kind of commitment will we have to it?
– How will we pay for dentist bills? Eye glasses? Prescriptions? Car repairs? Emergency purchases like a new furnace? New fridge?
– How will we make large purchases?
– The strong counsel of the church has always been to stay out of unnecessary debt. What would constitute unnecessary debt? What is debt justified for?
– How do I personally / you personally / we – feel about debt? What commitment do we have to adhering to the counsel of prophets on this important subject?
– What purchases would we consider going into debt for?
– Credit cards are a valuable tool in our world. They are also the vehicle for a terrible form of bondage. In what ways is this true? What is my commitment toward the use of credit cards? What am I willing to do without in order to keep that commitment?
– How will we fit gifts into our budget? For each other? For others? How will we plan to pay for Christmas?
– What is normal in my family / your family – regarding gift giving? What is tradition? What do I / you want to continue? What adjustments are we willing to make in order to be unified in this area?
– Regarding gifts, does equal mean ‘the same’ / identical? Do we need to provide the ‘same’ way in order to provide equally? Do we need to spend the ‘same’ in all things in order to be equal? Do our individual needs, need to be ‘the same’ in order to be of equal importance?
– Keeping in mind that we come from two entirely different backgrounds, what is important to one family, may not be important (or even meaningful) to the other. If one family has never done something before, and has no expectation of it, how necessary is it to begin doing it, simply to keep things ‘equal’ between our two families?
– What examples can we think of that this might apply to? What can we do to avoid this being a contentious issue? What changes or compromises do I/you/we feel are important to make so that we bring the best of both our upbringings to this area, and so that we are both comfortable?
– What things, or in what areas do I/you personally consider important enough to spend money that may not be an area others would consider important? What do I/you consider unimportant? What do I/you consider a waste of money? What would I/you really have a problem justifying spending money on?
– What do I consider fair in the way of financial accountability to each other, and what do I consider over the top and being too controlling or too controlled?
– There is a big difference between the financial struggle that accompanies shared goals, effort, sacrifice and growth, and when that ‘struggle’ morphs into feelings of helplessness and even despair.   Although uncomfortable, struggle and growth are healthy and good.   But there is no peace in debt.  Living beyond our means soon enough causes distress.  Financial distress causes despair.  
– In what ways is despair different than struggle? How will we be able to tell the difference?
– What will we do if somehow, we have allowed ourselves to get into a financial situation that causes despair?   What measures will we take to rescue ourselves? How will we stay united in this effort?
– What commitment do we make to stand on our own two feet as a new family? 
– At what point do we go to our families and ask for help? How do we avoid or prevent ourselves from asking for help too frequently and expecting someone else to repeatedly rescue us from poor choices we’ve made? 
– Who will we feel comfortable asking for help?  When do we ask for help?  And what arrangements do we make to repay that help?  
– How important is it to share our good fortune with others? What obligation should we feel toward being charitable? What does charity mean to me/you?  Is giving without sacrifice really charity?   What sacrifices are we willing to make to help another in need?             

2. CAREER
You don’t have to choose career over marriage or marriage over career. You really should have both – and you can have both. TALK. And figure those details out together as you mutually move toward your goals.

– What are his or her long range career goals?      
– Where does he or she realistically expect to be in one year? Five years? Ten years?
– What effort will be required to achieve these goals?
– What sacrifices are we prepared to make to accomplish these goals?
– What skill will we have acquired sufficiently and have enough experience in, to fall back on if or when an additional wage is needed?
– What are we willing to do to ensure that she or he has an additional marketable skill?
– Will she work after children come into the family?
– What are our feelings in this area?  What are our family backgrounds in this area?  What are our personal priorities?  How has my/your attitude and commitment been influenced by the experiences and priorities we grew up with?
– How important is it to me that our children have a mom home fulltime?  How important is it to you?
– The Proclamation on the Family states: “By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.”
– How important is it to us that we are in line with this or any other prophetic counsel?
– What adjustments in our attitudes and perspectives do we need to make to be reconciled with this prophetic counsel?
– What are we willing to sacrifice to achieve this?

3. HOUSEHOLD CHORES

* No matter how much we’d like to avoid them, they’re part of our life. While it is important to have spousal roles established, it is equally important to be flexible.

For instance: in our marriage, the house has always been Mom’s responsibility although Dad was quick to help whenever it was needed.  Providing financially has always been Dad’s responsibility, but Mom has always done whatever possible to help ease the burden, and for awhile became the major breadwinner.
Cars and yard work have always been Dad’s domain, while gardening has always been Mom’s, although both have chipped in when needed. Dad does the heavy work, Mom does the ‘fiddley’ work. Dad enjoys barbequing, Mom enjoys indoors cooking. Dad wants meat so he, for the most part cooks it, otherwise we would be eating much less of it.  Those were our established ‘roles’, that we ourselves chose and were comfortable with.  At times however, necessity demanded that we adjust – sometimes dramatically for a time.  It was an ‘adjustment’, sometimes even a painful adjustment, but not a reversal of roles. When the need abated, former rolls fell back into place.  – Cindy Suelzle

– What are your priorities in the area of roles and expectations?
– The Proclamation on the Family states: “In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.”
– How will the chores be divided up? How will they differ or adjust when ‘she’ quits work to nurture children?  Or continues working? 
– Who will take responsibility for what area?
– What are our role definitions?
– What are our role expectations?
– What skills do I need to acquire or improve upon to be a better wife/mother/nurturer?
– What skills do I need to acquire or improve upon to be a better husband/father/provider?
– What am I willing to do to learn better skills, and what am I prepared to do to help YOU learn and grow in your responsibilities?

4. FOOD, NUTRITION and HEALTH

There’s a connection. Undeniably.

– What do we consider important here?
– What foods are “comfort foods” to me?  or my personal or traditional favorites?   Do I have an opinion on the ‘type’ of foods we eat as a family?
– Am I willing to have new food experiences?
– What foods do I have a strong dislike to?  How will we compromise here?
– Review Section 89 of the D&C.
– How do we interpret this section? What are our insights? To what extent are we willing to follow the noncompulsory parts of its direction?
– What kind of responsibility do I feel toward proper nutrition?  
– What are my standards on the “quality” of the food we buy or grow?

– How will we deal with minor illnesses in our family?
– What kinds of medication do I consider appropriate?
– How will we deal with major illnesses?

5. FAMILY PREPAREDNESS and FOOD STORAGE

When we were newly married, we decided on some basic things which we thought were important to acquire for our independence and self reliance. ie: a few flashlights, coal oil lanterns with extra wicks and sufficient oil for many days use, wheat grinder, food dehydrator, canner, sufficient jars for home canning, juicer, battery operated radio etc.  Money was always an issue. We used birthdays and Christmases and any other opportunity to acquire them for each other or to put on our wish lists if anyone else was interested. ”
– Cindy

– What are our priorities in the area of Family Preparedness and Emergency Preparedness? – What is the difference?  
– What are our goals?  What are we prepared to do to meet these goals?
– Read David A. Bednar’s talk WE WILL PROVE THEM HEREWITH

There is strong counsel to STORE WHAT YOU EAT, AND EAT WHAT YOU STORE.  To store food you don’t normally eat, doesn’t make any sense at all.  But to not eat what you’ve got stored so that it is constantly be rotated, also doesn’t make sense, and leads to waste. 

– What are our individual opinions on the counsel to store food
– How do we feel about that counsel and what is my/your/our commitment to it? 
– How does that counsel fit into what we see going on in the world around us? 
– How much of our family budget are we prepared to spend building up and then maintaining our year’s supply of food and other necessities?
– How will we obey the prophet’s counsel to plant a garden in whatever living situation we find ourselves?  Remember that we receive no commandment without the Lord providing a way for us to accomplish that thing. (1N3:7)

6. ENTERTAINMENT and GIFTS

“When there is a good movie in town, consider going to the theater as a family. Your very patronage will give encouragement to those who wish to produce this type of entertainment, and use that most remarkable of all tools of communication, television, to enrich their lives. There is so much that is good, but it requires selectivity. Let those who are responsible for any efforts to put suitable family entertainment on television know of your appreciation for that which is good and also of your displeasure with that which is bad. In large measure, we get what we ask for.” 
“…if there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report, or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.” (A/F 13)
– Gordon B. Hinckley

– How will we honour ‘date night’?
– Do we like to host? What is important to me/you in hosting?
– What is my favorite type of entertainment?
– What type of entertainment would I consider as a regular form of entertainment?
– On a monthly basis?
– On a once in awhile basis?
– On a seasonal/yearly/anniversary celebration basis?
– How much money would I consider fair and reasonable to budget/spend on these forms of entertainment?

– Some couples do not give gifts to each other.  Some consider it very important.  How do I feel about it?  
– How do YOU feel about it? If our opinions differ, what will we do here?
– What do I expect in the way of a birthday gift? Christmas gift? Anniversary gift?
– What would disappoint me and hurt my feelings concerning a gift from you?
– What would I absolutely love to receive from you?
– What type of gift would always be a hit with me?

7. PERSONAL STANDARDS

Personal standards are hugely important, and their variance affects every facet of our lives.  We are ruled by our own personal standards.  So what are mine?  And am I consistent with them?  Do they transition smoothly to all areas? 

“The flood of pornographic filth, the inordinate emphasis on sex and violence are not peculiar to North America. The situation is as bad in Europe and in many other areas. The whole dismal picture indicates a weakening rot seeping into the very fiber of society. Legal restraints against deviant moral behavior are eroding under legislative enactments and court opinions. This is done in the name of freedom of speech, freedom of the press, freedom of choice in so-called personal matters. But the bitter fruit of these so-called freedoms has been enslavement to debauching habits and behavior that leads only to destruction. A prophet, speaking long ago, aptly described the process when he said, “And thus the devil cheateth their souls, and leadeth them away carefully down to hell” (2 Nephi 28:21). ……. I am satisfied that there is no need to stand still and let the filth and violence overwhelm us or to run in despair. The tide, high and menacing as it is, can be turned back if enough … will add their strength to the strength of the few who are now effectively working. I believe the challenge to oppose this evil is one from which members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, as citizens, cannot shrink. …. Respect for self is the beginning of virtue in men. That man who knows that he is a child of God, created in the image of a divine Father and gifted with a potential for the exercise of great and godlike virtues, will discipline himself against the sordid, lascivious elements to which all are exposed.”
– Gordon B. Hinkley

– How do I feel about protecting my home, my family and myself from the plague of Pornography?
– What steps am I prepared to take against it?
– What about Inappropriate music? And other forms of entertainment which chase away the spirit of God?
– How do I feel about the prophet’s admonition to not watch R–rated movies, or anything like unto them?
– How important is it to me to have the spirit of the Lord in my home at all times? What am I prepared to do to make sure it is always there?
– Do I sup from the scriptures daily? And do I consider it important to study daily as a couple and family?
– How will we do this?  What commitment will we make to each other to continue?
– If circumstances interfere from time to time, what will we do to get back-on-the-wagon?
– How important is it to me to align myself with the counsel of the leaders of the church?   Of what value is this in my life?   
– How important is it to me to have a clean house?   What does this even look like to me?   What am I prepared to do to accomplish this?
– Do we have similar standards on personal hygiene/grooming? Are we compatible in this area?
– How important is it to me to keep a close relationship with my immediate family?
– What am I prepared to do to learn to appreciate and come to love YOUR family?
– If one of my siblings needs help, what obligation will I feel toward them? Will I feel the same obligation to one of your siblings?

Etiquette is a societal thing; it changes from one society to another, but wherever you live, it is very important.  It is a set of ‘norms’ of personal behaviour in polite society.  They show respect to others.  Eating at someone else’s table where you don’t understand proper etiquette can be offensive, disrespectful, intimidating and embarrassing.  Learning regional and cultural variances is easy to adjust to when you have a good foundational knowledge of some basics.  Understanding and being comfortable with good table manners will always put an individual in the advantage.  – Cindy Suelzle

– How important are table manners and table etiquette including setting a proper table to me? How will they help us be comfortable in social situations and help our kids to be comfortable eating with others as they grow older?
– What about good manners in general?

Speaking about personal respect for each other . . . .

– How will we show respect to and for each other?  
– How will we honor each other?
– How should we treat each other in public?  What things should we agree to NOT discuss with other people?  
– What guidelines could we agree on to ensure that we do not say things around other people that may hurt our sweetheart’s feelings?  
– How will we know when we have offended our sweetheart’s feelings?  And what will we do about it?
– What do I consider RUDE?   What do I consider inconsiderate or thoughtless?
How do we fix things between us?
– What do I need to feel ‘safe’ enough to discuss with you, things that are important to me? …things that are sensitive to me? …. things that are hurtful to me?  
– What can I do to help YOU feel ‘safe’ enough to discuss those things openly with me?
– We have been admonished to study “out of the best books”. What do we consider Best Books?
– How important is a “gospel library” to me?
– How important is it to me to have a good “classic library”?  
– What kind of plan should we implement to accomplish our goal?  

“You know that your children will read.  They will read books, and they will read magazines and newspapers.  Cultivate within them a taste for the best.  While they are very young, read to them the great stories which have become immortal because of the virtues they teach.  Expose them to good books.  Let there be a corner somewhere in your house, be it ever so small, where they will see at least a few books of the kind upon which great minds have been nourished. …  Let there be good magazines about the house, those which are produced by the Church and by others, which will stimulate their thoughts to ennobling concepts.  Let them read a good family newspaper that they may know what is going on in the world without being exposed to the debasing advertising and writing so widely found.”
– Gordon B. Hinckley

– How important is music to me?
– What do I consider worthy/appropriate music?  How do I feel about a music library?

“Let there be music in the home. If you have teenagers who have their own recordings, you may be prone to describe the sound as something other than music.  Let them hear something better occasionally. Expose them to it.  It will speak for itself.  More appreciation will come than you may think.  It may not be spoken, but it will be felt, and its influence will become increasingly manifest as the years pass.”
– Gordon B. Hinckley

– How important is it to me to develop a musical talent of mine?
What kind of support will I expect? 

7. TRADITIONS

– How did my family celebrate Christmas? What was my favourite part?
– What was our traditional meal?
– When did we open gifts?  What kinds of things did we get in our stockings?
– How do I feel about continuing my family’s Christmas traditions into our own family?
– How do I think we should keep Christ in our Christmas celebrations?
– What are the best parts of the ways we each celebrated Christmas in the families we grew up with?
– What could we do differently in our home that we will both be happy with?
– What traditions will I bring with me?  You with you?   Do we agree on the value of these traditions?
– How did my family celebrate Easter?  What was my favourite part?  What part do I want to continue in my own family?
– How do I feel about Halloween?
– Thanksgiving?
– Summer vacation?
– What is my favorite holiday?  And why?  How can I share my enthusiasm for this special day with you?
– What style of furniture do I like?  What can I be happy with?  What compromises am I willing to make?

Spiritual

8. TEMPLE ATTENDANCE

With temples being so close to the bulk of the membership, many couples set a goal for regular attendance.
– What is my feeling about the promise of eternal families that temples represent?
– What goal will we set for ourselves relative to attending the temple?
– And of continual temple worthiness?

9. PERSONAL or PRIVATE SPIRITUAL COMMITMENT

– What commitment will we make specifically about scripture study, individual/couple/family prayer, journal writing and family record keeping?
– How will we choose to preserve family memories? (i.e. photos, slides, videos, albums, scrapbooks etc)
– What Christ-like attribute most impressed me about you? drew me to you?  and made me want you for my companion?
– What is the thing I admire/respect most about you that I would like to emulate in my life? – How important to me are the laws, ordinances and principles of the gospel?
– How important is it to me to be align myself to them?   How important do I think it should be?   Is there even any value in obedience?
– What efforts am I willing to make in my personal desire to have a relationship with my Saviour?
– What is my feeling about regular church attendance? 
– What is my feeling toward church service?
– The counsel of the brethren is to dress as if we are wearing temple garments, even if we are not.
– How do I feel about modesty in dress and speech?  
– What commitment do I feel to dress so that I reflect church standards at all times?

Testimonies are living breathing things in need of constant nourishment. They can become weak and even sickly if they’re not taken care of. What will I do if you lose your testimony? What will you do if I lose mine?

10. CHURCH RESPONSIBILITIES

– What is my commitment level to callings and responsibilities within the Church?
– How willing am I to serve selflessly and faithfully in the Church?
– What will I do to encourage my partner in his/her ministering stewardships?
– What will I do to support and sustain my partner in his/her individual callings?

11. TITHES and OFFERINGS

– What do I regard as an honest and full tithing?
– Do we agree on what we consider Increase?
– How do I feel about fast and other offerings?
– What do I consider a generous fast offering?
– Do we agree on this?
– What about other donations such as the Perpetual Education fund or the Missionary fund? Do I believe that blessings will come into our lives as a result of our obeying the law of tithing and of contributing to other funds organized by the Church for the benefit of the charity the Church provides?
– Do I have an understanding of the principle of ‘offerings’?

12. SABBATH OBSERVANCE
– What do I consider proper Sabbath observance?
– What are some of the things we should DO on Sunday?
– What are some of the things I feel that we should NOT do in order to keep the Sabbath day separate and holy?
– What are our expectations of each other in this area?
– What would disappoint me regarding our/your Sabbath observance?

13. FAMILY HOME EVENING

“A better tomorrow begins with the training of a better generation. This places upon parents the responsibility to do a more effective work in the rearing of children. The home is the cradle of virtue, the place where character is formed and habits are established. Family home evening is the opportunity to teach the ways of the Lord.”
– Gordon B. Hinckley

– What will we do to ensure that we observe the counsel to keep Monday evenings for family when we are still just a couple? What will we do to use this opportunity to strengthen our family in the gospel?
– How will we keep it a priority?
– What commitments are we prepared to make now that would directly impact our future children regarding Family Home Evening (FHE)?

ROMANCE

14.       FRIENDSHIP

What things are important to me in our continued relationship as FRIENDS?
What are my expectations from a best friend?
What am I prepared to do to BE your best friend?
What do I consider healthy as far as other best friends in my/your life?
What freedom will I be willing to give my spouse in their pursuit of relationships with other friends?

15.       DATE NIGHT

– How committed are we to obeying the council to have regular date night? What value do we see in this practice?
– What good examples can I think of concerning regular date night observance?
– What are we prepared to do on a daily basis to keep the romance in our marriage alive?
– How will we observe special days such as our Anniversary?  Each other’s birthdays? Valentine’s Day? Etc.
(i.e. some couples celebrate their anniversary date by attending the temple to do sealings. In this way it is a continual reminder of the covenants they made and the promises they could depend on.)

If I intend to be happily married to you in 40+ years, what am I prepared to give until then to ensure it?
– How will we talk about each other in front of other people? (even if we are upset with the other)
– How will we talk to each other in front of other people?
– What precautions will we take to ensure we never undermine, belittle, ridicule, embarrass or insult our sweetheart? (in private or in front of others)
– What if we do offend the other not intending to?  
– What if they get their feelings hurt over something we considered innocent or even funny?
– How will we refer to each other?  What terms of endearment am I comfortable with?
– What will we do when we fall out of love?  (WE WILL bytheway)  
– How will we stay married, and healthy and committed to each other if one day we think that we’ve grown apart?  How will we help each other through it?
– How will we communicate to each other that we are in distress, and that something is very wrong in our relationship?
– What are we prepared to do to overcome major difficulties in our relationship?
– What do we expect from each other in the area of commitment and communication?  
to our marriage – to our children – to our own family – to Family Home Evening – to Date Night – to our extended families – to our ward – to the Church – to God – and to our community?

16.       INTIMACY and PREGNANCY

– How do I/you feel about purity before marriage?
– Can we be honest with our personal history concerning that?
– Can we deal with it?  How will we deal with it?
– Do we see the need for using a form of birth control?  If so, what form will we use?
– What will we do to make sure we are educated and properly informed about current methods of birth control?
– How important is a feeling of ‘trust’ and safety to me in regards to intimacy?
-How important do I think it is that we both feel comfortable about being open and honest in our discussions about intimacy?
– What will we do to be sure we are educated and properly informed about pregnancy and child birth?
– What will we do to ensure optimum health for Mom and baby?  How involved do we want Dad to be in the birthing?
– What if the unthinkable happens?  ….. miscarriage? What if . . . our baby dies?  How will we help each other through this hard thing?
– What if another unthinkable happens? . . . . . infidelity?  What will we do? 
– Can we see ourselves able to forgive? 
– What are our ‘non-negotiables’ in this area?

17.       PARENTING

– How many children do we want?
– Will Mom stay home to raise them?
– What is my idea of discipline?
– What are some things that I consider very important in child rearing?
– What should we as parents do to ensure that we teach by example such things as respect for womanhood? Manhood? Etiquette? Table manners? Good housekeeping? Personal cleanliness?  Personal responsibility? The law?
– What are things I consider essential to teach children?
-Where will we turn to learn parenting skills?
– How will we teach our children that the Church is true? That we love, respect and obey the prophet? And that Jesus Christ is the cornerstone of our life?
– How will I show my children that the scriptures are important to me?  And that they can come to know Jesus Christ through their own personal study of them?
– What efforts will we make to encourage our children to stay active in the Church? And to adhere to the counsel it provides?
– How will I show them the importance of education and help them to develop a love of reading?
– What are some absolute taboos concerning children in my opinion?
– What do I feel very strongly about – concerning behaviors we will encourage, those we allow and behaviors we will absolutely forbid?  Do we agree?  What should we do to ensure compliance with these behaviors?
– What if we have an unhealthy child? Perhaps a down syndrome child, or one who has a serious illness or disability?  How do we plan to be the best parents possible no matter what that looks like? 
– What did our parents do right in the parenting department, that we’d like to emulate?
– What improvements can we make over our parents’ best attempts, to continue to become the best parents our children deserve?

18.      OTHER THINGS of IMPORTANCE TO CONSIDER

– What are my priorities in the area of TIME?
– What do I consider a big waste of time? – a moderate waste of time?
– Where would I absolutely draw the line in my flexibility of my partner doing something I consider to be a waste of time, money and energy?  Or something I abhor?    
– What are my priorities in the area of money?
– It is likely that we may look at money differently. One might resent frugality. One might resent spending freely with no regard for budget. What do I consider a big waste of money? – a moderate waste of money?
– Where would I absolutely draw the line in my tolerance of my partner spending money in what I consider to be a waste of money?
– How would I like to spend the hours of an entire free day with you?
– How would I like to spend the hours of an entire free day without you?. .

These questions have been edited continually since I first drafted them for Sarah – many years ago.

You need not ‘report’ on any discussion, but I think it would be helpful to be accountable to someone that you have indeed been through each one. For my kids, I tried to give them one sheet at a time, and when they told me they were ready for another, I gave it to them.

I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to communicate, now and throughout your marriage.   Take them seriously. I once asked a friend who used these “Did you not go through those questions?”
She affirmed that they did.
“Well how did this one get missed then? It’s pretty straight forward.”
“I didn’t think it was that important. I didn’t think he was that serious about it.”

That’s not fair. Not being straight up and owning your words, not doing what you committed to do – not fair. If there are serious ‘issues’ with any of these questions, have those issues today, BEFORE you are married.   If they cannot be resolved, it is best to learn that before you go to the alter. 

Cindy Suelzle  

Food Storage hacks for beginners, those with experience, and the pros (what did you learn from day 1?)

In life there are times for flexibility and times for firm, strict adherence to hard and fast rules. I call these “non negotiables” and for me, they are NON Negotiable! When it comes to Food Storage there is plenty of opportunity for flexibility, but there are two strong rules – without which in the long run, you will FAIL, and you will waste a lotta money in doing so.

Right now would be the right time to give yourself a little ‘test’ so see just how prepared you may or may not be. Click this link for a Self Assessment Test. It is found on ProvidentLiving.com which I highly recommend as an excellent resource.

1. Store what you EAT, and eat what you STORE
2. Never, ever ever EVER buy food storage with money you don’t have.

Adhering to these basic rules – without cheating and without making excuses, will put you in a much better place in every single way. No exceptions. Learn the rules and stick to them. Everything after these two essentials is up to personal choice (after appropriate research of course).

STORE WHAT YOU EAT
Your food storage is going to be as unique to you as the way your family eats. What are your favourite dishes? your comfort foods? These are the foods you’re going to fall back on again and again, and that will bring a sense of normalcy to whatever situation you find yourselves in.

EAT WHAT YOU STORE
If you’ve purchased it, eat it. Eating from your food storage and continuing to replenish as you do, keeps it rotated – which ensures nothing gets out of date and needs to be discarded. Wasted food is wasted money.
You may have a few foundational basics in your storage like grains and beans that are not part of your regular diet. Correct this. Some foods are in your storage because they are exceptional. These are worth becoming accustomed to. Make a point to incorporate them into your menu plan on a regular basis, at least a couple of times a month. Don’t justify yourself with the excuse that “they won’t eat it“; find a way for them to get used to it, and recipes you’ll all enjoy. Be the adult here and make it work. Or don’t store it.

DON’T BUY FOOD STORAGE ON CREDIT
That is just stupid. It doesn’t matter how good of a deal you got, as soon as you pay interest on the money spent to get it, your good deal went out the window. Going into debt to buy food storage is contrary to to the essence of family preparedness, contrary to common sense and counter productive to the whole point of it which is “Food Insurance”. There is no peace in debt. Debt doesn’t sleep, doesn’t get sick, and doesn’t care if you’re unemployed or sick. It keeps accumulating interest until you have paid many times over what you initially planned to, continuing to grow until you pay it off. It is a lot harder to pay it off than it is to avoid it in the first place. Develop a FIRM RESOLVE to not spend more on food storage (or anything else), than you have.

Okay, now that we’ve established the non negotiables, where does one start? What do you buy? And how do you pay for it?

BEGINNER level – starting from scratch!

Everyone was once a Beginner, so you’re in good company.
Q: When you do start?
A: The day you take up housekeeping, and make your first grocery run as an independent adult. It doesn’t matter if you just got married, you’re living abroad, or you’re a student sharing with 5 room mates, you can have your own version of food insurance – depending on your circumstances.
In most cases, the BEST time to start a food storage was a long time ago. The second best time is TODAY. Yes there are challenges, but in case you haven’t noticed, life is full of challenges. Meet them head on and be creative. Also be determined. This is important and as an adult you should not be waiting for someone else to rescue you. Time to grow up and start ‘adulting’.

10 tips for Beginners

  1. Start small:
    In a regular shopping trip – if you normally buy 2 cans of beans – buy 4.
    If you normally buy 2 jars of tomato sauce – buy 4.
    If that item is on sale – buy 6.
    Avoid the temptation to not buy any more for a long time because you have some on hand. You’re supposed to have some on hand – its called FOOD STORAGE! Continue to buy a few more than you anticipate needing.
  2. Set manageable goals. The first goal should be to work toward a 1 month supply.
  3. Build Your Food Storage around complete MEALS. Focus on 5 favourite dishes using shelf stable foods that your family likes:
    Perhaps that might be *spaghetti, *sloppy joes on buns, *chicken broccoli casserole over rice, *corn chowder with biscuits, and *beef stroganoff.
    Think of your recipes for these comfort foods. Perhaps your spaghetti recipe calls for a half package of spaghetti noodles, two chopped onions, some garlic, a jar of tomato sauce, a can of diced tomatoes, a pound of ground beef and some seasoning.
    – Begin by multiplying your recipe by 4.
    -You need to buy 2 packages of spaghetti + a package of onions (or a small can of freeze dried onions) + 2 heads of garlic (or a jar of minced garlic, can of freeze dried garlic or garlic powder) + 4 jars of your favourite sauce + 4 cans of diced tomatoes + 4 pounds of ground beef separately packaged (or a small can of freeze dried ground beef) + and enough of your favourite seasonings. This is enough for your family to have spaghetti once a week for a month. Put it on your shopping list and watch the sales.
    Do the same for your other recipes.
    In a short amount of time, you will have an entire month’s supply of dinners.
    Once you’re done that, do the same with breakfasts and lunches.
    You’ll be surprised at how satisfying it is to realize you have reached this goal. A whole month of meals! You’re feeling the beginning of the peace that comes with Food Insurance.
  4. Set yourself a monthly budget (that is affordable but forward moving) to gradually build up your food storage. By purchasing a little here and there – you can easily keep within the budget you set yourself.
  5. Shop the sales. When you see tomato sauce or pasta on sale, buy several – perhaps enough for all four weeks. As long as you can afford it. Shopping the sales helps you stock up on the items you use.
  6. Up your game. Once you’ve completed your one month supply, use the same formula to establish a 3 month supply, incorporating new recipes. This is a living breathing goal of incremental achievements.
  7. Your FREEZER is NOT food storage. It is convenient, and a good resource, but it is 100% dependent on electricity and you have no control over that. In the event of a power outage – your freezer is good for a maximum of three days. That could result in tremendous loss! I am not saying that freezers don’t have their place – I have a freezer too. But do not keep all your eggs in one basket so-to-speak, and reduce your dependence on the freezer.
  8. Adding freeze dried options to your food storage will reduce your dependence on fresh or frozen foods. Like for instance: freeze dried chopped onions, celery and peppers, freeze dried garlic, freeze dried ground beef and powdered tomato sauce could make your spaghetti dinners easier to prepare and much more shelf stable.
  9. Rotate. Look at the ‘best before’ dates and put the oldest up front to use first. Always use the oldest items first, keeping your food storage freshly rotated.
  10. Begin incorporating freeze dried foods into your food storage to extend the shelf stability of it. There is nothing better for long term food storage. USE it so that you become acquainted with how to, and keep it rotated.

Where to put it?
For a one month supply you might be able to store the necessities in your kitchen pantry.
If you can dedicate a closet or a space under the stairs – build a few shelves to keep it organized. For more ideas, click this link.

INTERMEDIATE level – incorporate the basics and begin filling in the blanks

In this level, we’re assuming you’ve got a pretty good start on your basic family favourites. Its time for you to start adding these five Food Storage Basics.

5 FOOD STORAGE ESSENTIALS:
1. Grain – includes wheat, rice, oats, corn, barley, pasta, et . .
2. Eggs and other proteins – includes legumes (dried beans, split peas, lentils, etc.), nuts, powdered eggs, canned fish, canned chicken, . .  
3. Powdered milk or milk substitute – includes all dairy: freeze dried cheese, yogurt, sour cream
4. Oils & fats: includes vegetable oils, shortening, powdered butter 
5. Salts & Sugars: includes white sugar, brown sugar, syrup, molasses, honey, etc; table salt, sea salt, soy sauce, flavoured bouillons.

Back in the day, it was recommended we start with these five basics, but in my opinion, although they are important, one cannot construct typical meals from them. So I prefer to encourage people to begin their storage with common, preferred meals, filling in with the basics later on.

WATER
Store at least 4 litres of water per person per day. This covers the absolute basics of drinking, food preparation and minimal sanitation. Store double that to allow for conservative dishwashing, sponge bathing, minimal laundry and household cleaning.

Many safe containers are food grade and sturdy. Bleach containers and existing water jugs are excellent choices. Buying food grade 5 gallon containers is a good investment. Milk jugs are not strong enough nor have a seal good enough for long storage. Empty laundry jugs are excellent storage containers for hygiene or laundry water, but not for drinking.

10 tips for Intermediates

  1. Ask around to find a recommended local source of good, clean wheat sold by the bushel. Buy some. If you have an allergy to wheat, you must be more creative, but don’t discount the value of grains.
  2. Add other grains to your plan like rice (*white rice has a longer shelf life than brown), oats, barley, preferred flour, pastas, etc.
  3. Use a food storage calculator to discover the recommended amount of these basics for your household. Here is the one I use.
  4. Shop the sales. I make a personal goal of never paying regular price for certain items. When they’re on sale, I stock up.
  5. Set goals of what to buy and when to achieve it. Its okay to make sacrifices to acquire your food and water storage – its important!
  6. Add MEALS. Begin adding some GOOD, recommended, prepared meals to your food storage. Make sure they are tasty and nutritious. Try them out before packing them away. You should know what to expect. Are they good tasting? Does your family have a few favourites? How easy are they to prepare? Can you prepare them with room temperature water if you don’t have any hot water? What is their shelf life? Are the serving sizes adequate for your family’s needs? If you have a large family, will your have to make up more than one package for your meal?
  7. Set yourself a monthly budget to steadily increase your food storage. Something affordable and yet something that stretches you. This is important. Do NOT spend money you don’t have.
  8. Every food storage program has one serious missing link. PRODUCE. Fruits and Vegetables – primarily vegetables. In the past we could always store home canned (or commercially canned) fruit, but who wanted to eat canned spinach or canned peas? In the last decade, freeze dried food has become increasingly more available and is the answer to long term storage of whole, clean food. Who could have imagined that one day we would have vegetables like spinach and kale, peppers and asparagus? fruits like pineapple, peaches and blackberries in our long term food storage? Delicious, highly nutritious and accessible? and meats like chopped chicken and ground beef? dairy like milk, yogurt, cheddar cheese and butter? in Food Storage? This was unimaginable when I was first married. But the time has come when all the best resources are at our finger tips!
  9. Consider adding a grain mill to your food storage essentials. Ask around to come up with a recommended brand and source. Learn how to use it and use it frequently so that you know how to use the whole grain flour it produces. If you take good care of it, it should last you for decades.
  10. Learn how to preserve. Taking advantage of harvested garden produce, as well as bargains and give aways is an excellent way to add to your food storage. But it requires learning new skills, and practice to maintain confidence in them.
    – Find some classes to register for and invite a friend. Always be willing to LEARN.
    – Acquire additional supplies to help preserve: Hot Water Bath Canner and simple canning tools.
    – Buy a good preserving book that includes hot water bath time tables. Don’t tell me you can google that information. I know. But you want to have the information IN-HAND.

ADVANCED level

This level assumes you have a good foundation of food storage and that its time to start increasing your non food essentials. It takes a lot more to get through a family’s day than simply the food we eat. We have to consider personal hygiene, sanitation to keep us safe and healthy, and basic house keeping like washing floors and laundry, as well as toileting.

10 tips for those who are more Advanced

  1. Consider taking your canning ability to the next level. Canning non-acid foods like vegetables or proteins, require a Pressure Canner. It’s quite the investment, but it opens up a whole new world of possibilities.
  2. Buy other advanced pieces of equipment: a Steam Juicer, a Fresh Juicer, a Dehydrator. Learn to use them.
  3. Begin looking at Meals in Jars (MIJ). These are MEALS prepared with freeze dried and dehydrated ingredients, layered dry in a glass jar. They are convenient for quick nutritious meals and can have an extended shelf life of several years is sealed properly.
    Though I make a lot of MIJ, I do not seal them. My interest in them is primarily for convenience, not long term shelf life. I have plenty of food in my storage with extended shelf life – my purpose for MIJ is different. They are easy to prepare, usually requiring 5 -6 cups of water and about 20 minutes. Recipes abound – just ask around or search on social media.
  4. Create a list of non-food personal hygiene necessities like: toothpaste, bar soap, shampoo and conditioner, moisturizer, deodorant, rubbing alcohol, bandages, q tips, tissue, toilet paper …… etc. Start purchasing these items by shopping the sales.
  5. Create a list of non-food sanitation necessities like laundry soap, other laundry supplies, household cleaners, cleaning cloths, paper towels, garbage bags, dish soap, Find a way to do laundry without electricity. Begin buying those items or if you already have, top them up.
  6. Never let the gas tank in your vehicles drop below 1/2.
  7. Store 3 jerry cans of gas in a spot away from your house.
  8. If you have a gas barbeque, have two additional FULL cans of propane nearby.
  9. If you haven’t started your 72 hour kit, now is the best time to do so.
  10. Buy a large, food grade water tank to store indoors, and FILL IT. As large as you can store in your circumstances.

Preparedness is a Journey, and the journey is always more pleasant when you have a good support system. I highly recommend that you find a friend to share this journey with. Help each other, Encourage each other, Share resources and great finds with each other. Take classes that are offered, designed to assist you in your preparedness – together if possible. Teach each other.

Find groups on social media that are dedicated to preparedness and helping one another. JOIN THEM. Especially if they’re local.

I’d love to hear where you are on your Food Storage Journey and your tips. We learn so much better when we’re sharing. Mark your calendar for the 2nd week in January. Join the Challenge. Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/676439330803075/
If you’re not on facebook, but would like to join the next challenge, let me know. I’ll send you the daily test alert in an email.

Warmly,

Cindy Suelzle

My personal recommendations
Milk – Thrive Life Instant milk is the best I’ve ever tasted. It has become a staple in our home. 25 year shelf life. Easy to milk up.
Eggs – Thrive Life Scrambled Egg mix is an all-natural and long-lasting dried egg product that will be a perfect addition to all your baked goods and egg dishes. Contains no preservatives. They taste fresh and natural, and whip up quickly. Shelf life 7 years.
Wondermill – Grain Mill