Have you ever lost the mate to a pair of favourite socks? Where DO they go? I am a reasonably responsible adult. I pay attention to detail. Okay probably not as well as some, but certainly better than most. I endeavour to keep my socks together when I wear them, when I put them in the laundry basket, and I believe they are still together when they go into the washing machine. So then what happens?
What happens to the ONE is one of life’s great mysteries and I have heard several theories, some more reasonable than others.
Canadian cartoonist Lynn Johnson theorized that the one missing mate somehow, during some drier-cycle-gone-wrong fluke (that just inexplicably happens sometimes), gets transported in time to some future drier. And just as we puzzle over the mysterious DISappearance of the odd mate, some future homemaker will puzzle over the mysterious APpearance of strange socks without mates. In all my research, this really is the only theory that holds any water, or that has any standing logic in my opinion.
The point is, as Joe J. Christensen established decades ago, you have a perfect match of socks in the beginning. They were prepared, even ‘created’ to be together. They have gone through the wear and tear of their useful life ‘together’. They have in effect, up to the critical time, eked out the measure of their creation together, until some inevitable, but unexpected ‘fire’, perhaps this time the heat of the drier caused more of a challenge than they had the power to overcome . . . and they became – separated. Lost. At least to each other. I mean how long does one continue to hold out hope that the missing sock be found? When does one simply cut their losses and throw the survivor out like yesterday’s garbage? It seems so heartless to punish the survivor, the one who ‘stayed behind’. But.What.Does.One.Do?
It may sound like an over simplification to propose that such a universal first world problem as missing and presumed lost socks could have a solution the kind of which I am going to present, but don’t discount it simply because its easy. What if it really could have been ‘this easy’ all this time? Nature’s best joke. Joe J. Christensen suggests – “the sock lock“. The binding tool of many successful ‘sock couples’. You use it by pinning the socks together by the toe (the strongest part) every time you put them in the laundry. I admit it sounds difficult at first, but hear me out. What if you developed the habit of doing that every time you put your socks into the laundry? It could happen. And if it did, it could solve an age old problem that has plagued generations.
Liken the ‘sock lock’ to the extra influences we are counselled to take advantage of, as binding influences in our marriages. Binding influences like PRAYER: as an individual, as a couple, as a family. Binding influences like DATE NIGHT: regular consistent meaningful dates between couples. Binding influences like COURTESY: not taking each other for granted, using good manners with each other, and giving genuine compliments. Binding influences like RESPECT: treating each other kindly no matter what, never-ever-ever-ever using bad language, raised voices, sarcasm, or rudeness when communicating with or about the other. The sock lock could be like any one of these other “binding influences”, it could be like all of them put together.
What if the problem of the missing socks was a ‘type’ – of something greater and more meaningful? What if we could actually LEARN something from socks? Sometimes great things truly do come from small things. The key to unlocking the mystery of the missing socks could actually be the key to happy marriages.
And here all this time, we thought it was about socks!
I’d love to hear some of your BINDING INFLUENCE suggestions and experiences.
Warmly,
Cindy Suelzle